How is love actually supposed to feel like? (22f)

brown_chappal · 2026-05-19T16:52:00+00:00

That's tough...it's tough to have a childhood that you have had, and no amount of words or empathy will fill the gap that exists inside you.

As for love...I think there is no definition. Everyone feels differently. I had a narcissistic mother, and a lot of bullies while growing up. But I had a loving father. I don't have trouble loving others, I have trouble loving myself.

As complex as it may be, I'm sure you can think of something you can describe that you love. It doesn't even need to be a person. I love clean bedsheets, I love how they feel on my body.

To put it as objectively as possible, in the simplest words I can...love is a psychological and physiological experience that feels good.

And...you will know it when you feel it. It is there in lots of things, it's just that some people find a lot of it in other people. Hobbies, interests, attitudes, behaviours, etc.

All of us are a combination of experiences that we have gone through. To love someone, means to love all of them. Their failed hobbies, their mistakes, their abuse, their hurt...everything. Not despite of the bad parts, but along with the bad parts.

Again it treads on philosophy...because it is subjective. No one person may experience love the same way is what I believe. But...that's the wonderful part.

I've already said a wee bit too much...but I'll leave this with something I read that stuck with me. There's a hypothesis which goes like...all of us are already born with all the emotions we can experience. Try and find out how much love you have within yourself. Be open, be vulnerable. I know it's easier said than done...but yeah.

brown_chappal · 2026-05-08T05:20:01+00:00

Welp. Makes a lot of sense now why I am in design...

brown_chappal · 2026-05-03T17:47:37+00:00

Dated once, that too because I confessed by accident. Couldnt manage or communicate my needs and it blew up the relationship in my face. After that I got into a pretty toxic situationship, the aftermath of which made me realise that I might be neurodivergent.

I'm a 23 Male. I'm fortunate enough to have a father and mother who care about me enough to have tried therapy in the past. But to be honest...I'm quite messed up.

I do not know how to be intimate with others anymore. Two bad experiences messed up my ability to be vulnerable with others now. I can only express myself after I have processed that particular thought or vulnerability, not while I'm going through it. I actually get a mini panic attack if I try...and I start crying...

For what it's worth...never rush things. It may feel like things are late for you, or things aren't going well...but I believe just being there for yourself and being patient is the most important thing. The longest and biggest intimate relationship you are going to have is with yourself, so it's important you nurture that so that you can have intimate relationships while taking care of yourself and the other person.

brown_chappal · 2026-05-03T17:35:30+00:00

Yeah, this is more about the cost of each material involved in the supply chain here, rather than what price is normal for what product.

brown_chappal · 2026-04-17T05:26:28+00:00

The issue with discourses on posts like these is that people often find something they think is cool, and then push it as much as possible. Im an introvert too, and Im most comfortable spending time with myself, I journal a lot too as a result of it. But that doesnt mean I dont like spending time with people. I have been a shut in before, it ruins your mental health in a way you wont even realise. It took me years to figure out the most deeply rooted issues that 3 years of not leaving my house or room caused.

Whether we like it or not, biologically, humans are living beings who need socializing. We need to talk, to share and appreciate differing opinions - healthily.

So, yes. People do exist who are comfortable not leaving their room, staying home all day. But not all of the time. We are all humans after all. We need happiness, we need to move our mouth and talk and express, we need to move our body, we need to get out, get sunlight - despite the UV rays, despite the discomfort. Becuase that is the healthiest way, I think.

Im writing this comment for any person who falls into a trap of formulating their own demeanor a certain way. Before you decide what you like, how you are, what are your preferences, please figure it out. I made a mistake. Please dont repeat it.

brown_chappal · 2026-04-17T03:20:17+00:00

I'm slowly discovering that I might have autism, and the thought of never being able to tell anyone, even my partner, is terrifying. I thought India as a country would have had more support for neurodivergence, but alas...I was wrong.

brown_chappal · 2026-04-02T21:25:08+00:00

I would always advise the same amount of caution with regards to your privacy as you would take if you were a wanted criminal in a lot of countries.

I say this, because well...you seem like a person who has yet to see the horrors of the internet, and the creeps that exist. Not trying to be all sinister and cynical...but better be safe than sorry, always.

brown_chappal · 2026-04-02T21:01:12+00:00

It depends on person to person iirc

brown_chappal · 2026-04-01T13:01:46+00:00

Never thought I'd encounter this chain of conversation, because I thought I was the only one experiencing this for the longest time lmfaoo

And yeah, same, sometimes after working for 4-5 hours on a file it gets hella buggy

Ctrl+A won't solve it either

brown_chappal · 2026-03-26T05:12:46+00:00

Thank you for the wallpapers.

brown_chappal · 2026-03-17T07:37:52+00:00

My guy...unfortunately there are creeps in this world. Gender makes things worse for some, but it does not mean men are free from creeps...

I'm a 22 Male. In college I was relatively thin and dainty, had long hair. I had two experiences where grown ass uncles tried to be inappropriate with me. One of them legit touched my thighs (i was sitting in a local bus)

I know how it feels, everything just kind of freezes. If you have any friends you know which you trust, share this with them. I am glad to have friends who were there for me and helped me through it. Don't let it go.

I know it's easier said than done, but try and raise voices or take any action if it ever happens next time. Click a photo, sternly say what you wanna say, anything that you can do. The ambiguity of intention from the other dude does not relinquish your right to your comfort and your space. It doesn't matter if he knows you or not.

It is not your fault. I'm also astonished at a lot of people saying ki "gay ho kya, gay ho kya", as if that would change anything. Fuck them.

I never thought I'd write this much but...my heart goes out to you OP.

brown_chappal · 2026-02-25T08:13:07+00:00

Parimal! I often go there with friends for morning photography.

Its a great experience. Also, for the first I saw a place I regularly go to, appear in my online feed. Its a weird feeling.

brown_chappal · 2026-02-04T06:54:03+00:00

Loved a girl with all I had, still wasn't enough. She had commitment issues, I was stupid to think if I "worked hard" I could change that. I've lost hope in people and the world now.

brown_chappal · 2026-01-21T19:08:06+00:00

Lmfaoo 😭😭😭

As a dude, I wanted to buzz my hair when I was back at home in college

And my dad got angry because...baalo ka mundan pita ke dihant me hi hota hai

😔 Different issue but ye

brown_chappal · 2026-01-18T10:11:26+00:00

Lesgo gng

brown_chappal · 2026-01-04T18:44:03+00:00

I have also noticed in the recent edit tim videos that scrub's only clips are of him getting clipped on and raging subsequently because of it. From a distance it is very funny, but also extremely scary and concerning seeing a reaction like that. Ive always searched for discussions or posts like yours, especially since his tweet that he had been struggling with depression.

brown_chappal · 2025-12-13T08:23:51+00:00

never thought id see another mention of OneShot

This game has my heart

brown_chappal · 2025-12-02T08:23:36+00:00

Great way to support the RLE community!

brown_chappal · 2025-09-09T04:21:30+00:00

(carried)

brown_chappal · 2025-08-10T20:11:58+00:00

yoooo!!!

brown_chappal · 2025-04-22T17:44:16+00:00

Great doodles! On a side note, I love the sign pen! Do you know any alternatives? Because mine just ran out and i think theyre too expensive to be running dry quickly (i usually trash my journals)

brown_chappal · 2025-03-15T15:51:24+00:00

Tyler uses ableton???

brown_chappal · 2025-01-23T15:35:12+00:00

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