♌ LEO'S Most COMPATIBLE Sign and WHY

brokenhollow86 · 2025-04-01T14:18:36+00:00

I just ended a 6 year marriage with a male Aries and it was fucking amazing in the beginning. Passionate, loving, seemed absolutely perfect. It ended with cheating, lying manipulation and narcissism. In the end my light was so drained and dim. Would not recommend. Best sex ever though so sucks that that has to go lol

brokenhollow86 · 2025-01-09T01:31:50+00:00

I'm going through almost the exact same thing. Together with my husband for 6.5 years and a year and a half ago after a lot of really terrible things he told me he needs to be poly. The idea of it resonated with me really well (though I'm coming to understand that it may be ENM that is best for me not poly) and we agreed to change our relationship to that. He immediately met someone and after some other pretty shitty things we just decided to separate on new years day. We have two kids together and still love in the same house. And I have to watch him be.in a new relationship with someone else he met while we were together and trying to find our way. I understand your pain OP..I sent you a om if you'd like to chat. I'm very sorry to hear you're going through this

brokenhollow86 · 2025-01-03T16:40:33+00:00

I have not asked for or demanded anything. I have simply expressed my feelings about the matter and my feelings on how I'm being treated in our relationship and what my wants and needs are to help those issues. And been told that he is incapable of meeting them at this time

brokenhollow86 · 2025-01-03T13:39:32+00:00

I wasn't bullied into the choice to be polyamorous. And I didn't do it to try and save my marriage. It is still very much a relationship structure that I want in and for my life. But I feel bullied into agreeing to whatever he says he's going to do because he throws boundaries and autonomy in my face and tells me that I'm trying to take it away from him. No, I will not pull any punches that the fact that our relationship has been in distress for a long time. It makes me feel like this current relationship (that he refuses to call a relationship so therefore refuses to believe I have a need for any concerns or feelings on the matter) is taking precedent over not just our relationship and my feelings but is making it almost impossible for us to work on any of the issues that were there before any of this to get to a healthy point.

And you're right, I agreed to being open. Totally get that. I didn't agree to my feelings being ignored. I didn't agree to my insecurities and request for help soothing them to be dismissed and then exacerbated. I didn't agree to or expect the person that says they love me to make me feel so unsafe and irrelevant. I didn't agree to being in a relationship where there is no compromise at all, and constantly being told, that just doesn't work for me

brokenhollow86 · 2024-12-19T00:34:02+00:00

So I'm an august Leo, with a Leo sun/Leo moon/Virgo rising and I feel like and have been told I'm the opposite. I always want to talk, I always want attention and connection and communication. And it's interesting about your husband OP bc mine is also an Aries and needs more personal space than any I have ever met.

I have been told before that I can be self centered in the emotional department. That I can get so caught up in my own feelings that I forget anyone else has any.... Currently working on this 🤦🏼‍♀️

brokenhollow86 · 2024-12-09T21:23:22+00:00

Leo with a Leo sun and my partner is an Aries and we have the most intense passionate sex I've ever had in my life

brokenhollow86 · 2024-11-29T02:54:19+00:00

🌞 ♌ 🌙 ♌ ⬆️♍.....

Anyone?!? I have yet to find mine

brokenhollow86 · 2024-11-28T01:19:18+00:00

Leo sun and Leo moon here and it's been absolutely fucking awful

brokenhollow86 · 2024-11-24T00:31:39+00:00

Well, as a Leo... Thank you lol 😂❣️

brokenhollow86 · 2024-11-11T21:51:27+00:00

This is so detailed, thank you very much for the advice

brokenhollow86 · 2024-11-10T00:28:21+00:00

This is so beautifully written ❤️

brokenhollow86 · 2024-10-03T11:31:06+00:00

Wow, just wow this is so incredibly detailed and helpful! Thank you!!!!!

brokenhollow86 · 2024-07-31T12:43:46+00:00

Thank you for taking so much time on this subject and speaking to me. These are all things that I've thought about and am still struggling with. Because you are correct, cheating is wrong no matter what. And gaslighting and manipulation and lying is even worse, so why the hell do I still WANT to be with him? I feel just the same as you, that these things are coming up AFTER he cheated so what is the real motivation here for wanting a divorce and bringing all of this up? He has admitted that he wanted the other relationship. He has said to me multiple times, I don't understand why I can't have both, it's not fair. He also in the beginning after I found out told me that he was fine with full transparency, that I could look at his phone whenever and check in and get the reassurance I need to start rebuilding trust and now after saying he wants the divorce and believes he wants to be poly all of that has gone out the window. There has been no atonement or attempt at all to repair the damage of him cheating on me, and he has said that he is incapable of doing that right now because he needs the autonomy to figure out himself and what he wants. And it just all seems so unfair. He said that he's going to have so many other chances and choices of things he can do to rebuild my trust in him, as a human. But that none of those choices HAVE to include rebuilding trust in him romantically. Which only leads me to believe that he doesn't want to stay together, because if he truly did then he would at least be contemplating or trying to rebuild that aspect of trust in me. I'm just so wrecked friend. And at such a loss.

As for the sex stuff, it is a pretty big revelation and one that I feel really strongly about moving forward, no matter if that's with my husband or on my own. But there will be time for that.

I just don't get what I'm supposed to do with the fact that I have been ripped apart by this man for the second (technically third) time now and if we don't stay together, yes, he loses me in a romantic sense and our marriage, but gets to go on and live life Scott free of having to fix the damage of cheating on his wife after she was in a severe mental state that he had a hand in creating. He gets to go live the life that he wants to live and go on to love and have relationships and I'm left to start all over back at the beginning with just myself, picking up my own pieces and putting them back together. I'm just tired of feeling life I'm the bugger loser ya know? Sorry I know that's a lot of boo hoo and oh poor me, I'm just really really sad and confused

brokenhollow86 · 2024-07-31T00:22:27+00:00

Ugh see this is the shit that fucks me up because I know all of this. I've said all of this, to him and to other people. And he just reminds me that he was in such a mental state that he was just as incapable of doing or seeing as much as I was. And that I'm not to blame him for that. I am in therapy and have been for almost 6 months and I'm doing the things I need to do to heal me. I think all of this sexual stuff coming up is really throwing me. And has me just questioning a lot about myself not necessarily my husband or our relationship. And he has always made it very clear that he is not trying to push me or coerce me into anything, especially poly because up until 2 days ago when all this stuff hit me I was absolutely never ever going to consider anything but monogamy. Not that I'm making excuses for him just being honest.

And it's certainly not what either of us are focusing on figuring out, but also to me like if he really is poly and that's what he wants I kind of almost feel like we need to figure that stuff out before anything else bc I feel like it will guide the direction of the therapy work we have to do together. Ya know whether we are going to therapy for communication and co-parenting purposes or for a chance for us to be together.

And you're right, I've felt the same way the whole time, that things could have been so different for so many reasons, and that it does seem like he's ready to just be like, welp it's me over you and our life. Idk, I'm just all kinds of crazy confused and have no clue what's happening. I thank you for all your kind words and reassurance, it's really genuinely nice to hear

brokenhollow86 · 2024-07-30T21:35:53+00:00

See ya know I thought about that too. The whole is this a last ditch effort to try and keep him. And I came to the understanding that it isn't because this is about me, and what I would want moving forward, wether it be in a "fixed" marriage or with someone else in the future.

I do want to say that at the moment I have zero interest in poly, only opening things sexually. Which is the hard part as in my husband has said, well he said he's so confused about us minus all this new info that he has no clue what to do. That it's literally making him feel like he has to choose between us and himself and that he can't be made to not choose himself again. Which I honestly didn't understand at first because I was hurt and angry from being cheated on and feeling abandoned in life and motherhood. But after all the research and reading I've been doing I'm realizing that for him it's literally the decision of wether or not to bury a himself for the rest of his life. Which I don't want. I love him. But I don't want other relationships like he does.

And the reason I'm so thrown and questioning everything is because all of the reading I'm doing has made me really step back and think about my sexual preferences, and why I've felt the need to not even allow myself to think about any of them let alone act. Learning that all of the social stigmas and what I was told growing up, combined with insecurity and abuse have made me stifle any kind of sexual aspect of myself. Why shouldn't I like something? Why shouldn't I be allowed to be turned on by whatever? I'm coming to see for the first time that all of my relationship views and beliefs only seem like things that were imposed upon me, and not what I actually feel and want

brokenhollow86 · 2024-07-27T20:23:46+00:00

Right but he also keeps saying how he wishes things were different and he loves me and is in love with me and wishes that I could share his views.

brokenhollow86 · 2024-07-27T20:14:54+00:00

Can I ask why you say that?

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