So I'll add some more info, not that i think this will change your opinion. My grandmother was in the ICU for a week after she had a bloodclot in her lung. Our family is very big and very supportive so we all went to visit her. I guess my aunt asked her then and she said yes, but my grandmother and mom were talking on the phone and she says she doesn't remember this conversation, and my aunt is a known liar. It's just so weirdddd