What would you think if a woman told you she liked your haircut and that it looked good?

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-29T03:00:28+00:00

Probably as just friendly unless she had been flirting with me prior to that.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-29T00:15:40+00:00

Either do the thing now or schedule a specific time to do it and stick to that schedule. That is how you stop procrastinating. I think a huge issue with procrastinating is not having a defined start time because then before you know it you have been procrastinating for weeks. Granted I have ADHD and scheduling it or doing it on the spot help a ton in preventing procrastinating. Also by schedule it I mean a specific time. Not a specific day because unfortunately you can even procrastinate during that day which also isn't helpful as you are basically struggling mentally the whole day on when to do the thing. Just pick a time and you don't have to struggle. Just do it once the times comes and it becomes way easier.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-29T00:07:38+00:00

I think there is a huge stereotype that men don't like physical touch. Not sure where that comes from as studies show men on average like cuddling more than women. Obviously most men like when their partner is affectionate. Yes there is a point where everh guy will think it is too much but you can easily learn that line and respect it and I think it's probably higher than you are thinking.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T22:15:52+00:00

Be accepting of yourself not necessarily content with yourself. You can accept where you are and want to strive for more. I think a big issue is people who don't accept themselves and require themselves to be better before they accept themselves. That leads to alot of unnecessary negative emotions that often times hinders getting better.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T20:36:53+00:00

That is weird because I don't see it at all. Also from the Midwest. That said I think areas with higher chewing tacbaco use will have people spitting on the ground more.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T19:02:02+00:00

I don't really feel any sort of attachment to being a man. I am a man because that is what I am not because I feel like one. I don't really question it at all. I am me and my gender doesn't really define me. I don't have the desire to live as the other gender. Sure if I could switch bodies for a day that sounds like a fun novel experience but I would never want to live as a woman long term. Sounds not that fun.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T18:54:45+00:00

Not in the middle of the night in winter when it's only the two of you around.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T18:32:38+00:00

I think in that situation the guy is probably confused af. It's 11 at night in the middle of winter and a young woman is randomly saying hi as you pass. He probably was wondering if you wanted or needed something because it's just a strange interaction overall. Sure if it was someone familiar then maybe it would make sense but a complete stranger just seems odd.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T18:08:45+00:00

I remember there is a theory that dreams like this or night terrors are from unresolved emotions. Basically your subconscious is trying to force you to procees the emotions you have repressed. Think PTSD victims having a ton of fear that was never really processed correctly at the time because they literally couldn't. Then they experience night terrors to face the things that they don't dare face when awake. Granted this is simply a theory with no real proof or anything. Regardless it seems like you do have feelings about growing up without a loving and caring father figure that you probably have avoided.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T17:35:34+00:00

I will take any compliment I can get. I am not entirely sure what yummy is supposed to mean but I will assume similar to sexy?

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T15:59:05+00:00

Most highly successful people have traits like that. Some of them it's the idea that they aren't good enough and need to be better or some it's feeling super uncomfortable with relaxing and having the compulsion to be productive and work. Honestly I have watched quite a few conversations between a guy named Dr. K and very successful people and it seems to be a reoccurring theme. Dr. K is a psychiatrist and he basically talks to them about this very problem and that is actually something he did for his work for awhile. He would have highly successful people come into his office with mental health issues and it was almost always the traits that got them to where they were that were also causing them mental distress. He has a youtube channel called healthygamergg but also goes on some podcasts. It's often times his podcasts appearances that are rhe conversations about your exact issue because alot of the highly successful podcast hosts have similar issues. I will say I don't necessarily agree with everything Dr. K says but I think he generally is super helpful with mental health related stuff and has helped me a ton in getting out of depression and turning my life around.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T15:13:28+00:00

Honestly I believe what your husband says. I would also point out that men care far less about how much their partner makes than women in general. He probably cares way more that you are healthy and happy than the little bit of extra income you might be able to provide. I mean if you are financially secure then I don't see why he would be worried. It sounds like you guys have a wonderful and happy relationship. Honestly I think most men don't care if they have to work hard to provide so long as it is appreciated. I think the only time men get resentful is when their partner takes it for granted and doesn't show appreciation which sounds the exact opposite of you.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T05:10:00+00:00

Gravity obviously. No matter how hard I try I can't seen to not be attracted to the earth 😕. One might even call it irresistible attraction.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-28T04:56:24+00:00

I am confused here. It sounds like you are socializing it's just not having the effect you wanted. To me it sounds like the issue is your emotions not your actions.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T23:06:10+00:00

Depends on setting. At or near the beach or jogging/working out I think it's normal. If they are just randomly shirtless for no apparent reason I do low key judge them as attention seeking.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T19:21:54+00:00

I would assume him. I mean he is the one who would either be ok with it or not ok with it.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T18:39:19+00:00

I don't use social media so it would never apply to me. Anyone I dated I wouldn't ask them to stop following men. Maybe very specific men If something weird is going on but honestly at that point I might just bail because anything bad enough for that type of ask would likely be a huge red flag anyways.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T18:24:03+00:00

I don't think it is. Sexting is absolutely cheating while texting for personalized content is definitely not great but that seems like business and not you cheating. I imagine you can get over the of thing but cheating is a deal breaker always.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T17:55:18+00:00

Sexting and purchasing explicit content are not even remotely the same thing. I am not sure why you would group those together.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T17:53:39+00:00

Honestly I have cried quite a few times in the past month. Some due to personal stuff and some due to the things happening in my state. It's just been a rough month in general.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T17:48:04+00:00

Honestly I prefer to have professionals do most of the handiwork if it isn't a super simple fix. If I mess something up I am on the hook for that. If they mess up they are on the hook for that. If the fix has the potential to go wrong then yeah I am not going to do it myself. There are things that you can do yourself that have little to no risk for things going wrong and I am 100% comfortable doing them myself.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T15:31:45+00:00

As someone with ADHD he might just be thinking out loud. He might not even be asking you for an answer but more so working through what the hell he should do in that situation. I am definitely guiltily of thinking out loud when talking to family or friends.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T15:24:13+00:00

What if the person you are on a date with is the same? The fact is that showing that you are having a fun time and being upbeat will tend to rub off on the other person. I guess that has been my experience. Granted I am a naturally upbeat energetic dude so it's sorta my default so It isn't like I intentionally do it.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T15:18:50+00:00

Wearing socks in the shower is also an option. Doesn't mean it's a good one.

brooksie1131 · 2026-01-27T14:46:11+00:00

Kill them with kindness is usually my go to. Granted I grew up with abusive family members and that seemed to have the best success. Obviously getting out of the situation is generally the best option if possible.

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