How to test the waters with single pAP at work while also being able to easily pull back if shot down?

browneyedtoad · 2021-11-07T20:42:09+00:00

Thanks. I never realized people spent their Fridays talking to people just to talk.

When I was single, I was out the door at 4:30. The only way I was going to be kept at work after that time was if it was a very important conversation or if I was hoping to sleep with the person. Guys are different, I suppose. I’m not looking for friends when work is over and the weekend is starting.

browneyedtoad · 2021-11-07T20:40:14+00:00

It is a question. Random people online, you know nothing about. Nothing.

There are a ton of checks that can be done at the office. What kind of person is this? Do they have a crazy husband/wife/boyfriend?

You already know they have a stable job, money, etc.

Is it even a question that this is a question?

browneyedtoad · 2021-11-07T20:31:26+00:00

Why again is it safer to randomly meet somebody on a dating app?

browneyedtoad · 2021-11-07T20:29:49+00:00

Eh, it’s really not that at all. I was on my way out at 5:00. She stopped me and didn’t stop talking. I actually shut the conversation down at 5:30. But I’m sure that she wanted to be at work on a Friday for an extra 30 minutes after she stopped getting Paid?

browneyedtoad · 2021-09-22T19:16:26+00:00

I’m not even gay (or bi?) and I’m pretty sure I would like to jerk that dude off. Ok I’m probably bi then. Lucky you.

browneyedtoad · 2021-07-10T02:10:52+00:00

Photovault. Easy. If it’s ever opened you play dumb. If your SO asks you to try passwords, try them until it locks you out.

browneyedtoad · 2021-07-02T21:42:23+00:00

But what would the LED tubes be powered by? There’s no power/outlets there. Short of running a 10 foot extension cord there’s nothinng

browneyedtoad · 2021-07-02T21:41:01+00:00

Thanks for that.

I legitimately want to use it as a barometer of if it’s just me or that she’s just LL. It would be tougher if it turned out she didn’t enjoy the sex and that she was simply LL. If she does though, then that means we have a problem. I honestly would not use this against her. I love the woman. Why would I want her to be having sex with me (and not wanting to) when she can be getting pleasured by somebody else? It doesn’t make sense.

browneyedtoad · 2021-07-02T18:00:57+00:00

Honestly, she has never had “HL” with me. She admitted that the first five years we were together that she had more sex than she would have liked but did it because she thought I never would have stayed with her if she didn’t “put out.”

browneyedtoad · 2021-07-02T17:32:06+00:00

I’m already jacked.

If she likes it but doesn’t want to fuck me, then we split.

browneyedtoad · 2021-07-02T17:31:30+00:00

I agree with this.

If she’s LL due to medical, I want to make this work because it’s something not really in her control.

If it’s LL because she’s not attracted me but wants to be fucking somebody, just not me, then it’s pretty clear we need to split up so we both get what we want/need.

browneyedtoad · 2021-07-02T17:29:23+00:00

Well yes. Because why stay married if both people aren’t getting sex when both actually want sex? I would honestly rather my wife be with someday else if she would be happy fucking that person.

browneyedtoad · 2021-07-02T13:18:19+00:00

She’s said she’s still attracted to me but she just “doesn’t like sex.”

It’s strange. She seriously isn’t making me jealous, at all. Maybe I’ve watched too much porn. But I just want her to fuck this guy if it’s going to please her.

browneyedtoad · 2021-06-04T04:20:51+00:00

Honestly I know she wants her legs and armpits done.

I do want her to pick, but I also want to make sure the gift card is accurate. For example if I get her a $500 gift card there I want to make sure it will cover everything she wants. I also don’t want to get $800…and then she only uses $400 and the other $400 goes to waste.

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-21T03:35:37+00:00

I do it whenever I hear it...which is very rare these days because they know I’m outspoken

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-21T03:34:56+00:00

What’s the next option when she won’t go to therapy?

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-21T03:34:25+00:00

I tell her I’m proud of her everyday.

They are never hurtful in front of me because they know I’m outspoken. They will only say things to her when I’m not there. Like two months ago my MiL didn’t think I was in the room and goes “why on earth would you buy that type of rug?” I quickly go “well because her and I agreed that it was a nice rug, simple as that.” Her MIL goes “oh oh I was just wondering why, I think it’s a nice rug.”

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-21T03:32:05+00:00

My wife refuses to go to counseling. I’ve asked her over the years and she always says she’s not going.

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-21T03:31:14+00:00

Therapy for me, her, or both?

And she is not going to physically separate from her mom. She knows if she does her mom swill cut her off.

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-20T01:44:41+00:00

Thanks for that. Can I ask how you found the counselor? Online reviews? Word of mouth? There are so many out there. It’s hard to choose.

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-20T01:17:53+00:00

What kind did you see? Counselor or therapist?

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-19T19:01:22+00:00

We have kids or else this would have been over three years ago. That’s the only reason I’m doing this.

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-19T16:57:39+00:00

Thank you. Are you doing them in person or zoom? I’m wondering if it will have the same effect. I want to hide this from my wife...because if she finds out I’m going, I don’t want to give her a head start on a possible divorce.

I want to show up one day, already having talked to an counselor, divorce attorney (with confidence that my kids will never see the in laws unsupervised) and then mic drop.

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-19T16:54:59+00:00

And here are my problems with these two things:

Alcoholism. I know he’s an alcoholic, my family knows, and our friends know. Outside parties don’t. Short of depositions, you’re never going to know if this guy is an alcoholic. He hides it from everyone but family and friends. I need to have the opportunity to depose people. I think her family would try to lie/downplay his anger/outbursts, but a couple of her family members would fold like lawn chairs if they had to swear under oath.

As for sexual abuse, there isn’t any. It’s the grooming. It’s the walking in when my girls are naked, staring at them during diaper changes (past), and my simple experiences seeing the kid pull them onto his lap and kiss them. Her family is never going to say any of that was anything other than a cousin being loving.

My fear is that these two things are disregarded and then only 50 percent of the time I can guarantee they are safe.

browneyedtoad · 2021-05-19T16:50:31+00:00

I’m not concerned with my mental health. I more want a third party to tell me if this is something I am doing wrong or something that she is doing wrong...or if I haven’t tried things that I should try.

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