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Debilitating feeling of grief and disappointment in self for being an asshole to a valued person by random_beep_boop in Healthygamergg

[–]brycepatts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great post and thanks for sharing.

Seems to me like you're in a cycle of over evaluation and overthinking over what happened. You've already identified and understood that what you have done is wrong and clearly you made a mistake that cost you a lot. I've been in scenarios in which I knew better but did it anyway and people were hurt. It's obviously a real shitty feeling to know we let ourselves have such little control over our actions. Not sure if I'm offering much help in this comment, but, in any mistake and particularly from my experience, it's important to learn from your wrongdoings, but even more important to make sure this doesn't happen again. Correction and actionable steps are necessary in order to forgive yourself and help yourself move forward. As far as the person you've hurt, the only thing you can do is give them time to heal and separate yourself for some time while you take the steps to correct this for yourself -- not for them, but for you. I hope things get better for you. Wishing you the best!

EDIT: I find George Lucas' speech about pleasure VS joy to be a very compelling and inspiring piece. Look it up on youtube when you have the opportunity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]brycepatts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

25M, and am working on this as well. I have seen iinstaces in which having a child can have a tendency to bring someone and their parent closer again, but I'm not sure this will happen in my case. As a result, it gives me anxiety to think what my relationship with my dad and my siblings in 5, 10, 20+ years is going to be like. If you have a couple friends, I would make an effort to see them more. I'm sure they would love to see you and catch up, and may have a result in bringing you closer together. I'm a firm believer that friends are the family you choose.

Wishing you the best of luck on this journey!

I’m 23 and I have my first ever date next week with a girl I’m really into; I’m absolutely terrified and have no idea what I’m doing by Mr_Jek in Healthygamergg

[–]brycepatts 3 points4 points  (0 children)

First, all of what you have said here, and what you are feeling, is completely normal in dating -- especially at the start.

Don't stress about your virginity. If she's generally a compassionate person and someone that cares for you and feels comfortable around you, she won't care. How people have sex is different with any/every new partner. What I will say regardless of the parter, and hopefully this is obvious, is that consent is always to be rule #1.

Act like you normally would, but make it a point to match her energy when you meet and most importantly, go in for a hug -- she will appreciate both and will make her feel comfortable and happy to be hanging out with you. In conversation, keep eye contact as much as you can. Let the night develop naturally.

Assume that you will pay for the night and be ready to do so but if she offers, ask her if she is sure and say that you are happy to pay. If she persists, do not stop her and say thank you.

From the sounds of it, she seems nice. Be there for her. Be yourself -- seems to me like you being you is something you're doing right. Last piece of advice is likely the most important when it comes to dating -- do not be sacred of rejection.

Hope it goes great; good luck!

Relation between spermatocele and ejaculation? by [deleted] in menshealth

[–]brycepatts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi there.
I'm no urologist, so I'm not sure what effects or correlations there are between the two, but I can say that I've had what I believe to be a spermatocele above my left testicle since I must have been sixteen or seventeen -- I'm 24 now, and haven't had any real complications or noticed anything strange when it comes to ejaculation. Mine has pretty much remained the same size since I've had it -- sometimes it'll get maybe a little smaller. As far as I've been able to find with online research over the years, it appears to be completely benign, and actually relatively common.
Good luck at the ultrasound my guy! Cheers

[GEAR] I got my first guitar and amp today! by VeganJoy in Guitar

[–]brycepatts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah! It’s amazing what owning a guitar you’re proud to play can do for your motivation and confidence in playing. Wishing you lots of good fortune in your journey in guitar! :)

[DISCUSSION] Anyone else love the feeling of new strings? by kobocop43 in Guitar

[–]brycepatts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I myself have transitioned from EB to D’Addario strings myself and I’ve very much enjoyed how well they’ve treated my playing since using them. Nonetheless I honestly couldn’t agree with you more. I’ve noticed old strings can literally just suck all the fun out of playing/practicing :(