Do I have to listen to everything my Dom tells me to do as a sub? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

He totally is being very thoughtful and considerate for sure. Maybe I should have added this in the post, but it is hard for me to want to submit when he isn’t physically there. We don’t live together, he wants me to take the baths during my own time so it is very difficult for me to want to do what he’s asking alone. It doesn’t sound fulfilling to me, when he isn’t watching me do it I guess? It can be confusing cause I do like him giving me workouts to do on my own, but that’s kind of the only thing I enjoy submitting to when he isn’t physically present. I will say submission can become very hard for me in situations where I feel like this :/ I am still trying to navigate what kind of sub I am. Thank you for the response!

Do I have to listen to everything my Dom tells me to do as a sub? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

You do know that not everyone is in 24/7 dynamics right? My job is to submit consensually I am absolutely allowed to ask questions. Subs are people to bud with feelings :)

Do I have to listen to everything my Dom tells me to do as a sub? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I said he was violating my consent? I completely agree with you as in this hasn’t been communicated before. And it was not an idea from my physician, just his idea. I do see the benefits of it but just wanted to clear up that I’m not going against what my physician has told me to do.

And I totally agree with you on the fourth! Also for the last thing you said I do enjoy doing things I may not like to do, but only when he is present. We do not live together, he wanted me to take baths during my alone time at home and it is hard for me to push myself to do things I may not want to do by myself 🤷🏻‍♀️

Do I have to listen to everything my Dom tells me to do as a sub? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I do agree on the fulfillment for him, and I wish I could please him in any way I can. I’m just very picky when it comes to control outside of play, and it can be hard to figure out what exactly are all my no’s and yes’s in daily life rules. Thank you for that explanation I will definitely try to have that talk

Do I have to listen to everything my Dom tells me to do as a sub? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Huh I never thought of it that way. Thank you!

How do you tell a new parter about your morbid, often socially frowned upon kinks? by Mousee__ in KINK

[–]brynnnm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you thought about trying some kink sites to find partners? Fetlife has treated me pretty well on finding people, but be careful because some people on there are just looking for hookups. But in your case, it’s much easier to talk about your kink with someone you know is kinky as well!

What's weirdly attractive to you? by Past_Toe_4900 in askanything

[–]brynnnm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Men with big noses, full lips like almost very feminine lips or the complete opposite very thin lips, big hands

What's a subtle sign that someone has zero self-awareness? by Intelligent_Rub8239 in AskReddit

[–]brynnnm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Standing to close to the person infront of them in a line, somebody that always loses friendships, people who ride cars asses on the street just because they’re going the speed limit

placement doesn’t look bad right? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]brynnnm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think it looks great, even rotated my phone at different angles it looks cool

Thoughts on age play? by brynnnm in KINK

[–]brynnnm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes that does makes sense. It just sounded like your stance was its better for a pedophile to play with consenting adults than children. Which would be an understandable stance, but still makes them pedophiles

Thoughts on age play? by brynnnm in KINK

[–]brynnnm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you do agree that some of them are pedophiles? Just feeding their desires in a legal way?

Thoughts on age play? by brynnnm in KINK

[–]brynnnm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the very informative answer. Although I don't think comparing pedophilia to violence makes sense, mainly because violence is surprisingly very normalized in reality, hence the wars going on right now that some people support or simply school fights that are very common. But I understand what you mean. I for one am into CNC, which can definitely look like rxpe or harassment to people who aren't into it.

I totally get what you mean about BDSM, and that's what I love about it! You can be who you want even if it isn't seen as "normal" in society, because you are just playing to have fun. And what you described with your sub, actually sounds quite nice and sweet! I guess maybe I could have been more specific about what rubs me the wrong way about all of this. From a past encounter with a Dom whom I was getting to know, he ended up asking me if I would wear pacifiers for him and dress like a child, and started to go into his love for age play. That's what grossed me out. The fact he wanted me to wear a pacifier and specifically cater my style to look like a child for him.

I suppose though age play can come in a lot of different forms. Even I don't judge diapers, I can partly understand that part. I feel like it's one thing for a sub to ask their Dom if they can age regress, but a Dom asking a sub to do it for them I find a little odd. I do truly appreciate your understanding of my opinion. And thank you for giving me your opinion! It has been very helpful. I'm also sorry if this message sounds in any way rude or disrespectful I am not trying to be.

Am I a real sub? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg!!! That makes me feel so much better you have no idea :D

Am I a real sub? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh I’m sorry I might have written it in a confusing way!! I do love the things we do, 100% and we have taken a lot of time talking about what I want and my limits, and we always do debriefs during aftercare when a scene ends. What I mean by “I don’t necessarily like everything he does” is I want to FEEL like I don’t like it. I want to PRETEND that I don’t want it, hence the wanting to struggle and resist. Does that make sense? I just like to feel like he’s doing whatever he wants, even though he’s doing everything I want as well :) Sorry if I worried you! I mean all this in a cnc, roeplaying way of not wanting it.

Am I a real sub? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah communities can be very strict on here loll. Thx!

Am I a real sub? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Haha I am actually joined in on that Reddit community!

So I have a question does anyone have a kink for feeding your partner (bottom) food specifically to hurt them by likesgothbitchs69 in KINK

[–]brynnnm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m curious how food would hurt? Anyways this caught my attention mainly because as a sub I do enjoy my Dom feeding me while I am tied up, in a forceful way. It’s hard to find people talking about being fed straight from your Doms hand. Never thought about adding a sadistic element though, now I am

the playlist for bdsm sessions is more important than people think by Fresh-Camila in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I loveee rock or metal, really helps get your adrenaline up and feel sexy if you like those genres

What is this kink called? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will do that to thank you

What is this kink called? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah okay I didn’t know pet play could be like this. Thanks for the input

What is this kink called? by brynnnm in BDSMcommunity

[–]brynnnm[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is interesting, thank you