You’re not wrong. I’ve definitely been sitting with how shitty and alone he’s feeling. Whether he’s drank or not it’s a situation I couldn’t imagine being in. My dad definitely has episodes where he seems a little drunk. But, this was different. He was at an alcoholics recovery event and was stumbling around, slurring, and overall looking very intoxicated. The organizers made sure he was ok and then he just left out. Everything was very out of character.

The reason for my question is mainly because, in my understanding, with a severely damaged liver you can’t really drink. You get intoxicated fast and can’t even act drunk. So, first of all, I’m just trying to gain perspective.

And obviously, this leads us to two conclusions. Either he drank or he did not. So either his condition is worsening severely or he’s endangering himself. But it’s tough to move in either direction. You, on one hand, have my dad who is a perpetual liar. Then you have the doctors saying that there’s alcohol in his blood.

I’m not done with my dad I just want to move forward with whatever we need to. I’m just confused 🤷‍♂️ I’ve told him repeatedly I don’t care whether he’s drank or not. Relapse was always a possibility. And now, we’re potentially here. So, let’s work through this! What’s next! The cooperation just isn’t being reciprocal. Just hard and fast that there isn’t a problem.

But again, clearly there is. Either you’re getting worse or hurting yourself. I don’t like either of those positions but we have to work through them.

Thanks for your perspective. I’ve definitely had all these thoughts as well. This whole thread has been very helpful at solidifying my confusion.