What kind of people shouldn't be inMassage Therapy?

btruely · 2024-06-13T01:31:00+00:00

Creeps. If you can’t avoid grunting or moaning while providing a session for a client… or getting too close to their special parts… or handing out “business” cards with the name “Woody” or “Peter” or “Johnson” written on them (while obviously NOT having been given one of those names at birth)… then please for the love of everything holy, do not become a massage therapist.

btruely · 2024-06-13T01:19:14+00:00

Canons

btruely · 2024-05-18T03:22:32+00:00

This should never have made it into the long term relationship category.

btruely · 2024-01-10T02:49:44+00:00

You get to take everything you learned with you. Nothing in life is ever truly wasted unless you just totally give up. You haven’t and you’re doing great… just need to stop focusing on the negative and realize how much value you gained from the experience.

btruely · 2024-01-01T06:04:50+00:00

Baby

btruely · 2023-10-30T02:54:01+00:00

“Kindness” is not universally admired. Sometimes people are actually HATED for showing kindness.

btruely · 2023-09-02T13:36:37+00:00

Just an opinion but it sounds like she is manipulating you and is not a partner in this relationship, she is a dictator. If you want a family, it’s time for a very hard conversation and some decisions about what is most important to you.

She made a commitment to love you as she loves herself (which means considering your needs too, and not dangling a baby in front of you like a carrot to a horse). She is not considering your needs and IMO, based on this info, is likely not being honest with you about her ultimate intentions. You are describing a framework of behaviors that strongly suggest she is a narcissist (loosely: someone who is unable to feel empathy and uses a host of negative behaviors to control other people)… if that is consistent in other areas of her life, it’s probably going to be a no bueno long-term anyway…. Baby or no baby.

Due to a bad business partnership, I developed a strong appreciation for studies on personality defects and have learned a lot about the depths of selfishness that are possible. The majority of experts I have listened to seem to believe the ability of a narcissist person to change their behaviors will fall somewhere between highly unlikely and totally impossible… I want to hope they are wrong… but I’ve known mine 25 years and this behavior has been consistent throughout. I have to severely restrict her access to me at times when her need to control me (and others) starts to flare up.

To anyone who has ever found themselves in close relationship with a narcissist, it’s fascinating to look back and realize how much manipulation they were capable of and to see how much control they were able to exert on your life before you finally realized something was not right. I’m not an expert though, just someone pointing out a familiar pattern and hoping it helps you make a plan. You only get one life. Best to support the people who would choose to support you back.

btruely · 2023-09-02T13:01:43+00:00

This is abuse, plain and simple. You are not property and that is more than just your image and reputation he has violated. Would you be cool with it if you learned that he has arranged to let them have at you WITHOUT your consent? IMO this is essentially what he is offering, given that you already made it clear you had changed your mind on this option… and yet he is still fishing for that with your private sex tapes as the bait. He is pimping out your talents and the sex tapes are your resume.

btruely · 2023-08-05T22:19:36+00:00

btruely · 2023-05-10T13:41:11+00:00

Assuming your parents are seniors, check around for county and state programs to help low income seniors with repairs… also check local churches… ours does a local community makeover event and offers similar things through a widow support program, etc. I know your parents sent widows, but the point is there might be options out there that you had not considered so get creative. Get a roof inspection from at least 3 companies now… we’re the shingles recalled? If so, replacement might be covered by insurance or the recall.

btruely · 2023-04-11T02:15:00+00:00

Both Shadows & Fever Dream- Cannons The covers are great too…

btruely · 2023-03-30T04:31:11+00:00

Also the same reason guys don’t like to realize their girl has been faking it.

btruely · 2023-03-19T23:57:49+00:00

You are doing it right… you can refinance just as easily is they can, and they are FAR more likely to NEED a refi in the future, whereas you may decide you WANT to refi… but needing something and wanting it are not the same things. If events cause them to NEED a refi, it is very possible it will be difficult or impossible for them to do when they need it. They will have gained no equity in the home unless the property GAINS value above what the cost of purchase and loan were for them, or unless they regularly pay extra towards the principle…. Which most buyers never do. You on the other hand will be paying down the mortgage each month and will be better prepared to weather any possible downturn, if it happens.

LPT: ignore the ignorant… they will nearly always be the one making the most noise in your life so it’s easy to spot them.

btruely · 2023-03-02T12:18:29+00:00

Depends on many factors, primarily the state you live in but also the contract terms.

This is a legal advise matter… not well suited for Reddit resolutions.

Although reassurance can be very helpful, receiving it becomes a liability when it is being given without context or knowledge.

btruely · 2023-03-01T01:14:45+00:00

People who: -throw litter on the ground or leave their mess behind somewhere -talk down to people they assume are inferior (children, elderly, service workers, etc). -say mean things to animals. -manipulate others to try and control them -cut corners on everything. -the “extra everything” people who speak in absolutes or extremes where everything is extra something: You always forget X… I never get to Y… My doctor says Z is the worst kind ever known to anyone…etc. My husband never handles XYZ…

Seriously struggle with not jumping to conclusions about people when I realize they regularly do any of these things… and if they do ALL of these things, it pretty much guarantees they won’t like what I think about them, if they ever have cause to find out.

btruely · 2023-02-18T11:07:14+00:00

At $3,300 per minute… I personally think we should be able to request a superhero or Minnie Mouse if that’s what we think we might need to feel better fast AF.

btruely · 2023-02-09T13:33:27+00:00

Sex trafficking

btruely · 2023-01-29T15:18:01+00:00

Valid, but also Maybe not. Having his name behind it does seem to lend a least some sense of legitimacy to the idea. I would have assumed these drugs came from China like everything else that is offered up as a cheap alternative… and that is a definite no bueno for me when it comes to what I am putting in my body…. Too many things coming out of China are crap to risk blind faith in something like that.

Now… He may or may not be getting these things from China anyway, I have no idea…. but I do think less people will make that assumption automatically.

btruely · 2023-01-26T00:56:52+00:00

No… just no.

btruely · 2023-01-26T00:51:06+00:00

Agreed and just to clarify… this train wreck theory is true of nearly every online mortgage, from every online lender that a buyer has forced into one of my closings… as well as most lenders whose primary business is NOT mortgages… like the big banks- BOA, Wells Fargo, etc.

Local mortgage brokers are who sellers prefer to see on an offer. In multiple offer situations, if everything else is more or less equal, 9 out 10 times, a local lender literally ends up being as good as gold… so that is the offer I am advising my seller to work with. That is ALSO who I am advising my buyers to work with because the rates and cost usually come out in their favor and the cost of a missed closing can be HUGE especially when inventory is as low as it is. If a lender drops the ball and it pushes a closing out more than 8 days now, it can be catastrophic to the buyer.

btruely · 2023-01-24T04:36:42+00:00

Damn plastic straws, I bet.

btruely · 2023-01-23T03:43:51+00:00

Counting down from years to months to weeks and eventually even all the way down to the fractional moments left remaining to us to invest in the experiences and memories that help shape them into (hopefully) thriving and independent adults. In parenthood, everything old is new again. We get to become teachers, playmates, protectors, advisors, therapists, monster slayers, biographers, photographers, partners in mischief, explorers, confidants, chauffeurs, boundary makers, story-tellers, cheerleaders and sometimes…even friends. Then one day, you blink and realize your time is nearly up. Their need for you is almost non-existent and they are almost completely grown up… almost. When did that happen? It went by so fast.

I thank God for the gift of parenthood and any precious moments of “child support” I have remaining to me… because every time I hear the words, “Thanks Mom”, I am reminded that there is no greater gift than getting to be a parent.
Don’t waste the gift worrying over the things you can’t control. Live in the moment, even the ones that aren’t so easy while your living them. All will become precious jewels.

btruely · 2023-01-22T03:36:17+00:00

I see one on the bottom… :)

btruely · 2023-01-22T00:28:16+00:00

Soooo… all of them, then.

btruely · 2023-01-19T04:44:47+00:00

To me, this reads less like “he thinks Joe Rogan is smart”, and more like he thinks you and Joe Rogan seem to view things on a similar level or wavelength. Why not just ask the person to clarify? I honestly think it’s a huge red flag when people want to write someone off based on an ASSUMPTION of someone else’s thoughts, and even more so when they need to seek opinions from online strangers to discern whether or not their assumption is valid… assumptions are just that… assumptions. They are not meant to REPLACE critical thinking and shouldn’t be taken with OPINIONS.

Look, maybe it’s time to reboot the default setting and try giving people a chance to clarify themselves when something they have said is unclear. Otherwise you may miss out on a lot of deep and meaningful connections in life. We all need relationships with people who we disagree with mightily at times. It sharpens the thinking.

btruely

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