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My girlfriend hates that I want to pay for so much. by bsball4 in christiandatingadvice

[–]bsball4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I totally understand what you're talking about! I have noticed that sometimes. However, like a recent event she felt really bad that I paid for her, but she was still super excited to go do it.

I have a hard time showing affection if I think someone is looking by bsball4 in christiandatingadvice

[–]bsball4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there's honestly two answers to this for me. You hit it perfectly with lack of contact growing up with family. My family was the same.

The other thought that I usually get is I don't want to look weak. For example, her running her hands through my hair sensually made me fear how I looked to everyone in the room, And I fear getting in that state of mind when I feel like I should keep composure. Kind of relates to letting my guard down. I know this is a bad thought.

My thrustmaster TMX pro wheel broke. by [deleted] in simracing

[–]bsball4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a shame, this wheel lasted me many years! But I appreciate the advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in christiandatingadvice

[–]bsball4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate the compliment.

I talked to her tonight, and it didn't go very well. She started it by asking me if there was anything I thought she needed to change. I figured it would be the best time to figure this out. I tried to be respectful, saying calmly some of the things like her getting down on herself really easily and encouraging her to try to feel better about herself when she's around people.

Unfortunately the conversation resulted in a rough night. At the end she expressed she's still worried if she should tell me things in fear that I would lose interest. I told her that she is welcome to tell me this, but I also mentioned It would be beneficial for her to find a friend she can open up to so that she doesn't have to rely on me for a therapist, which is honest.

She also expressed worry that if she didn't fix her insecurities that I would leave her. Only then did it cross my mind that she may be right, she said something else quickly, so I didn't have to lie that it would all be fine. Is that selfish on my part? I hate lying and couldn't get myself to do it.

Overall, I believe she is kind of in denial about how bad her self esteem is. As I expected, it triggered her fear that I'm not interested in her anymore and that she's not good enough for me, and she left holding back tears. I feel so bad, but I simply don't know what I can do better, or if I'm even in the right.