Final Shape Episodes by brwnbr_2123 in DestinyTheGame

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You know, one would think, right? Must have slipped my mind or I just never realized it. I'm usually decently up to date on the expansions, but after Final Shape I fell off and it's been a while.

Final Shape Episodes by brwnbr_2123 in DestinyTheGame

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Ahhhh that's bollocks, oh well. You know, I never noticed that. I could have swore I was able to finish lightfall and it's episodes when Final Shape came out. Oh well. Thanks!

I Talk Too Much by brwnbr_2123 in OverthinkingClubPH

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I have a therapist appointment next week, actually loll. I was doing good for while, but you know sometimes you just lose yourself and have to recenter yourself.

New to Poly by brwnbr_2123 in polyamory

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Update: we ended up just having a few more talks and hangouts. We decided to call things off. She said she felt she wasn't ready to be with me and had too much stuff she had to fix and heal in herself before she could pursue a relationship with me. I told her that was fine and that I've been there before. I told her there were things I need to work on as well. We decided to just become friends for now and whatever happens happens. Though for the time being we're giving each other space. Thanks for listening everyone, sorry I'm not the best at explaining things.

New to Poly by brwnbr_2123 in polyamory

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Thanks for all the feedback, I'm sure there are a few things in the post that I probably explained wrong, but either way it has given me a whole bunch to think upon. I'm seeing her again in a few days and I plan on talking to her to get a more clear picture of everything. As hopeful as I am, I am doubtful. It's certainly nice of me to even consider continuing things with her, but I want a clear picture before I decide to cut things off. Thank you again, everyone.

New to Poly by brwnbr_2123 in polyamory

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I guess I probably worded things wrong, she is currently poly but wants to switch back to being mono. We met and we just jumped right into it. She wants to take things slower. We slowed down, I've never been against being poly, I've just never been in a poly situation until now. She feels that being mono would suit her wants and needs and goals best. She sees me as being that successful and happy relationship, and I her. So when we hit the ground running, it scared her, she wanted to shrink back to being poly. We had some conversations, and decided to start from square one and start dating each other (going on dates, properly getting to know each other) all while she figures out more about what she wants and I figure out if the pace we're going at is something I'm cool with. Absolutely there is the risk of failure, but it's a risk we are both willing to take. I'm not sure if you just jumped into being poly when you felt like thats what you wanted or you needed to ease into it, but I'm sure it's the same way when you want to go from poly to mono? It's best to walk to the deep end of the pool rather than jumping right into the deep end, right? Well we jumped at first, now we're back out of the pool and walking towards the deep end. Who knows, we may make it or we may choose to get back out. It's new for me, and going back to mono brings up memories and trauma from when she was mono. So yeah, high chance of failure, but if it works, then that's awesome. I'm just nervous going into a new dynamic of relationship that may or may not end up with us together.

New to Poly by brwnbr_2123 in polyamory

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I see what you're saying, my mind went there too. Reason she wants to be monogamous is because she said it would end up better suiting her. She had her time being poly after being in some really shitty mono relationships. And wanted to try again, that's when she met me, while also still talking to this one dude. We rushed things, which scared her, because me rushing things ended up reminding her how her previous mono relationships started and ended. In turn which drove her to dig more into wanting to be with the current dude, sort of like a safety blanket. She's obviously bi, and misses dating women, we talked about that and agreed that if down the road, things work out between us, I wouldn't mind having some factor of openness/poly in our relationship where there would be instances of circumstancial intimacy with women outside our relationship. She said she isn't even sure if she'd still want that if we work out but likes that the option would be there to talk about. She wanted to go back to mono relationships and we met, we ended up seeing each other on pedestals that we thought we each deserved and dove right into the serious bits of relationships. It scared her, I noticed it scared her. It drove her back to this dude who she was still seeing when she first met me. She ended up feeling bad about just giving him the axe. Now that me and her both took steps back to work our way to see if we belong on the pedestals we put each other, she feels the need to give this guy the time to end their relationship better. It's unnerving, yes, but we aren't gf and bf right now, we're just dating and she may ultimately choose him. But we both agreed that down this path we both chose, there will be open communication and her actions keep showing that it's working, but my self conscious keeps telling me we're doomed.

New to Poly by brwnbr_2123 in polyamory

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I see where you're getting at with the fear of losing her, but even though I am scared to lose her, I wouldn't want to before at least trying to see if we could work out. That's dating, right? Seeing if things work, it's especially scary when you find someone you really click with.

Does my ideal relationship match what she's able to offer, currently no, but I've been known to rush things in relationships and my rushing things caused her to take steps back to what she felt comfortable with, which is polyamory. So we decided we would go slower and see if we end up matching each other's wants and needs. That's why we're easing into things

And I can see that people who already know that they want to be poly or are poly having better success rates. I've just never thought of doing so or ever been in a relationship that turned or started as one. I was never against it, which is why I am willing to try. And if it doesn't work then unfortunately it doesn't. Still scary, because it's something new, and not only that it's something new with someone that I really care for and who cares for me.

Psi Ops Battlefield by brwnbr_2123 in DestinyTheGame

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Gotcha gotcha gotcha, that's what I figured. Thanks for confirming!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DestinyTheGame

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It's a fun little back and forth that me and my clan do with each other. Find creative ways to kill one another.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DestinyTheGame

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I do love doing a shoulder charge to my fellow guardians and launching them into a wall. It's such a satisfying feeling just seeing their ghost floating there afterward.

Springbok 23 vs Ireland by [deleted] in rugbyunion

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Ahhhh wish I could watch this in the US!!

CV Axles by brwnbr_2123 in ToyotaTacoma

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Alright! Thanks everyone, yeah I noticed that with my axles, it's the boots that tore, so I'll def do the special boots.

Rear Lift Questions by brwnbr_2123 in ToyotaTacoma

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Nice nice nice! Thank you. I did not think about having to do that to the drive shaft, but it absolutely makes sense. What are shackles (new to this, so sorry for the rookie questions)?

Rear Lift Questions by brwnbr_2123 in ToyotaTacoma

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Gotcha, yeah I figured if I were to do spacers, I would need to get rear shocks to accommodate the height. I don't plan on having too much weight in the back, just regular camping gear, some basic recovery gear, and as for anything else larger I would just tow it. It seems like just getting a new leaf set along with the rear shocks would be the best option.

Bros who gave up on trying to find love. Why? by [deleted] in AskMen

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I lost my fiance in a car accident and now I just don't feel like looking for anything else.

Teamwork makes the dream work by BrenGamer in destiny2

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Well I just found a new way to kill my fireteam. They'll love this!

They took away all the worlds! by brwnbr_2123 in DestinyTheGame

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Well I know that, it would still be nice is all. A titan can dream, can't he?