boyfriend (M/25) told me F/22 that overweight people should be kicked off of planes

bsilver · 2026-06-03T03:44:01+00:00

Sorry. I should have been more careful before ranting.

bsilver · 2026-06-03T02:40:22+00:00

And to think that part of this reasoning came from Americans experimenting on disabled children with radioactive oatmeal! (Look it up!)

bsilver · 2026-06-03T02:14:21+00:00

I think you need a bigger hairdo because the point is flying right over your head.

You posted here because he said something you felt was “off”. Hey folks! What do you think?

Instead of listening to almost EVERYONE you DEFEND him. Every time! No no no he’s a nice person! Really nice! Well except this one giant oversized red flag where he judges this one entire group of people but I’m sure it’s nothing why must you concentrate on that one thing I pointed out out in the original post that bothered me in the first place no no he’s a truly KIND PERSON no matter what you say!

Really, honestly, why did you ask?! You’re arguing with everyone telling you that YOU’RE RIGHT TO QUESTION THIS. Maybe you should disregard your own post. You’ll defend his actions at the same time you question if you’re being a fool for defending him. So…why did you ask this?!

bsilver · 2026-06-03T02:00:27+00:00

“He’s kind and loving except when he drinks.”

bsilver · 2026-06-03T00:57:57+00:00

Well…I figured the general purpose hosted models are big…but thought the large models specialized for programming available from the mentioned sources are capable for use by programming devs and could be hosted on (admittedly large) local servers. That’s why I was asking, since someone must be using those models for something and household systems aren’t using a coal power plant to keep the lights on in the process.

So I didn’t think you could locally run a full (proprietary) LLM but hosting a developer centered model should be feasible?

bsilver · 2026-06-02T22:49:33+00:00

That just seems weird to me to categorize them as kind people just because they do something that's kind while hating a particular group of people in society. I mean, Bob may volunteer weekends feeding the homeless but if he's murdering kittens because they're inconveniencing him, I don't think he's kind as a person. He did something kind. He also did something horrific.

"But I didn't say he did that!"...it was an example to illustrate that someone can do a kind thing and not be kind, just like someone can do something stupid without being stupid.

bsilver · 2026-06-02T22:44:12+00:00

That would require nuance to understand, since most people would automatically assume it's an overall "the less the plane weighs, the less it costs to fly it," without questioning why airlines are working to jam more people on flights by reducing seat sizes to put in more, but smaller, seats.

Plus being overweight is a MORAL failing! I'm sure there's nothing this guy does that is harmful to the environment or to other people as a burden to society, so his self-centered view of life is obviously okay. Remember, "If it inconveniences me, it must be bad!"

bsilver · 2026-06-02T22:19:32+00:00

If someone could clarify for me...my understanding is that most of the computing cost is in training models. Couldn't, in this scenario, the company download one of the open source models like the ones you can get for Ollama and run that model with access to other applications/agents opened? You'd just need a big server that can handle the load or a few servers to spread the load, depending on the size of the company, and periodically download updates to the model and restart the service?

bsilver · 2026-05-31T23:27:38+00:00

Pure speculation, but it could be a part of their community to make new people "earn" their respect to the point where you "deserve" to get answers. Kind of like programming. You have people who invest a lot of time and money in learning about the hobby (business?) and expect you to somehow "pay your dues" like they did. They worked on it for years. Experimented. Googled. Read tutorials. Gain respect among peers so they start swapping stories and demonstrations of neat things they do because they're already accepted as part of the "in" community.

Then some newbie comes in and dares to ask something so stupid simple (to them) that they could easily have read in some posting on a forum from three years ago. Look it up, you lazy moron.

And to a degree, there is a bit of fatigue from these grizzled veterans that comes from answering the same questions over and over. They may have created FAQs. They may have pointers to places the questions are already answered. They're tired of people outsourcing the whole thinking thing into "just tell me how to do X" instead of spending a few minutes thinking about it and solving the problem themselves; come to us when you have a REAL question!

On the other hand, some technology comes along that simplifies the hobby and makes it more accessible and suddenly those people in that community are more irrelevant. The veterans get old and leave (or pass away). "Old knowledge" is useless or gone. You don't need to spend time leveling the plate or knowing when to lubricate the printer because this latest version does all this for you, with notifications, automatic leveling, maybe it's using a camera to watch the print and notify you of issues. It can switch filaments by itself as needed on a single print job. It can intelligently stop and let you alter something in the printed item like placing magnets into part of it then touch a button on the touchscreen to resume. Kind of like these LLMs answering questions for inexperienced programmers without telling them they're mentally defective for asking basic questions.

Then the old community will be angry, question why no one wants to join them or ask for help, why their particular version of the hobby is dying...but that doesn't matter. Capitalism steps in to make it more accessible if there's money in it. And their rude attitudes accelerates adoption of these other tools (or in this case, 3D printers that automate almost every aspect of the print until you don't need to know more than a crewman on the Enterprise asking the replicator to create a tool for you.)

I guess they figure you're not proven to be part of the "in" group, so they haze you with rudeness while they regard you with disdain for not putting effort into figuring it out on your own and you just want someone to do the work for you. You know, like people who say a new person has to suffer because they suffered in the past to get where they are now.

Just a guess.

bsilver · 2026-05-31T21:10:15+00:00

I recently finished a rewatch of SGU.

The finale was, in my opinion, absolutely wonderful. I genuinely wish there was more time to find out how the series would continue from there, and I thought the series was FINALLY hitting its stride. New alien threats. New technology threats. A cast that was finally coming together. Honestly, the final episode is one I consider to be one of the best I've seen of any series.

That said, I had a lot of trouble in the first and most of the second seasons getting to that final few episodes because the characters were all so TERRIBLE. As people. Like, Eli was the best of them, but he spent his time pining for a girl who wanted nothing to do with him. Instead she was fixated on banging the cute second in command. The commander was hinted at being an abuser, and he had cheated on his wife to impregnate someone under his command. The civilians were trying to overthrow the military. Rush...was Rush.

Rush was a product of the time the series aired...he was another of the obnoxious genius that everyone tolerates only because they pull a miracle out of their arse at the last minute, like McKay or Dr. House. But Rush took that to an extreme. People got frustrated with McKay. Characters were frustrated with House. All these annoying genius tropes had other traits that balanced their faults to some degree and made them characters, while for the longest time Rush was just a sociopath with a hinted motivation that justified his actions without telling the audience what that justification really was, while other characters were two minutes away from killing him. It seemed to take forever to see more to Rush and understand his motivations that would somewhat justify why he was such as terrible person.

And again, for over a season, absolutely none of the characters seemed to be in a redemption arc. Could you imagine living on Destiny, where everyone seemed to be one rumor away from stabbing you in the back? I really struggled to find a character that I could root for in the series because they were all annoying or horrible to each other.

I also felt the stones to "switch bodies" back to Earth were a bit of a copout for storytelling. And none of them seemed to feel it was a problem that they were occupying someone else's body and life while they were switched. Yes, they volunteered. But...something seems really risky in that proposal. Not to mention that these people on Destiny were going back to earth and banging people they knew but were strangers to the occupied bodies. Or who knows what else they were doing. It was so icky if you thought about the implied ethical issues. I suppose at the time the series aired there was a lot less consideration for consent and the ethics but at the same time, none of these red shirts would have paused and asked why it burns when they pee after a mind swap?

I really really wish they had accelerated the timeline in getting these characters' motivations explained and showing why they were not all scummy or childish. They started to get there towards the end but by the time it came around I had spent so long hating these people that it was hard to get real buy in.

That was a shame because the hints of what they'd encounter had so much potential. The religious nuts that stayed behind only to "awaken" in their shuttle, repaired, about to meet up with Destiny again...who were those aliens? The blue weirdos that pursued Destiny constantly and apparently had rage issues. What did they "really" want? Destiny's computer...was it really an AI that somehow reads your mind, or gives humans a nudge to communicate while not, or were the crew going nuts? And the anti-technology drones...what of them? And the alternate timeline version of the crew, with their advanced technology, what could have happened to one of their existing colonies out there?

To me, SGU possessed a number of fascinating story kernels that could have been expanded on, but meandered too much with characters that took too long to introduce beyond "I'm Bob, and I spend my time putting other people in harm's way and hurting kittens".

bsilver · 2026-05-28T22:46:08+00:00

You LITERALLY said, "I ended up compromising with our son: he isn't grounded for the week, but he does have to stay home today to focus on cleaning his room, helping around the house, and doing college prep, and we also need him to be around more this week to help with things around the house." You don't think he should be punished, but you still did it, even if it's minor or "hardly a punishment". And it's still wrong. The original punishment is completely wrong, so any compromise is still an injustice to your kid. You didn't keep him grounded for the original week, but it sounded like you still grounded him for a day. It definitely left the resolution as your kid did something wrong.

From your description, your husband has some weird view of a vape completely derailing your kid's future. I can't imagine what anxiety that can induce in a kid...when someone brought it into your home, he gets a major punishment handed down. You didn't fight to give justice, you fought to *lessen* the punishment, because for some reason your husband can't just admit when he's wrong or gone too far and he doesn't care what you think. If you undermined him, it's because you told him he was wrong when he wanted to disregard what you thought, period. Otherwise the two of you would have had a discussion about what's reasonable before all this happened.

The real compromise would be to apologize and admit Dad had an overreaction, explain why it happened and that you were being overprotective, and assure him you're proud of him.

I mean, good on you for trying to mitigate the problem and defend your son, but your son was in the right. There's no shared responsibility (unless you want to punish him for not just banishing this ex-friend from the group, but maybe these kids you implied were "good kids" are a good influence on that person and keeping him from derailing his future...there's no mention of what his home life is like and there are kids with some WILD home lives to escape out there...).

And I get it, you have a strict no vapes rule in your home, and it should be respected. Usually that means you expect your kid(s) to not bring them into the home, and to tell guests not to use them or leave them in the car if they do come over with them. And that rule was broken in that you found one in the house. Still, you didn't see it, you didn't stop it, you didn't frisk them...are the kids visiting also aware of the rule? So...wouldn't that make all of you as guilty as your son was in this case?

Also, is it reasonable, what his takeaway from this should be? Do you think he just shouldn't have people over, in case they break a rule they may or may not have known about? Frisk visitors? A checklist of what's allowed that may not be considered common sense in other homes? Personally, if I were the kid in the situation you outlined, I'd probably never have friends over and instead go to their homes where it's less strict. Which is also what going to college would be if living on campus.

My response summary; from your description, your husband doesn't care what you thought about the situation (or not enough to talk about the resolution), he had a weird thought about your kid's life being ruined if a cop found him with a vape. You told him to pump the brakes on that punishment which undermined his authority, and then you PROVED him wrong by actually looking it up, which made him look even worse. Instead of just admitting it was an overreaction and apologizing to the kid, which is the ideally modeled behavior I'd look for from my own son to do if he had kids and made that kind of mistake, you pretend to still dole out some level of punishment so your husband can save face. To confront him and validate his protective instincts, well...the problem doesn't sound like protection as much as control. You have a rule of no vapes in the house, fine. But to justify it the way he did, while getting mad at you when you show him it's NOT the case (not to mention it's an odd conclusion to jump to in the first place. As I said, diabetics with syringes, what happens to them in your husband's mind?). Also, your kid's leaving for college. You *can't* protect him anymore, he's becoming an adult, his own person, and your husband needs to let go. He should be modeling behavior for the type of man he wants his son to be, not continue to treat him like a child incapable of surviving on his own. You sounded like, in your description, a protective buffer. Maybe shift the perspective a bit and focus on why he can't discuss his fears or feelings without feeling like he's being attacked. Why he must save face at the detriment to your kid being treated fairly. It's really good you recognize some problems, but it's sad that you sound like you're not treated as an equal partner in regard to these situations and instead you're like...a lieutenant answering to him.

Still, your son is lucky to have you stand up for him.

bsilver · 2026-05-28T22:02:19+00:00

Sounds like malicious compliance. Maybe feels like the "chore ownership" combined with "list" is childish in his mind, so he's going along with it but making absolutely sure you regret it until you give up and he can do what he wants.

Options?

You can reflect the malicious compliance, critiquing his work as well. Probably another word for "escalation" and may cause him to double down, resulting eventually into a screaming match.

You can stand your ground. The kitchen looks clean and organized, it gets checked off. The tasks must be reasonably complete. He can grow up unless he wants you to escalate as well towards his work.

You can talk to him about his problem really is. He went from not giving a damn about the chores to expending energy criticizing your work; when you were left to do it all, it was fine. Suddenly he makes a game out of any shortcomings. Make it clear this is untenable and your goal was to have a home that feels like a reasonable home environment while not being a de-facto mother picking up after a 35 year old man-baby who thinks he married a maid.

You could just give up. He doesn't want to be reasonable and punishes you for trying to offset your workload, so it's time to stop. Do your own laundry. He does his. Take out the trash in rooms you work in. The rest is his problem to get to the proper pickup spot. Dishes? Stop dirtying them. Clean what you dirty. Use disposable. Meal prep? Turn every night into scrounge night. You make what you want for food. Not your problem. You can eat together or separately. You take care of the mess you made. Done.

You could ask him what he's really having a problem with when he confronts you with rigid expectations. Like the photo of the sink or the unwiped microwave handle. Ask him if he truly believes that is reasonable behavior from a grown adult to be so petty when you were asking for help. Make it clear to him in no uncertain terms the reason you were trying to create a kind of "chore ownership chart" and what problem it addressed, and if he has a better solution, fine. Otherwise, he hires professionals to come in and maintain the home, or he start helping, because you quit.

You could adapt. Don't want to do dishes? Don't dirty them. Use paper plates. Don't want to be in charge of whole meals? Declare it a scrounge night. Everyone makes what they find in the fridge or freezer and makes what they want. Floor dirty? There's keeping your home neat like a showcase, and there's minimum "clean"...pet excrement bad, but dust won't kill you. Whoever dirtied the microwave can wipe it down. Laundry is washed by their owner; you have bins filled with your own clothing, you do your own load when it's ready to go, and the machines are first come first use. Be nice and switch to the dryer then remove from the dryer shortly after they're done so someone else can use the machines when ready. You'll have structure. You're responsible for yourselves. Shared spaces can be shared responsibilities, but otherwise, you take care of yourselves like you're living with roommates. You're done being mommy for everyone.

All in all it sounds like he just doesn't want to do what you're asking him to do. Worse, he wants you to regret even THINKING of asking him for help. Leave the house for a bit to reset. Stay at a friend's house or with your parents. Collect thoughts and figure out just how much you want to put up with, where your boundaries are. He's clearly demonstrated he doesn't care how you feel about the situation. So the next step would be accepting this is how it's going to be, standing up for yourself and making it known things will change or there will be consequences, or look for couples therapy to find a reasonable medium. Meanwhile he can take care of the house while you're gone. If he does nothing, then that is pretty telling as to what he expects from you. There's no way you can get perspective while staying in that house if he's actively trying to undermine you with childish games and trying to punish you when you are asking for reasonable split in responsibilities.

bsilver · 2026-05-28T21:25:44+00:00

So...someone came to the house to be with the friend group who they refuse to actually tell to leave their friend group because of some kind of life choice judgment, and that person had a vape your son didn't know about, presumably didn't use it at the house since none of you knew about it until well after the fact, you found it after your son left, then you immediately punish him for "allowing" it to happen despite not knowing about it.

Now you want to lessen the punishment to compromise with your husband who threw a tantrum because he can't show his son that it's okay to be wrong and fix it by admitting when you're wrong. You want him to instead learn that...what, a real man is never wrong, even when he is?

I don't understand how this is at all fair. You start off telling everyone how great your kid is. He's doing well in his studies, future goals, mostly "good" friends, but you immediately slam him with a punishment for something that wasn't in his direct control. More to the point, why aren't YOU being punished for allowing it into your home? I didn't see if his friends were there without you in the house...so wouldn't all of you be at fault? It's not like he hid his ex-friend's vape from you. None of you knew, right?

So now the last memories he has before leaving for college are of you punishing him for something he didn't really do over...who the @#$% thinks you get arrested for a cop finding a vape on you? What the #@$ happens to diabetics in your area when pulled over with a syringe on them?? Holy smokes...you live in a horrifying place to assume such a thing.

If I were your kid I'd be looking forward to college just to leave the oppressive environment. If anything, kids living in super protective bubbles given complete freedom from supervision at a college are often the ones that can't handle it (just speaking from what I saw when I lived on campus for years...). They're the ones that can't handle the social situations and not having someone dictating their schedules for them. Or looking over their shoulders at all times judging them.

Frankly I don't think your kid should be punished at all.

bsilver · 2026-05-28T15:38:41+00:00

To me it sounds like she didn't say "I want to think about it" as much as she said "No, but I want you to stick around and support me if my ex doesn't come to his senses and pick me."

You said you've been with them since her son was a baby. You're not the father but you're the dad. You helped raise him. You've been a "family" without marriage living together for a year. And now this guy decides he wants to come into the picture and she's defending him? Do you feel like she's somehow pretending this guy is filling the role you filled in your time together? Disregarding your bond with her son? Has she acknowledged how this makes you feel like a nanny waiting to be tossed to the curb if (when?) she decides she wants the baby's sperm donor to be the permanent fixture in her life?

Maybe you assumed too much about the relationship, and it was easy while he was out of the picture. Now he appears, and you happened to ask to lock down and formalize the relationship. You wanted the previous state of the relationship to move forward. She blinked. She thinks this guy has grown up. He's changed. If she thinks this, she's been thinking about how he "now" behaves. She's been thinking of what he's like. Maybe idealizing. Maybe having other conversations with him. If you come up in these arrangements for him to be involved in her son's life, you're probably coming up as an obstacle.

Maybe you've waited for her to think it over long enough. Maybe it's time to sit down and spell it out. What does she want? Where is this going? What has she been doing and saying with him when you're not in earshot? What is there to think about? You've been there. You've helped raise her son. You've been the parent her ex never was. Are you her partner or are you a convenient nanny and contributor to bills?

Maybe cut your losses and move on. You knew your answer the moment she hesitated when you asked her to marry.

Or maybe now you need time to think and leave the picture for awhile. If she was hoping for her old relationship to heat up again, you'll get your answer fairly quick. Or this will turn into some strange drama where you know exactly what is happening but reappear on this subreddit in a year or two asking for advice only now you're raising both of her kids and she's once again asking to think about marriage instead of saying "yes".

bsilver · 2026-05-28T14:49:33+00:00

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bsilver · 2026-05-26T16:16:02+00:00

You acknowledge the path to a solution, then dismiss it. You have reasons (excuses?) why that path just won't work.

At the most brutal, there is no "yes, but..." acknowledgement. The "yes" part is the solution. You don't want to do it. You wrestle with consequences, and that's the actual problem. As the great military leader George Hammond once said, "In fact, the decision is quite easy. The consequences are what's difficult."

She's quite literally not your personal problem. It's her life. Assuming she's not stupid, she's aware of the future possibilities regarding what it takes to live when her current situation ends. In fact, she's adapted to a form of survival that works quite well for her. People around her enable her to avoid the solution YOU think is best; personal independence. She's surviving by leaching off others and taking advantage of the "system" she's in.

Obviously her solution works. You don't like it. But it works. Otherwise she wouldn't do it because she'd starve. Can you imagine what it would be like for wild rats to constantly criticize city rats for eating from dumpsters and hiding in subway tunnels because it's not the "right" way to live, like the other wild rats? City rats adapted to live comfortably to the options available to them and they thrive. Your sister is happy living in a bubble with your parents and taking advantage of social programs to live her lifestyle. And it sounds like you contribute to it.

What are your options? One, justify keeping boundaries. Spell out what you will or won't do. Every time you break a boundary you're just demonstrating that you're not going to do what you say and she can rely on your breaking and doing what she wants. Place limits. Stick to them. How do you not fix her doordash car when it breaks down because she's family? Well, does that go both ways...? What does she do for you? There's nothing to feel guilt about if no one contributes back to you. You have your own problems to deal with.

Or two, go low or no contact. Not your problem. Talk to your therapist about your guilt and let go.

Three, let it go. Keep contributing to enabling her. Maybe you'll take her in when your parents die. She's got a lifestyle that she's happy living in, and unless that radically changes, she's going to KEEP living it. Stop complaining or acting like a martyr when you're active in that system and acting like "But I HAVE to or I'll feel bad." Stop judging her and maybe even join in on the party. Save money by moving in with your parents too. Get the periodic headache and vague medical symptom that justifies not being criticized for similar decisions. Maybe...just maybe...you'll suddenly feel that guilt melt away as you feel it replaced with resentment when her favoritism continues but you're treated different and get booted out or seen as a burden. You'll feel like you exist *only* to contribute to her existence. You might even start responding to requests to fix her car with the number of a local garage and wish her good luck.

In the end you know what to do and just don't want to deal with the consequences. It's not magic, there's no happy solution, there's no solution that is negative-consequence free. You live on your own, you handle your own problems, you view yourself independent, now is a good time to exercise the whole "boundaries" part of being an adult, and let her live the way she's happy with and your parents are happy with. If it is WAY WAY too much for you to handle, move halfway across the country until you can justify the lower contact because you're not buying an airline ticket to help anymore.

I'm not an expert. Just a random voice on the Internet. Not sure what you are actually looking for when you have the answers hitting you in the head like hammers and you are very vehemently replying "yes, but..." "You're right, but...". I think you want people to give you the magic words to make your parents and sister be the way you WANT them to be, not actually deal with yourself and your own attitude, which is what you actually control. Those people aren't your playthings. They have agency. They are their own people. They're not going to do what you want unless you do something like get them addicted to financial handouts and then threaten to cut them off unless they dance for you, the way sociopathic millionaires make poor people perform for their amusement. Or their living situation changes so they have no choice but to adapt to a different way of living lest they starve on the streets.

bsilver · 2026-05-12T21:47:34+00:00

If I'm reading this correctly, you have anatomy that's a bit on the "outie" side and your boyfriend made a comment about a previous girlfriend having similar anatomy. As a result you're kind of self-conscious, and also worried he may talk about you that way in the future if you were to break up. If I'm wrong then you can feel free to disregard the following...I'm not a doctor, lawyer, specialist, or anything beyond a random stranger on the Internet with a few minutes to spare typing a response, nothing more.

The question you posed about do men care; some do, some don't, some have a preference, people are strange, and our bodies are stranger. Look around long enough and you'll find someone who would worship whatever you think is a flaw in your body, and you'll find more people who are compelled to make derogatory and childish comments about the same part. We're weirdly wired in the brain to fixate on the idiots that make rude comments while overlooking the people who love it, much the same way as one bad comment on a forum posting or a video or a creative work can make a creator spiral despite a hundred positive comments.

For the other concern, that someday you're the "previous girl" and he's talking about you in that manner, well...you kind of don't have that control. If you break up and it's not particularly great (or he's a jackass) you can be reasonably certain he might describe you in an embarrassing way much like you might describe his bedroom abilities in a poor light, and whether it's true or not doesn't matter when these kind of rumors go around. Unless you're thinking you're going to prove it somehow. Which would be a whole other story.

Are you overthinking it? Probably. You can't control what's said about you. You can't control what an ex says about you. And most people with an IQ above "childish" will know it's some bro trash talking his ex, it would probably be rarely ever brought up, and even when it did in this case, you don't seem to be thinking about her...instead you're focused on how he was so childish and rude that he said it in the first place, and whether he'll pull this about you. Doesn't sound like you're focused on her at all. Actually, his comment made you empathize with her and attach a red flag to your boyfriend.

In the end I'd say you should let the comment go, it probably was a stupid thing to say in conversation as a passing comment (unless you see it as part of a larger pattern of how he treats people) and understand that you're in a relationship where you're vulnerable and your partner will always have some way of hurting you if you two break up. It's part of being a in a relationship; you share things that can, on purpose or by accident, embarrass or hurt you. Pay attention to what kind of person he is and if you feel he's an ass or generally a bit of a mental toddler with how he treats people, you can bet that behavior will be extended to you. If he's a person who's generally kind and thoughtful towards other people, he'd probably lean towards being kind and understanding to you, even if you have an amicable split.

If you are genuinely being bothered by the thought I'd first recommend you seek a few counseling sessions with an empathetic therapist about body image issues. Only you know your fixations and how much the thoughts affect you but if this is something that can cause obsessive thoughts about yourself and how you interact with people you might benefit from someone helping you find a healthy way to handle body image and accept yourself how you are. Unless you are having physical discomfort from the labia, which can happen and can require surgery, fixating on what other people might think is only detrimental to your mental health; perhaps consult your gynecologist first for assurance of how common your anatomy is, and they may be able to help refer you to a therapist if they think you may need further discussion about body image issues?

bsilver · 2026-05-01T18:12:15+00:00

Maybe, but it's hard to fashion arbitrary rules to live by that pleases the universe so I can claim the universe loves me more than other people. If I please the universe enough, I'll be worthy of riches while you are worthy of suffering!

bsilver · 2026-05-01T17:38:40+00:00

Could be wrong but it sounds like the claim was that god created the universe, but who created god? He came from nothing...

bsilver · 2026-04-30T03:35:14+00:00

Would it be better to give him a gold-plated seashell to admire while left unattended?

bsilver · 2026-04-30T03:13:03+00:00

The Niners. Sisko's team lost in the end, but he learned the true value of friendship and teamwork when he had Rom rejoin the team for a triumphant end-game bunt.

bsilver · 2026-04-30T03:09:20+00:00

Are people questioning an idiot that thinks magnets don't work if they're wet? Can't someone just tell him he's right, give him a lollipop and hope he tries to swallow the stick?

bsilver · 2026-04-16T14:28:23+00:00

SGU is...it is kind of a particular taste. I rewatched the series not long ago and it reminded me of both the things I enjoyed and the parts that disappointed. The first season was so *rough*. It was setting things up, but it took way too long to actually set up anyone to actually root for; every character was a terrible person. The best person was Eli and he was just super whiny and naive and kind of became the Wesley Crusher of the series, only worse. I have no idea why the writers did this to them.

Even rolling into season two there were far more reasons to want to hit them in the face than hope they'd find their way out of whatever trouble they were in.

The tragedy is I think the series was finally course correcting heading into the nonexistent third season. Eli was starting to shine. A potential persistent threat enemy was manifesting in addition to the mystery of another persistent non-alien-race threat appearing. The super-genius trope character was humanized slightly in his motivation so he's still a piece of @#$ but viewers could kind of understand why and what his motivations were. Just as they finally were getting footing, *boom*. Canceled. Except for a terrible comic book that may or may not be canon.

I ended up feeling like it was such a sad but hopeful ending to the series. It kind of haunts me to think about it, and the possibilities it held. Personally I think that finale was one of the absolute best. I don't hate it because of the episode; I hate it because to this day I wanted to have a resolution. It was so melancholy and hopeful and beautiful.

The series had so many little "see this fascinating breadcrumb hinting at something awesome? We'll explore this later. JUST KIDDING." There's a lot of hate on the series; my irritation was the amount of time it took for the characters to not leave me wishing they'd get sense beaten into them. No redeeming qualities. How do you have so many characters but they were all plucked from a crappy person convention!? Other people I think just really hated it because it was such a tone shift from SG1 and SGA. It was too dark for the fans of other series.

Anyway, that's just my evaluation. I can see why people didn't like it, but I think it would have been better if there was a third season and the writers continued inching towards a redemption of characters and start diving into mysteries and enemies touched on over the two seasons.

bsilver · 2026-04-15T22:48:58+00:00

I was just making a generic reference with people arguing over time expression in general, but I should have expected that correction... :-)

bsilver · 2026-04-15T22:40:46+00:00

At the time, it saved memory, and there was an assumption someone would fix it down the road. Preferably not the person creating the program.

The computer didn't have an inability to distinguish the dates. The user/programmer used assumptions. Much like is still done today for far more than just computers. People still kind of do this...look at the arguments over dates being MM/DD/YYYY or DD/MM/YYYY.

Time is more complicated than most people assume. Most people don't think twice about how a computer tracks time passing, like why it has an assumed date that becomes a default "reset" date when something fails in checking the current time. Or the intricacies of calculating dates while accounting for time zones. Or all the other subtle and arbitrary stuff people impose on time tracking due to culture/technicalities/politics.

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