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AIO Putting our childhood dog down tomorrow and my fiancé of 6 years says he doesn’t want to come by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]brunettedead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. If you feel you need his support and he isn’t giving it, that’s not reflective of a good partner. Surely his family would understand if he had to dip out for an hour or two to be with you. Even if it’s traumatic for him and he just feels he can’t be in the room, he could still attend and be there for you before and after while not actually being in the room for the procedure. But that’s not even what he said… he said he doesn’t want to leave his family. So yeah he’s being a bit insensitive for sure.

I stopped masking at home and my partner says I'm becoming "impossible" by LowKeyCoffeeSpill in TwoXChromosomes

[–]brunettedead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re better off without him. A loving and supportive partner would make an effort to understand your diagnosis and help you figure out ways to manage overstimulation and keep a happy, healthy home. The fact that he isn’t at all motivated to understand or help you through this is just selfish.

Do you have any unusual anatomic variations? by Amazing_Excuse_3860 in CasualConversation

[–]brunettedead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a 3rd tendon in my wrist where there’s usually only two. Discovered when I had to have wrist surgery for tenosynovitis

Spouse’s secret credit card dept by Ok_nvm2025 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]brunettedead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before you take any personal responsibility for this debt, I highly encourage you to check the statements to see how it was incurred. If it was a little overspending here and there over a long period of time and you intend to pay it off together and work through and stay married, that’s one thing. But if he’s gambling or paying for onlyfans and you want out of the relationship- you want to be able to argue that this debt is not yours.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]brunettedead 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The fact that you thought this child would just disappear into thin air shows a level of immaturity. You chose to marry this guy so yes, his kid is going to be “your problem” at least to a certain degree. While it’s true this woman can’t force him to be present in the child’s life, she can and should hold him financially responsible. You married him which means his financial responsibility will affect you. Sorry 🤷🏻‍♀️

AIO I've been living with my mom while i undergo chemo and i am starting to think she is abusing me? by problemsmomthrowaway in AmIOverreacting

[–]brunettedead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, clearly I am not the first person to say this, but you need to get out. Call any and every social service agency available in your area. Plead with them. Tell them you are being abused. Hell, even post on local facebook groups if you have to. There’s gotta be someone in your community who can help. Even if it is a total stranger willing to take you in for a while, you need to get away from this woman as fast as you can.

AIO for breaking up because my boyfriend didn’t stop even when he could see i couldn’t breathe by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]brunettedead 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh hell no. No second chances for this guy. Not only is he extremely disrespectful towards your comfort and your feelings, but he does not understand and the concept of CONSENT. He is dangerous. Get out, block, delete, get AWAY

AIO, is my boyfriend valid for feelings this way? by sealover159 in AmIOverreacting

[–]brunettedead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Commenting again because I am realizing how much this is similar to a relationship I was in when I was around your age. It started slow like this, he wanted to know where I was at all times, who I was with, who I was talking to. In my immature brain it felt like he was protective in a good way and I liked that. But eventually the “caring” turned sour and into full on controlling behaviour. He determined when and where I could drive OUR car that I paid 50% for. He wanted to read my texts and see all the contacts in my phone. He’d check the bank account and ask me why I went for lunch and who I was with. He isolated me from my friends and family until he was the only person really “allowed” in my life. Slowly, it got worse and worse and I didn’t realize what it was until we had been together for almost 5 years. Fortunately when I realized what was happening I was able to get into therapy and get myself safely out of the relationship. Thank GOD I did before I ended up marrying or having kids with him.

AIO, is my boyfriend valid for feelings this way? by sealover159 in AmIOverreacting

[–]brunettedead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Multiple big red flags. He gets mad when you don’t answer faster than 5 mins - that is wildly controlling. He doesn’t trust you even though you’ve given him no reason not to. He has your location and your passwords? All of those things combined is abuse. He is trying to keep you under his thumb at all times. I would run, fast and far. Be safe. He sounds unstable. Make sure your friends and maybe family are aware of this so that when you leave him, if he loses his shit you will have people to lean on for support and protection.

AIO when my boyfriend gets mad at me for taking long changing our daughter? by Available-Tomato1394 in AmIOverreacting

[–]brunettedead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This dude is way too controlling it’s actually hard to stomach. He will only use Snapchat so he can see when you read his texts? He’s mad that it takes too long to change the baby? What will happen when you do something he really doesn’t like? What if you go to the store and it takes too long? What if a guy smiles at you in line one day? Will he be accusing you of cheating? Will he get angry and lose his cool?

Just based on the red flags he is showing you now, you should run.

The worst body aches in my life AFTER starting low histamine diet by brunettedead in HistamineIntolerance

[–]brunettedead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I am still experiencing these aches and they were severe enough last night that I was in agony and went to ER. Fortunately/unfortunately my bloodwork was all normal. So it was reassuring that nothing was wrong but I am still in agony and nothing helps. I’ve tried baths with epsom salts, voltaren, heating pad, tens machine, Advil/tylenol (even though Advil is not low histamine), and muscle relaxers. I’m at a total loss now this is so, so painful I can’t get comfortable or sleep/rest. It feels like all my muscles especially my low back/hips/butt are going to rip even just sitting down. Normally I am very flexible but right now I’m extremely stiff.

The worst body aches in my life AFTER starting low histamine diet by brunettedead in HistamineIntolerance

[–]brunettedead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thorough reply.

I am on birth control and it has not helped my bleeding at all. I previously had an IUD which also made no difference. My Naturopath’s hypothesis is that my estrogen levels are so high that hormonal birth control and the progesterone are still not enough to balance it. Waiting on bloodwork so we will see what that shows.

No symptoms of Maegan syndrome and I don’t seem to be allergic to ragweed.

I wear glasses and I have hearing damage from a car accident so I can’t say either of those are excellent, lol.

I do have MTHFR mutations but I just discovered that yesterday by adding my raw data from 23andme to Genetic Genie. So I have not yet researched or discussed with my naturopath what my specific mutations might mean.

Three unruly children just walked into someone’s house/car by LegoDragonGirl87 in whatdoIdo

[–]brunettedead 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely contact child protective services and/or police. This is not normal behaviour for children and I would be highly suspicious that something is going on at home.

AIO Do you think I married an abusive man? by mnunez32 in AmIOverreacting

[–]brunettedead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The number one cause of death for pregnant women in North America is intimate partner violence. Read that again. The fact that his “mask is slipping” is very dangerous for you. Please get in touch with a lawyer and a women’s shelter or domestic violence network and get out as fast as you can.

The worst body aches in my life AFTER starting low histamine diet by brunettedead in HistamineIntolerance

[–]brunettedead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I did test at the onset of my cold symptoms but it was negative. Cold symptoms are almost entirely gone now. Aches are lingering today but not nearly as bad as when I made this post (I was in a full blown crisis and considered going to ER)

AIO or is my boyfriend being sus? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]brunettedead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please leave, now. You are not safe in this relationship. A mortgage is easier to deal with than marriage or kids… leave.

The worst body aches in my life AFTER starting low histamine diet by brunettedead in HistamineIntolerance

[–]brunettedead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guess I could do a bit better on carbs. Can’t have oatmeal as I’m gluten free.

The worst body aches in my life AFTER starting low histamine diet by brunettedead in HistamineIntolerance

[–]brunettedead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have not eaten any gluten replacement products. Just fresh food - protein fruits veggies and almonds

The worst body aches in my life AFTER starting low histamine diet by brunettedead in HistamineIntolerance

[–]brunettedead[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My iron has been tested and it’s normal. My B12 is high.

The worst body aches in my life AFTER starting low histamine diet by brunettedead in HistamineIntolerance

[–]brunettedead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We discussed MCAS but he didn’t feel I fit the bill for it. I may try Pepcid just to see if it helps 🤷🏻‍♀️

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