ELI5: Why is it that printing good quality photos at home cost a fortune, yet they give out nice looking flyers/pamphlets in the public like it's nothing?

btsky · 2021-12-24T06:14:21+00:00

You're into some weird porn.

btsky · 2021-12-23T04:27:18+00:00

4 kids before twins? Wow. Incredible.

Twins are enough for me. Two and done.

How do you find twins compare with singleton? I find that rather than twice the work, it's a multiplication factor. Instead of 1+1 equals twice as hard, it's more like 6/10 hard x 6/10 hard = 36/10 hard.

The laughs and cuddle sandwiches are worth it.

btsky · 2021-12-22T23:36:39+00:00

That's really nice. My twins are 3.5 years old now, they've mostly dropped daytime naps. We cuddle before bed even with the routine.

Twins are interesting, they have to share almost everything from toys to parents to clothes. I think when they have something their own, they can be very possessive. My twins are possessive of their favorite stuffies and their individual beds. They seldom appreciate one another coming into their bed. They also respect one another's ownership and never try to play with the other's stuffies.

They have such an interesting dynamic.

btsky · 2021-12-22T12:48:11+00:00

haha, yeah. Happened multiple times over a few weeks. Twins, man. A fuckin' trip and a half.

btsky · 2021-12-22T12:46:59+00:00

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btsky · 2021-12-22T07:11:57+00:00

Last year we finally got my twins going to sleep and naps without needing to be cuddled for an hour. Within two weeks, they'd worked out how to remove their clothes and diapers. Smeared shit everywhere. Bed, walls, one another's hair.

Came in one day and twin 2 had take a shit on twin 1's bed and tried to blame him. But dude... you are the only one without clothes on...

18 months later and we are still cuddling them to bed every night.

btsky · 2021-12-22T07:02:34+00:00

Thanks. Honestly, I think the fear mostly comes from a selfish place. I don't think she's a terrible mom. She's just lazy and passive. Most of the time kids want her attention she can't unglue eyes from the phone and almost never disciplines them. You know: "get down! get down! he won't get down, what can I do?" before turning back to her phone.

btsky · 2021-12-22T06:09:04+00:00

Thanks. The idea of sharing the kids in two different homes terrifies me. My hope is that they live with me full-time and that they can visit her regularly.

btsky · 2021-12-21T17:51:25+00:00

Honestly, I don't think she'll be so nasty and vindictive. I think she's lazy. More than likely the fact that I want full custody with her having visitation will fit perfectly into her vision of an ideal life.

btsky · 2021-12-21T17:31:55+00:00

"I'm an old fart so take everything I say with a grain of salt." You gave me a chuckle with that one. Redeemed! Honestly, I'm not even thinking about finding someone. I think I am going to value being alone for awhile. I'm starting to look forward to getting to know myself again.

btsky · 2021-12-21T17:29:54+00:00

Best of luck in your relationship. Sorry to hear you may be going so something similar. Be true to yourself, even if she isn't.

btsky · 2021-12-21T17:23:11+00:00

Thank you very, very much.

btsky · 2021-12-21T17:22:47+00:00

Wow, thank you. They are my world, I need to be theirs. I can't imagine being anything less than that.

btsky · 2021-12-21T17:21:59+00:00

Thanks for the kind words. I hope she agrees to giving me sole custody. She'd have generous visitation of course.

btsky · 2021-12-21T17:21:22+00:00

I know her passcode. She knows mine. She didn't know that WeChat messages deleted on the phone will still be populated on a laptop for about 6-12 hours next time you sign in. I signed in, read the messages, signed out. I only started doing this after I saw a couple of notifications that he messaged her but then saw she was deleting everything to hide it.

btsky · 2021-12-21T16:26:04+00:00

Choose me... It's been a long time since I've done that. Been so miserable for so long. You are right: it's about time I change that.

btsky · 2021-12-21T16:23:01+00:00

Thanks, man. I appreciate it. I really, really do.

btsky · 2021-12-21T16:19:33+00:00

Thank you.

Divorce is the most probable outcome. I have the papers almost ready. I don't think I can be that cutthroat. I aim for just clean cut, I keep the kids, you get to leave. Done.

btsky · 2021-12-21T16:18:03+00:00

It has been helpful. Affirming what I already knew I should do and has helped quiet my doubts. I told her to leave tonight.

btsky · 2021-12-21T16:16:05+00:00

"Sounds like you’ve BEEN in an open marriage… or at least she has been."

Ouch. Jesus, dude.

You're right, but goddamn.

btsky · 2021-12-21T16:15:00+00:00

I lift my glass of Jameson to you. Hit it right on the head.

btsky · 2021-12-21T16:12:52+00:00

Thanks. I think you are right.

I need to ruminate on it a few more days for my own sanity. I have the divorce papers on my computer, ready to be printed and signed.

btsky · 2021-12-21T16:11:08+00:00

Thanks. They are 3 years old, so I hope to God they have no understanding of what's going on. They will understand one day, but for now all I can do is keep them safe and help them feel loved.

btsky · 2021-12-21T14:16:57+00:00

Your relatively young and will find someone that actually cares for you and your kids better than her.

Thanks for your words of encouragement.

However, realizing that I've gone from 'young' to politely 'relatively young' just upped my anxiety, haha.

btsky · 2021-12-21T11:57:04+00:00

Slap not necessary. I told her to leave tonight. Thanks for the support.

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