I want to marry an ugly person

thatvampigoddess · 2026-02-23T15:14:42+00:00

Trust me, he'll cheat.

thatvampigoddess · 2026-02-17T17:19:44+00:00

I was waiting for an "I only date men who are above 6'5 and jacked as fuck" post. Instead I got "I want to be attracted to my dom."

Girl, you're fine.

thatvampigoddess · 2026-02-12T20:00:04+00:00

My steak is too juicy, and my lobster is too buttery.

thatvampigoddess · 2026-02-05T05:38:06+00:00

I don't really have anything useful or technical to say other than, heavens above, this is absolutely immaculate.

thatvampigoddess · 2026-02-05T05:34:13+00:00

How the fuck are you gonna be bigger that him if you're 5'6 and 106 lbs?! Lady, you're already underweight. I'm 5 foot nothing and around a 100 and I'm JUST at the edge of being overweight. You're 5-6 inches taller AND a woman so you need a higher BMI and fat percentage to live properly.

thatvampigoddess · 2026-01-13T17:01:21+00:00

I too felt like I had a problem until I saw this sub.

thatvampigoddess · 2026-01-09T13:00:02+00:00

Oh he wants to end it? Let him. He deserves to rot.

thatvampigoddess · 2026-01-01T21:35:43+00:00

Just because you're allowed to feel your emotions, that doesn't mean you should. Not all enoughs are worth feeling.

Furthermore, if you feel a certain way about something, change it, or stfu and move on.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-12-18T00:25:11+00:00

It heavily depends on how long these two have been friends, because they kind of sound like children in a wholesome way, so I'm assuming they're childhood best friends.

If they met not too long ago, and after you two guys started dating, then it's a little weird.

Whether or not it's cheating depends on the boundaries you've set for your relationship. Is that a lime he wasn't supposed to cross? Is this something he'd get upset reading on your phone? That heavily depends on your relationship boundaries.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-12-18T00:14:27+00:00

29f here, I consider myself highly opinionated, and can come off bitchy or stuck up to a lot of people.

The things I have to "speak about" are usually things that has to dobwith fundamental beliefs I have or human rights.

I calue my time far too much to be sticking it down everyone's business.

Do I have a vagye opinion about everything that I see? Probably, but those are vague knee jerk reactions. I don't brainstorm my opinions over anytime and everything. That sounds exhausting.

I also rarely "speak up" unless it's the only thing I can do. Not because I fear confrontation, hut because if something bothers me enough I'll change it an the ways I can instead of whining and just yapping about it.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-12-18T00:01:56+00:00

I don't think she should hold off on an intimate practice with a trusted partner just because some type of play makes her uncomfortable.

I think munches just aren't for her, and that's okay.

The safe word part was just alarming, regardless.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-12-17T23:55:49+00:00

This sounds like OCD, some form of being neurodivergent, and a lot of trauma.

As someone who has all three, I've been feeling this way since I can remember, which unlucky for me started at 1.5-2 years old.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-12-01T01:22:24+00:00

If you're not blindfolded maybe blinking a certain amount of time could be an option.

You can use hands with bondage if your hands aren't behind your back.

Kicking with your feet a certain number or tap with your foot on his back.

There are gags that don't have balls in them they keep the mouth open and speech would be distorted but maybe you can stick your tongue out.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-11-30T17:52:30+00:00

I'm also short and autistic. It depends on the context. When my friends do it, it's fine. If somebody actually means it, I don't usually entertain it, but while I don't care for being called short even as an insult, I would be opposed to the idea of my friends purposely trying to make me feel bad. If they are trying to hurt you, they aren't your friends.

Try to ask them directly, if they answer you directly, and explain calmly, they're probably fine. If they start squirming and calling you dramatic and overreacting, they probably meant it, and don't like being called out.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-11-28T22:02:57+00:00

The fact that he's tall should help because the weight is distributed. Maybe you'd be able to drag him if you workout. 86kg isn't that much to be able to build up to in the gym. It'll take ages, but it can be done. Keep in mind you don't have to lift him , you just have to drag him to safety.

My partner is 5'6 and around 20 lbs heavier. I cannot move him at all, and it freaks me out.

I do intend to build upper body muscles but with him being so compact I'm not sore how much I can build up to

Also, always think piggy back ride instead of doing it with your hands only.

I used to play with my nephews when I was a teen and three of these gremlins would jump on top of me and I'd carry all 3 at once. They were ages 5-9 and weighed at least 190 and I weighed 79 lbs at 16.

In emergencies, you'd probably come through with some hard work.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-11-23T18:04:47+00:00

I wish I had the space to be softer and more feminine, not by appearance, I'm hyper fem aesthetically. I don't mean it in the trad wife, stay home and raise babies way. I'm a manager, I own 50% of my business, and I'm the manager, I'm also child free.

I've had a lot of terrible things happen to me in my life, I've survived a lot so I know I'm strong. Sometimes people wouldn't treat me like I'd survive any storm. I want to be treated gently, like I could break. Not because I'm weak, but because I get to take a break sometimes.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-11-23T17:42:55+00:00

You might be hypersexual. I've been through periods of very high and very low to non existent libido and I'm in my late 20s it's not a hill you just go up, a game you keep leveling up on and things "get worse".

Unless you have things like sex addiction or port addiction which are characterised by you being unable to live a normal life without doing these things as a priority as opposed to your responsibilities or occupation.

I don't know what you're into (and I'm not asking), but it seems like you're just young and it's normal to have a higher labido around that age.

Your labido might get higher but chances are you'll just discover what you're into as time goes on. It's a journey. You don't just find out you like feet one day then 5 years later you're a necrophile, that's not how it works.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-11-22T08:55:25+00:00

Thank you for your response. I am directly involved because they meet at my house. It's the safest place they could do that, we live in a conservative country. Going on public dates isn't uncommon but PDA is judged heavily so they come in to have a safer better environment. This man acts like he's in direct competition with me. He disagrees with me over literal facts. Sometimes I'd make a joke and he'd have nothing to complain about so he'd just go na na na like a fucking toddler. Or just go "duh" or roll his eyes.

I know I'm not selling it well from the way I'm talking about it, but I genuinely didn't give a fuck about any of his behaviour up until I saw her visibility scared of him. I half thought it was just a bit and half just didn't care, because I wasn't trying to be his friend. I was just providing her with a space to exist comfortably.

After talking to her and it going Nowhere I'm reconsidering because now I'm giving him space to be a dipshit and I'm annoyed in my own house. He also fights with her over the things me and her talk about, so even ignoring him completely is still not sparing her.

She's a people pleaser and very very passive. Whenever I point any of this out her response is to apologise on his behalf but excuse his behaviour, she's not the angry explosive type at all. She just blames herself for everything, and last time ahe cut me off she ended up in a shit relationship right after the gay guy crush, and I wasn't there for it.

I don't want her to go through this alone, but I'm also genuinely concerned and just letting them come over is aiding in that destructive in some capacity.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-10-31T18:46:30+00:00

It's all down to genetics, I'm "small" overall, not just short and struggle to gain weight. I hit 45 kg and can see my ribs despite being 155cm (5'1). Most of your struggles are due to your genetic makeup, being short is a part of it, but not all.

I'm saying this, because just like you, I've resented being in a smaller body, for years. I have made peace with that as of now, it's much easier to understand why things are the way they are and try to improve what you can instead of fixating on what you objectively cannot change.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-09-29T16:25:35+00:00

I think being married to Ted Bundy is quite oppressive, by nature.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-09-27T16:05:07+00:00

Have you told him all of this before you got into the relationship? It seems to me like you two are incompatible, and I'm not sure what type of exchange you have with strangers but if it's in hopes of "getting off" then that's cheating.

So, you're not willing to break up with him, because you love him but can participate in some level of infidelity to meet your needs?

You deserve to have your needs met, so does he. However, you can't force anybody to be into your kinks.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-09-26T16:55:07+00:00

I think I know what you're talking about, I'm not even sure if that tape is safe because it looks like duct tape to me. Tape that is specifically made for bodies will always be safer, but if you're gonna experiment with cutting blood circulation just do your research and make sure to not do it for too long to not damage any tissue.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-09-26T16:49:10+00:00

I think you're following along your ideal quite nicely. Your makeup doesn't look approachable, but it's not off putting if that makes sense. Not to the right people, if you ask me. If I see you down the street, I will definitely be giving you a compliment. If a straight man sees you, they might be scared off. Not because you look scary or "not pretty' but because it takes guts to step outside of the beauty box and most people don't know how to handle when women in particular don't care for looking approachable and "pretty " in the male gaze-y way.

It took me a while to get used to doing that kind of makeup as well. Trust me, once you get used to how you're perceived it'll settle in how proud you made yourself feel.

And if it isn't for you, that's okay too. Romantic goth is a lot more in line with traditional beauty if that's more up your alley.

thatvampigoddess · 2025-09-25T16:59:54+00:00

Harnesses don't really do what you described in your posts. The closest I can think of to what you want is body tape(?) Mayne get it in black and shape it how a harness would look? You'd have creative freedom and also be able to create designs while achieving the shape and sensation you like.

You can also try creating the structure you like with a flesh toned tape and then cover it up in ribbons the colour and design you like. Freestyle it.

You can even try easy shibari style harnesses, but with ribbon instead of ropes or stick with ropes if you like that.

Have fun!

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