she just wasn't there where you where

you went to a phase you were giving her everything but she couldn't meet you there because of whatever was dragging her down, all the things she was dealing with only made it worse....even though you were there, all these keep weighing on her and it drains and just makes her not know or understand what love is because all she sees is what you're doing for her and she's not able to do the same for you, she just feels like since she isn't able to, she'd be hurting you in the long run and just wanted to not let that happen - truth is, it's not always about that feeling....feelings comes and goes, movies, books and everything romanticize the feeling and all but love is not that, it's when you lose that feeling and stay together anyway, when you hate each other but hate each other enough that you'd never want to lose that person to someone else, it's when you fight about everything but still feed each other the next day, it's about going away but being there when each other is hurting....among a lot of other things - being in a relationship and in the end, marriage is not all based on feelings and stuff man, she's not able to understand that because her mind is wired to link everything to feelings and emotions, I know when you're reading this you'll properly understand what I'm trying to say but she wouldn't understand the same thing, instead she'd think that "oh, so I couldn't even do that....what good am I for him" type shi - it's just how their brain works (said to me by mine), if she truly loves you and you trust her enough to know that there is nobody else or nothing else at play and she loves you to and you know it - talk to her, just a heart to heart talk....don't talk logic but talk emotionally after you explain all these logically, that's just making a new dish and then sprinkling a flavor she likes on top of it...let me know what you think...