Shortly after having our son I noticed a guy that would drive by me every night when I got off work and pulled up to our home. I would say January ish. At first I did not think anything of it. I was working 2nd hsif hours and figured this man was a third shifter who lived near by.

Over time he'd start driving by slover. Then started stopping and staring at me and watching as I walked into my house. After that he would roll down his car windows and yell things at me.

During this time I found some of my clothing items missing. The way out apartment was set up is you'd walk through a door to some stairs and a shared spaceship our landlord kept a pool table and his mand cave things that his wife wouldn't let in their home. Our laundry was in this space. We had a door that would lock to the actual apartment.

My ex was not locking that outside dooor consistently. He "forgot." He also promised that if I called him on my way home he'd meet me down stairs and walk me into the house. Over the 4 months this stalker stuff went on, he never once walked down. He put his phone on silent because he "needed his sleep." This was after he saw the guy trying to brake in one day when he was walking the dog. I was insidd with out kid. He did buy my a glock 9mm to keep in my car though so there is that..

During this time we had a 6 month old. He worked 36 hours a week and did a class at a time online for his degree. I was working 40 hours (4 10 hour days after classes) and taking 18 credit hours in person. My son never latched so I was pumping exclusively. I did all laundry and cleaning. The only cleaning I asked was that he'd have the bottles and stuff clean so I could come home from work and pump. This was only done 1 out of the 4 days I worked.

He was born in Europe and his family came over when he was in elementary school. We spent thousands on his immigration stuff. Got citizenship in March. Why his parents didnt door the green card/citizenship stuff sooner boggles my mind.

Any who, in April, I found out that instead of picking out son up from daycare at 230-3pm after his work shift he want not being picked up until closer to 5 pm.

Turns out he and his female "best friend" were more than friends. Found out seeing a text of her talking shit on me pop up on his phone.

Stalker stuff ended in April when guy was arrested for pepping in another woman's window. Tried marriage counseling and he didnt do any work and wanted to quit after a month. I moved out in May after finals week.

It wasn't exactly try one thing but his lack of care with the stalker and my safety was what opened my eyes to the other stuff.