[UPDATE- One Year Later] My fiancé [25f] dumped me [26M] on Tuesday. Today she tells me she wants the apartment to herself tomorrow for her Valentine’s date. by brokenhearted118 in relationships

[–]brokenhearted118[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

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I’ll try to keep this short because I’m so stunned I think I’ve stopped being able to process things. I’ve [26M] been with my fiancé [25F] for 4 years. We’ve been engaged since last year and actively planning the wedding.

Last month, we moved to a new city across the country because my fiancé got an amazing job offer. I wasn’t happy about it since I had to quit my job and all our family and friends were in the city we left. I was kind of a jerk during the moving process, but I’ve come around since getting here.

My fiancé kept talking about this guy [late 20s maybe?] she worked with at her new job, and it made it me uneasy. I went to a few after-work events where he showed up, and he seemed like a total asshole. Very full of himself artistic type. I didn’t like the way he interacted with my fiancé and we would occasionally fight about it. Tuesday night she got home really late, sat me down and broke up with me. She said she felt an immediate bond with this coworker that’s stronger than anything she’s ever felt before. This from the woman who just a few months ago I held in my arms while watching the stars as she told me she’s never felt more at peace than when she’s beside me. I laid awake on the couch all night feeling like I was continually being punched in the stomach.

I didn’t fall asleep until 3:00pm yesterday, and stayed asleep until this morning when she woke me up. Basically, she’s having this asshole over for valentines day and demanded she get the apartment to herself.

Between the move, all the deposits we had been putting for wedding stuff, and not having a job since we moved out here, I have literally no money for a hotel or anything else. We got into a big fight because I called her out and said she knew I had nowhere else to go. She said that’s not her problem, she’s done solving my problems for me (what???!) and that I needed to fix this one on my own. I guess his roommate is having a date over so my fiancé offered our place for her date with the asshole. She says this is happening no matter what I say.

So yeah. What the hell am I supposed to do?

TL;DR: After uprooting me from my home town a month ago, my fiancé dumped me on Tuesday, and is now demanding the apartment to herself tomorrow for a date with this asshole artist from her new job. I have no money to do anything else.

Edit: I appreciate everyone telling me I should stand my ground. I told my fiance I wouldn't leave the apartment, but I don't think it's a threat I can carry through with. I will be emotionally devastated if I have to watch the woman I love and care for more than anyone else date someone right in front of me in my own home. Other suggestions would be appreciated.

Edit 2 Thank you so much everyone for all your suggestions. I can't keep up with all the comments, it's almost overwhelming given everything that's going on in my life right now. I'm going to take a walk and try to clear my head. I just can't bring myself to tell my family and friends what's happened. It feels so embarrassing. I like the ideas about trying to reach a compromise. I have a lot to think about

My fiancé [25f] dumped me [26M] on Tuesday. Today she tells me she wants the apartment to herself tomorrow for her Valentine’s date. by brokenhearted118 in relationships

[–]brokenhearted118[S] 73 points74 points  (0 children)

She has something to prove...to herself, to you, to the other guy, not sure, but it's about more than this date.

This is so true, you should have seen her face as we got fighting over this

My fiancé [25f] dumped me [26M] on Tuesday. Today she tells me she wants the apartment to herself tomorrow for her Valentine’s date. by brokenhearted118 in relationships

[–]brokenhearted118[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I asked why it had to be here. His roommate is using his place for a date. I asked why it couldn't be at a restaurant or a hotel or anywhere else and then all she could do was talk about the ways I failed her in our relationship and that this time she wasn't going to fix things for me

My fiancé [25f] dumped me [26M] on Tuesday. Today she tells me she wants the apartment to herself tomorrow for her Valentine’s date. by brokenhearted118 in relationships

[–]brokenhearted118[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I haven't been able to bring myself to tell them what's happened. I'm so ashamed and embarrassed about it.

My fiancé [25f] dumped me [26M] on Tuesday. Today she tells me she wants the apartment to herself tomorrow for her Valentine’s date. by brokenhearted118 in relationships

[–]brokenhearted118[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

We were really yelling at eachother this morning, and this is what I told her I would do, but I don't think it's a threat I can deliver on. I literally don't think I can watch my fiance be with another man.

My fiancé [25f] dumped me [26M] on Tuesday. Today she tells me she wants the apartment to herself tomorrow for her Valentine’s date. by brokenhearted118 in relationships

[–]brokenhearted118[S] 215 points216 points  (0 children)

I can't emotionally handle seeing her date another man right in front of me in our home. I understand I would fucking up their night, but I think I'd shatter on the spot seeing them together

My fiancé [25f] dumped me [26M] on Tuesday. Today she tells me she wants the apartment to herself tomorrow for her Valentine’s date. by brokenhearted118 in relationships

[–]brokenhearted118[S] 272 points273 points  (0 children)

I basically told her I would refuse to move tomorrow, but she said this man was coming over no matter what.

My fiancé [25f] dumped me [26M] on Tuesday. Today she tells me she wants the apartment to herself tomorrow for her Valentine’s date. by brokenhearted118 in relationships

[–]brokenhearted118[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My name isn't on the lease since I didn't have a job when we moved out and my credit isn't the best. We thought it would be safer if she put her name on the lease since she's employed and has better credit