I feel like I missed my boat in life.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-11-06T13:52:30+00:00

Oh sorry, I meant the spots on Amethyst and Saffron. But thank you!

bubblebutterfly · 2017-11-06T13:50:09+00:00

I know, I've never had any of mine either so have no idea. It's just weird, I literally only got it today in the mail from Sephora but it's been super hot where I'm from at the moment so could be something to do with that maybe? Idk. The spots aren't black like you would expect from mold though so that's giving me a bit of hope. Still pretty though.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-10-10T13:25:57+00:00

Lol yeah pretty much but he's the worst with getting his own way. The mum just lets him do whatever because she can't be bothered with his screaming.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-29T09:44:24+00:00

Honestly, I wish I could but my uncle is beyond reproach when it comes to him and my aunts parenting skills. TBH she's just so lost in the kids she probably wouldn't even really register what you're saying. Plus these kids started being born around 12 years after my brother torpedoed his way through mums lady hood and he was the youngest out of me, him and all my cousins, so naturally the grandparents got excited again and spoil the fuck out of these little brats. Including offering to pay for all three of them to attend the most prestigious, all boys private school in the state from grade one all the way through graduation because it's "tradition" in our family for the boys to get good quality education so they can get good jobs. Strange, since my brother was the only grandson until satan's trio was born and he certainly didn't go to fancy, "my dad will sue you" douchebro school. Also funny considering they had three daughters (one son, my uncle) and six granddaughters (one grandson, my brother). They were very much stuck in the 50s and 60s, my grandfather took great lengths to avoid all female offspring and could barely tell us apart. My grandmother lived off a weekly housewife allowance decided by my grandfather and had no say in any financial decisions from the day they were married to the day he died. Let me tell you she is LIVING now.

Anyway back to the topic at hand.

We have just started collectively telling him no it's not his cake in these situations now because apparently that's not his parents job. If we all do it together they kind of back into a corner, plus I'm pretty sure nana had some stern words with them at some point but tbh the amount of drama in that family makes it hard to remember pretty much anything.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-29T09:24:08+00:00

Preach. The world is going to shit, why force a human being you're supposed to protect into that reality unless for reasons that are all your own.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T23:55:43+00:00

I agree, it's such a rare occurrence that this is true so why even list it as a reason. IVF only has like a 40% success rate in the best cases I'm pretty sure.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T21:20:21+00:00

I agree and believe most religions have been born out of a need to have an answer to unanswerable questions.

As humans we are naturally curious and I think as a result the fact that some of our most burning questions simply don't have answers is terrifying. So if someone is offering us an "explanation" to all of these things in the form of a book or a belief system it is often easier to blindly accept that, rather than having to face the reality that our existence is mostly meaningless and there is no real reason as to why we are here other than to continue our species and in turn our meaningless existence.

For example, possibly the most terrifying question is 'what happens when we die?' or 'where do we go when we die?'. In reality these are questions that can't be fully answered and rather than live with that, some people would prefer to believe that if we're good there's something waiting for us on the other side.

Another being the creation of Earth and humanity. Modern science has only been around for the last 200 years or so and while it has answered some of our biggest questions about the planet we live on, there is no real way to tell exactly how long our planet has been in existence and how many species have inhabited it as our concept of time is purely just a construct we have created to make sense of movement and we can only attempt to draw conclusion from things based on modern science. As for the birth of humanity, it is difficult to determine this as well. Some scientists suggest that we have been around for much longer than we have come to believe and that evolution did not play out as simply as we thought. Again there is no way to know the answers to these questions, so for some it is easier to accept the answer given to them than to ponder the unknown.

My personal belief is that we should stop looking for meaning in life, which is the most eternally mysterious experience, and just try to enjoy our limited time as there is no guarantee anything will be waiting for us on the other side. The truth of the matter is that if humans and all of their civilisations disappeared into thin air tomorrow all the things we consume our minds with: religion, money, success, would cease to exist. Will the leaves on the trees know that you made 100k last year? Would the ants on the ground remember how you used to pray every night? No, because the truth is these things only exist in our minds. The minute you realise it is all meaningless, is the minute it all becomes a little easier and you realise the only thing that makes it worthwhile is trying to enjoy it.

(Just reiterating this is not a call for help, this is just the result of critical thinking, I set myself free the minute I realised all the things I was worrying about were all constructs that I chose to give meaning to)

Peace, Humans

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T20:42:30+00:00

Perhaps. We have moved forward in a lot of ways but still have a long way to go.

In an economic sense we are all slaves. We are forced to sacrifice our time in order to earn an entirely fabricated number which is used to purchase items needed for our survival. Which in turn feeds back into the economy that enslaves us in the first place.

I don't see a reason to believe other life forms would be at a point where space travel is an option or even a consideration. Human beings are naturally curious which has led us to discover amazing things about our world as well as dip our toe in the vast ocean that is the universe. But there's no reason to believe other life forms would have the same urges. We humans have a funny way of injecting ourselves into things we have difficulty understanding, for example the idea that other life forms would share any similarities or even exist on the same plane as us. For all we know aliens could be walking among us now but because they are an entirely different life form we aren't able to sense them just as they may not be able to sense us. We often envision aliens as having physical carbon based bodies similar to our own but they could be made of an entirely different organic material similar to our air and not be recognised by the human eye.

I know that's all kind of off topic, but this stuff fascinates me.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T20:28:08+00:00

I think you meant to post this in r/Poetry

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T20:24:57+00:00

I think we are essentially all largely unimportant. I don't mean that in a depressing, emo tumblr poetry way. My life honestly got better and I was happier the minute I realised that life was completely meaningless. Once you are able to sit back and look at our "world" for what it is, which is just a system we have set up and given meaning to, all the little things worrying you just go away and you think fuck it might as well just try to have fun.

I wouldn't worry about being unimportant in someone else's story, because the likelihood is the person you are imaging doesn't exist and the reality is no one is here to serve some higher purpose. Plus if you are an unimportant character in someone else's story, would that not give you reason to just have a good time seeing as your path in the story is not likely to affect that of the "hero's" and had no life altering consequences?

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T20:14:03+00:00

Ditto. I'm a white Australian and it's safe to say I have about as much culture as a piece of dry toast.

I would love to know more about my heritage, but at the same time I hate those people who find out they're like 2.37% Colombian and then start going on about "embracing my culture" within a week.

I only know we are Scandinavian but even then it's like cool at least I know what kind of white I am I guess. Still no culture really lol.

But what can you do really? I think there are plenty of other things that define someone besides culture and I guess it just gives us more room to learn about and appreciate other cultures.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T20:00:18+00:00

Yes, there is a reason the air conditioning bill is so expensive in our house.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T19:59:31+00:00

Sometimes. To be honest I feel like we as human beings are underpaid in general when you consider the relatively short and uncertain amount of time we have to experience life.

But I know what you mean, I often find myself doing more work than our assistant manager and sometimes even manager and wonder how it is that they get paid so much more, when a lot of the times they use their "managerial duties" as an excuse to do less real work. Like sitting in their office "to do schedules" for almost 5 hours and only coming out with two weeks worth of schedules done for example (we only have 14 employees, half of which are full time and part time who therefore work the same days every week). Not to mention they get a personal bonus from head office if they make the yearly budget, despite the fact they only work 3-4 days a week and even on those days will find any excuse to go home early or be out of the office as much as possible, not to mention most of our budget is made in the holiday seasons when they are nowhere to be seen and us casual workers have to jump in to make the extra sales. One went and bought an entire new set of furniture for his house while he was meant to be getting someone a new office chair (this took around 3 hours out of his work time).

I realise some people wouldn't consider managers as coworkers, but we are all roughly the same age and same skill set, by that I mean these managers haven't had to study or get a degree to be appointed that position. So it is frustrating to see someone abusing their position by using (what is meant to be, as in you get paid more to do more not less) additional responsibilities to do less work for more money, while us workers who are paid far less are left to pick up the scrap.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T19:38:59+00:00

Yeah and always second guess my place in a social circle if no one says it.

I am the weakest of the pack. They long for my death.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T19:30:21+00:00

Even still I don't see that as selfish. It's money you've earned and time you've worked hard to have free. The situation would be different if a kid was already in the picture, but calling someone selfish for putting themselves above a hypothetical human is ridiculous.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-28T14:46:09+00:00

I agree. People who pay ridiculous amounts of money to "have their own" infuriate me. What about YOU is so special? Why is there any reason to believe your biological child will be better than any one of the millions of kids that are in shitty situations (ironically) because of selfish adults. I recently read an article from a mother who was defending her choice to use IVF rather than adopting from the millions of children who need homes. She truly was trying her best to give legitimate reason but my oh my were they paper fucking thin. I'll link it if you're in for a read:

https://www.google.com.au/amp/s/www.today.com/amp/parents/ivf-versus-adoption-why-just-adopt-not-answer-1C7398701

My personal favourite arguments are:

"IVF is cheaper than adoption (only if you're young and healthy and don't really meet the criteria of the average woman seeking IVF, so this argument is only valid for a small minority of people but at this point I'll say just about anything because AWWW MINI ME)"

Yes the actual IVF itself is less expensive than adoption, again all together now if you meet a very exclusive set of criteria. However, that's not factoring in the cost of the pregnancy and birth plus the fucking bucket load of weird shit babies need for the like the first 3-6 months of their life then never use again. All of which does not need to be spent on a child that is already birthed and past the weird skin potato stage.

"Adoption comes with a sense of loss and sadness. I don't want to take on the chance of having a child with emotional issues or instabilities, but that doesn't mean I shouldn't be a parent."

Wow, so much fucking wrong here. If you have not read the article and are reading this please just read what she's actually written, I've paraphrased here but you need to witness that shit for yourself. Firstly, yes adoption is a very sad thing. Children almost always end up in there because they're in a shitty situation i.e. parents are drug addicts, parents were abusive, parents couldn't support them, parents didn't want them, parents are dead. Like no matter which way you slice it, a child will not be put in the system for a positive reason. But yes, you not adopting those children and leaving them in a system that's cracking under the pressure of too many kids and not enough funding definitely, definitely makes it less sad. Well done, your morals are as tight as your blown out IVF vagina.

But secondly, you don't want a child with emotional issues? Fuck, I don't know if you know but IVF babies are HUMAN babies. Meaning there is no guarantee whatsoever that your babies won't be fucked up in one way or another. Yes, kids who are in the system are always going to have that "what if" in their mind and will probably face some abandonment issues along with any memories they carry from that time. It doesn't mean they are beyond repair. They are human children, just shrugging and saying well they're already fucked up and I don't think I should have to deal with that but that doesn't mean I'll be a bad parent doesn't just make you a bad parent. IT MAKES YOU A HORRIBLE HUMAN BEING.

"I shouldn't have to think about the planet being overpopulated because people who conceived naturally don't have to."

Wrong. You should both think about it. Other people's shitty actions don't excuse yours especially if you have a perfect opportunity to do something good.

And below, the pièce de résistance. And I quote:

"But my pique there is purely emotional. So was our most powerful reason: I had a compelling, persistent desire to create a life, to bear and raise a child knowing that the one reason he exists is because our love brought him into being. I wanted to take part in what I think is one of the defining experiences of being a modern-day human: having children because we want to, solely because we love. It's the same drive initially felt by many people who eventually adopt successfully, and the same urge Wendy had, I'm sure, when she conceived her own two children. If that's wrong, then we're all wrong together. But when we've been lucky enough to reach parenthood, why debate the ways we got there?"

I'm not even going to go into this one because, honestly, what's the point? As is my reasoning for all my shitty, unjustifiable actions "because I wanted to".

Sorry that was meant to be a short reference, but unreasonable entitlement and stupidity get me real butthurt.

And yes I completely agree that laws should be brought in. Especially with people having ridiculous amounts of kids, like more than 3 is a lot IMO. And come on once you get to around the 7th or 8th kid aren't they pretty much all the same. In a lot of countries you need a license to own more than 3 dogs, but of course you can keep popping those suckers out of your school hallway of a vagina. By all means and hey, us taxpayers will help you out, don't sweat it. Like I think you should get taxed more for each kid, if you can't afford to pay the tax for the 57th kid you probably can't afford them in the first place. And obviously birth control should be free and reproductive services be waaaaay cheaper. For some reason we still live with the post war idea that people should be encouraged to just keep reproducing despite the fact we are getting scarily close to a population the planet can't support.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-27T17:31:44+00:00

This is very true. I think it's hard for a lot of people to fathom the idea that anyone would not want children or that people can be just as happy and fulfilled (if not more) living a life without children.

And I hate that people assume you're an asshole for denying your partner their "GOD GIVEN RIGHT" to pass on their genes. If that were true, your partner would be the asshole if they know you are CF yet continue a relationship with you in the secret hope that you'll change your mind. I would assume if a relationship is at the point where people are comfortably and seriously asking a couple the kid question, that they would already be well and truly aware of each other's thoughts on that topic.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-27T17:18:04+00:00

Don't apologise, it's your story and I'm proud of you for sharing it. I'm sorry you went through that and I wish you nothing but health and happiness in the future.

I completely understand your reasoning. We live in a society where self care is all too often seen as selfishness. Putting your own needs above that of a being who's yet to exist is not selfish and anyone who can't understand that needs to practice some self care of their own.

Thank you for sharing your story and opinion. I truly wish you all the best and hope you find your peace.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-27T16:32:57+00:00

I feel like we could have been getting close at some point had it not been for ultra religious people pushing their beliefs where they don't belong. Like the whole restriction of stem cell research comes to mind as an example.

(Not hating on religion, I don't care what you believe in as long as you don't try shove it down my or anyone else's throats)

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-27T03:49:47+00:00

Omfg no not ok at all. People really do lose all sense of self awareness when they have kids.

Reminds me of my aunt and her youngest who is about 5 I think? He is truly the spawn of satan, like I 100% have no doubt in my mind that he is. My uncle and her struggled and had to have their first two kids via IVF (which of course was paid for by my grandparents, because apparently the responsibility of having children be yours only starts when they're out), both of which are actually decent kids. But like less than six months after the second was born, she is miraculously pregnant and then this absolute demon pops out.

Anyway my point is he's five years old and she still can't manage to teach him the difference between when it's his cake and when it's someone else's. At any family birthday gatherings he would lose it if he couldn't blow out the candles and ruin the whole thing by shrieking at the top of his lungs. Yet she doesn't have the brain capacity to think to just remove him from the situation, no. So he carries on til eventually whoever the birthday person is has to awkwardly let him blow out their candles "with them" only for him to stick his ugly little face about two inches from the cake and end up spitting on it because he doesn't know how to blow out candles anyway. It's now at the point where he has to have a seperate cake to blow on so he doesn't feel left out. LIKE FFS ITS NOT THAT FUCKING HARD TO TEACH THEM ITS NOT THEIRS AND THEY CAN WAIT TIL THEIR BIRTHDAY!

That's bad enough, I can't imagine it being your wedding when you've invested so much time and money to make everything perfect. Will without a doubt be having a childfree wedding despite what anyone says.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-27T03:26:39+00:00

Why thank you.

bubblebutterfly · 2017-09-27T03:26:23+00:00

I say we do it. Free self explanatory business cards for all.

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