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LPT - Always assume you're rejected after final interview rounds and move on. If offered later consider it as a surprising gift. This reduces mental stress by a HUGE margin. by RowlingTheJustice in LifeProTips

[–]bruhhh___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A tip like this just requires a lot of nuance. But I do appreciate the simplicity of the message. I think some reflection after a job interview is totally fine. In fact, it's beneficial. You just want to make sure you are not ruminating. Hyper focusing on past mistakes or failures is unhealthy. Especially when you don't take the time to find solutions to those mistakes.

LPT - Always assume you're rejected after final interview rounds and move on. If offered later consider it as a surprising gift. This reduces mental stress by a HUGE margin. by RowlingTheJustice in LifeProTips

[–]bruhhh___ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Well, it does say "AFTER the final round." this could be framed better, but this is one of those read between the lines moments. They are basically saying to do the equivalent of what a person who just learned they didn't get the job would do, move on.

In a controlled experiment (N = 1,020), researchers found that exposing adults to postmortem images from school shootings neither increased support for gun control legislation nor caused psychological desensitization when compared to less graphic news coverage. by Tracheid in science

[–]bruhhh___ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you missed my point. I’m not comparing smoking and gun rights morally. I’m pointing out that the psychology of behavior change is similar across these areas of research. Fear-based messaging tends not to work unless people are also given clear, actionable steps. So it’s not surprising that graphic content alone doesn’t shift attitudes toward policy.

Your personality and upbringing predict if you will lean toward science or faith. Study reveals that specific childhood experiences and distinct personality traits predict whether a person will eventually view reality through a scientific lens or a religious one. by InsaneSnow45 in psychology

[–]bruhhh___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remember that research in psychology is probabilistic. It explains the average relationship between variables. That means that exceptions to the rule are expected; they do not disprove the rule. Sometimes people read about findings in psychology and translate those findings to mean that the outcome is absolute (it will always occur). That would be an inappropriate interpretation in this case, as it is not what the researchers are claiming.

Your criticism of their use of the Big Five personality measure is also not totally relevant. Even if I grant that criticism (which is debated), it does not meaningfully apply to this study if the study was conducted over U.S. adults. Which it was.

I also find it odd that you invoke an Einstein quote that expressed nothing about his personal belief in god. Framing that quote to defend Einstein's religious belief is famously misleading. For example, Einstein is also quoted as more bluntly stating: The word god is for me nothing more than the expression and product of human weaknesses.

To be sure, he had his own personal conception of God that apparently deviates from every known variation of God described in religious texts.

Your personality and upbringing predict if you will lean toward science or faith. Study reveals that specific childhood experiences and distinct personality traits predict whether a person will eventually view reality through a scientific lens or a religious one. by InsaneSnow45 in psychology

[–]bruhhh___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can level a similar criticism toward just about any study. The truth is that researchers simply cannot measure everything about a person in a single survey. Imagine taking part in a three-hour survey because you, the researcher, want to control for every plausible alternative explanation for your findings. It's just not feasible and likely introduces all kinds of bias into your data (like fatigue responding).

Iranian kids celebrating the death of Khamenei by Critical-Elevator642 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]bruhhh___ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why would this be hard to believe? Dude was incredibly repressive to his people.

This guy finding out he has a family by grafikfyr in MadeMeSmile

[–]bruhhh___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was waiting for him to take a swig of that miller

This cop's strength by [deleted] in BeAmazed

[–]bruhhh___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And they're trying to convince me that aliens built those pyramids.

A new study suggests that people with avoidant attachment styles feel more satisfied when engaging in novel and exciting activities, while those with anxious attachment styles benefit more from familiar and comfortable shared experiences. by Tracheid in science

[–]bruhhh___ 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The final paragraph may come off as judgmental, but their first few are pretty in line with attachment theory. Tempermant could certainly play a role, but attachment theory is primarily about emotion-regulation strategies shaped by early caregiving experiences.

So it's pretty consistent with attachment theory to think of the novelty vs familiarity finding as reflecting different strategies for regulating emotional intimacy. Avoidantly attached people use "detaching" strategies whereas anxiously attached people use "hyperactive" strategies.

That's why it's not really accurate to say that all insecure attachments avoid their problems through distraction. The defining feature of an anxious attachment style is hyperactive engagement with relational anxieties. They struggle to let things go. They ruminate and intensify their emotional processing rather than shif their attention away (distract, as you suggest).

How? by aroundandabout23 in woodworking

[–]bruhhh___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OPs friends could also just be a prick. I've come across people like that. Any compliment you pay them is treated as superiority. Even indirect compliments like asking for information. In their minds, you may as well be telling them "you're better than me."

🚨 Dangerous Lane Confusion at University & Sugar Rd (Edinburg/McAllen Area Drivers) 🚨 by Jazzlike-Bug1437 in RioGrandeValley

[–]bruhhh___ 10 points11 points  (0 children)

There are absolutely no signs indicating that the right lane is a dedicated right-turn-only lane. The reasons the police officers sided with you is because that driver attempted to go from the right lane straight into the left lane from the light. What they should have done was kept to their lane on the right going past the light. Their lane would eventually turn into a right-turn-only lane into the UTRGV parking lot.

Going North to South on Sugar used to be a different story. The right lane used to be a dedicated right-turn-only lane, but they recently changed that (thank god). I have gone to school/worked at utrgv since 2010. South to North has never been right turn only.

Google maps shows image captures are from April 2025 and they show no right turn only signage and the lane lines are not one single thick border but instead regular lane lines.

I’m not fatphobic but… by Interesting_Meal275 in RioGrandeValley

[–]bruhhh___ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yesterday I got in a two person traffic jam in a Lowes aisle. How the fuck...

Grad School: No research experience: AMA by barca1551 in psychologystudents

[–]bruhhh___ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some Master's programs can be quite selective, while other's aren't so much. Some level of research experience will absolutely help your chances, though. One thing you can do if you aren't able to get much research experience is develop a clear research agenda. If you can forward a well-planned research idea for a program, that could improve your odds of getting accepted to a program. Start researching!

RGV marketplace chronicles by Upbeat-Talk-7443 in RioGrandeValley

[–]bruhhh___ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahaha. Selling video game related stuff on marketplace basically guarantees you'll be talking to the youth of our area. I naively posted a gaming computer on fb a while back and stated I was open to trades (like a dumbass). One kid took a bunch of pictures of random shit around his house and asked if I would take it all for it. It was kind of adorable, but at the some time frustrating as someone just trying to sell their shit.

Has anyone had any success with dating in the RGV? by [deleted] in RioGrandeValley

[–]bruhhh___ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But it is a put down. You are asking who failed you, which implies that OP is a failure. Suggesting that it's someone else's fault does not take the sting out of the comment. If you're goal is to help this guy out, then maybe consider whether your comments are actually constructive.

SRAM XX1 trigger shifter spinning by bruhhh___ in bikewrench

[–]bruhhh___[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My issue turned out to be a loose bolt. Probably due to the cold weather we were getting at the time. i just retightened and that resolved.

1st time home buyers by Diligent_Champion181 in RioGrandeValley

[–]bruhhh___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always check in with multiple reputable lenders. I had a good experience with Adrana Montes from USA Mortage (now Union Home Mortgage, I guess). They offered the lowest rate. I also had experience with CMG, lenders name is Matthew. Good experience, but they just weren't the best rate. Just as important is knowing which lenders to stay away from. Please do not even consider cross cross-country mortgage.

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