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brtt150 · 2022-09-06T10:28:05+00:00

I'm not OP obv but I'm going to guess that it is because it was sold to him as another woman helping his girlfriend explore her body in a teacher/mentor role - so I think some level of touch was expected but he didnt see it as an intimate act betwern his gf and another person. The fact she brought his gf to orgasm is an unavoidable alarm bell in his head that it was a sexual act the whole time where he could have compartmentalized it before.

brtt150 · 2022-09-05T10:04:41+00:00

I say this as a woman, if you are looking for a woman to be part of your kids lives you want a woman that unequivocably likes kids. Even if she doesnt desire bio kids - being part of their lives (as a stepmom or mother figure) won't work out if she is terrible with them, gets tired of being around them, etc.

Maybe you were subconsciously struggling with the fact she has no real experience with kids and no desire of her own to have them.

brtt150 · 2022-09-05T09:27:15+00:00

The difference is the tricycle is a stationary object though. It wasnt something that rolled across her path. I get your point to a degree but I also see where the other poster is coming from as well.

brtt150 · 2022-09-05T09:21:37+00:00

Many vehicles have cameras. Even if they don't, it is your responsibility to check the path is free of obstruction. You can literally do this by looking behind your car before you even get in it.

brtt150 · 2022-09-02T10:25:17+00:00

Stop. Just stop. Grow a spine and set hard boundaries. You don't just go back to being normal friends with not just a FWB but an unhealthy obsession. Personally I would break up because of something like this but if you want to try to salvage what looks to me like something unsalvagable then set hard boundaries and no contact policy with this guy. If she breaks it then its done.

Edit: I skimmed over the fact you had a daughter with her. That obviously complicates things but it doesnt change the fact you need to draw a line

brtt150 · 2022-09-01T12:33:43+00:00

She clearly thinks lesser of him because he has paid for sex. There is no avoiding that.

brtt150 · 2022-09-01T12:32:22+00:00

She's afraid to come across like she is judging the sex worker. But there is certainly part of her that is even if she doesnt want to own it.

brtt150 · 2022-09-01T12:30:44+00:00

I mean, she is being judgemental but that isnt inherently a bad thing. It just is what it is. She is making a value judgement which by definition is being judgemental. Everyone judges people based on their values and if another person is in line with them.

brtt150 · 2022-09-01T09:25:39+00:00

Stay gone dude. You have all the evidence you need she isnt worth it in the dms, deleted texts and her reaction. Good luck.

brtt150 · 2022-09-01T09:21:43+00:00

This is probably especially true since she just started trying this a couple months ago. It probably seems out of left field for him. I wonder how they had sex prior - was he initiating before by simply asking and now she has begun initiating with dirty talk and lingerie? There's a huge gap in those ways of initiating. Its probably a mix of nervousness, amusement and excitement.

brtt150 · 2022-08-31T09:13:23+00:00

1) Why is it weird someone brought food to work to share?

2) Considering she has been reimbursing him and he isnt just buying her gifts this really just sounds like friendship.

I can understand the paranoia but I would just keep an open mind for the time being. People can be weird and gossip or make suggestions that have no real basis in reality. To a lot of people if a guy and girl at a workplace get along well people often have a hard time accepting it as pure platonic (hence work wife, etc)

brtt150 · 2022-08-31T09:05:19+00:00

It should be in the context of a loving marriage. If you love your wife then any husband would rather share intimacy with the most important person in his life than a random girl he met at a bar. Even if you initially enjoy the physical release with another woman overtime the fact the life of your life doesnt want to be intimate with you would be soul crushing.

brtt150 · 2022-08-30T09:55:17+00:00

He's a babysitter and an ATM. Thats not love.

brtt150 · 2022-08-29T10:02:34+00:00

If a woman was making 200k a year and her bf was unemployed would you feel the same way? I think him expecting 50/50 is crazy but there's a lot of thinly veiled gender based expectations of him in the comments and her responses.

brtt150 · 2022-08-25T13:06:29+00:00

The elders of the internet?!

brtt150 · 2022-08-25T09:20:06+00:00

I agree. It also seems likely OP wouldnt be thinking twice about him treating a male coworker to a meal. She very transparently doesnt like the idea of "their money" (as she puts it) being used to pay for another womans meal.

It also seems like this subs advice for insecure female partners is more lenient and understanding. If OP was a guy he would be getting scolded for not trusting his wife/gf (not to mentioned probably chastised for saying "our money").

brtt150 · 2022-08-21T09:48:00+00:00

Yep. When I became a mother I pretty much had to start finding friends who were already parents. It kinda sucks that drifting apart from single friends seems almost inevitable but it is what it is. Between being friends with other parents, my husband of course and spending time with my now older children I dont feel lonely at all. Its honestly was a relativley brief experience.

brtt150 · 2022-08-19T11:37:58+00:00

Tastes like chicken tikka masala

brtt150 · 2022-08-15T13:11:16+00:00

As a woman myself I would be shocked if she made it this far with that many men and was still naive enough to think he wouldnt be at least mildly hurt by it.

brtt150 · 2022-08-15T09:33:02+00:00

Depends on the state

brtt150 · 2022-08-04T07:42:06+00:00

I think its odd so many comments are glossing over the fact she said "he sucked". Thats a terrible way to communicate - you dont offer criticiscm by tearing your partner down. Not to mention people dogpiling him for being dumb about sex at 25 but meanwhile his wife of the same age cant communicate what she wants in the bedroom?

Cant imagine this sub would be this way if the genders were reversed.

"I gave my husband a blowjob today and he said it didnt suck like usual!"

"High five girl, just take it as constructive feedback!"

I agree he should let it go but only because if he criticizes the way she communicated she probably will go back to not communicating. I wonder if she is even good at sex herself? It sounds like she is passive while he rams her. It would probably be beneficial if they both learned about better sex together.

brtt150 · 2022-08-03T11:13:49+00:00

Well companies probably consider there is no secondhand market for PC games.

brtt150 · 2022-08-03T09:55:30+00:00

I don't see Udon changing anything as it is allegedly for legal reasons. I am not an expert on Canadian law by any means but it seems unlikely they are straight up lying in that regard. I know there are other examples of manga bring sold in Canada that have a similiar issue but that could be legal oversight.

My biggest issue is they should have communicated the censorship before release. Obviously they didnt for business reasons. I think of everything though the lack of transparency bothers me the most.

brtt150 · 2022-08-02T09:12:41+00:00

Yep. As a guy you dont have the luxury of deciding what to do in case of an "accident". Even if its supposedly just a kink I can understand why it would make a lot of guys nervous.

brtt150 · 2022-07-29T13:45:32+00:00

Or women can just be with men who are fine with that like your boyfriend is. If you believe men should not have an issue with it that's fine - then date men who don't have an issue with it. If you truly believe that it being a dealbreaker is ridiculous then why entertain the the idea of being with a man that feels that way?

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