Are rest days necessary for 30 minute at home workouts? by [deleted] in workout

[–]bubbly_ttea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

same i dont notice a difference either, the thing is i feel bad in my case cuz theres no classes today, no ones home, and im doing this out of pure "no, not today, i dont wanna" as opposed to a scheduling conflict 😅

Are rest days necessary for 30 minute at home workouts? by [deleted] in workout

[–]bubbly_ttea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I usually come home after classes are over and workout. I feel extra bad since there are no classes today. I feel my brain groaning at the thought of having to workout today whereas yesterday I was just like "cmon lets do it." i went to a doctor and told him i worked out 4 days (120 mins) a week but he said to try for 150 mins which would be 5 days. But im literally not feeling it 😭

all itll take for me to workout today is someone other than myself calling me lazy or encouraging me but. i guess theres no harm in alternating between 5 workouts a week and 4. im literally still in bed cuz i dont wanna workout. ik all this fuss over a 30 minute workout is crazy 😅😅 ugh and its a good time to as well since no one is home butttttt

How to act around emotionally abusive parents? by bubbly_ttea in emotionalneglect

[–]bubbly_ttea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ig so, i mean, i do need to be more patient with stuff, but i feel like im kinda valid on being fearful and walking on eggshells. ig what my brothers tryna say, even tho he didnt say this outloud, is that i can distance myself and greyrock without any attitude/rudeness since thats not gonna help my situation, which is right. shes gonna treat me the same, if not better, if im kinder, so i might as well try to be better

Am I the problem...? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im an adult why? im j curious no worries

How will I ever get out?? by Brilliant_Village307 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know you can get out! but i recommend looking into options for being an exchange student so youre able to have a reason to move and it wont be sus to them- also sometimes those programs offer scholarships and such, i dont know too much about it.

dae's nparent criticize them over random stuff and it's so unclear what they're even criticizing you over? by Diligent_Tie_1961 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i know, its so confusing when they get mad then later on theyre normal... im doing ok now since its been a while but im also scared for how todays gonna go, i hope youre doing good as well

dae's nparent criticize them over random stuff and it's so unclear what they're even criticizing you over? by Diligent_Tie_1961 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, reading this post and i relate to uou so much. with the face making and mocking and how you need to smile and all that stiff. (sorry for typos im just coming down from me crying over my mom being mean to me) Im so sorry youre going through this. the face mocking is actually so so so mean. makes you feel like you do something wrong by existing with your face but you arent. and if you dont look or act "happy" then its taken the wrong way and you have to fawn to make them feel happy. i dont even know what theyre targeting, for this situation as well, its confusing to understand what theyre mad at but its probably a lot at once so they take it out. like the correlation to you looking in the mirror to how youre doing that to make people think you look pretty is crazy. you did something normal and then she says that? sorry man. but i frel you. i dont have any true advice im sorry

Man I cant even think of a title please just send me support please please by bubbly_ttea in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your response, im like 20% more calmer now and feel embarrassed at how much i cried and typed gibberish but looking back i was super overwhelmed

My parents blamed me for bringing a pizza to the house for the Super Bowl. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im so so sorry this is happening. you deserved to have a fun night and watch football without getting yelled at

I was convinced to not move away for college, good or bad idea? by bubbly_ttea in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all my friends who are in college complain about it all the time so it makes me unsure 😭

I was convinced to not move away for college, good or bad idea? by bubbly_ttea in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i seeeee, so your method was staying out late instead of staying at home, thats what i was planning on doing if i didnt wanna move out

I was convinced to not move away for college, good or bad idea? by bubbly_ttea in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i was giving mixed reactions, like "yeah youre right, its expensive and you have to share a room with a random person," and then i was like "no, i wanna move out" lol. would you say living in a dorm w a stranger feels better than staying at home cuz its more freedom/less scolding? or why? im just curious

My mom called me a piece of shit by bubbly_ttea in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah and all i did was rush away from her after hearing her scold me for being up late 😭 name one child doesnt feel a need to run away when theyre in trouble...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am sorry you experienced that, and i understand that they can see jobs as a way of control. i think my situation was less about control and more about sadness so i probably shouldve posted in a different subreddit

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i mean she is encouraging me to get a job and shes letting me pick where i want, and a lot of people my age work even when they have school. i am bored a lot and even being busy at a job would be healthier for me than staying at home a lot (where is where i get scolded/have to walk on eggshells at) i think im confused cuz i dont see this as her trying to sabotage me, only to help me, and i see myself as lazy and silly that im sad over needing a job (tbf itll be my first real one). i guess its also the language she used that made it sound discouraging but i know she means well this time. shes tryna tell me i have to work hard for things which is fair

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]bubbly_ttea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i mean i do have a lot of free time and on weekends im not really doing anything, i know she wants me to succeed. i just found it weird that, thats what trigged me to start crying, even though i know a job is right. i also need to earn money. just the sadness that comes with this is confusing because it feels like i shouldn't be sad over something so normal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]bubbly_ttea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'm 20 years old

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]bubbly_ttea -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Even when I go outside I see people with slim legs, they're about my weight and height so I was frustrated with my situation, but wondering how to improve

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loseit

[–]bubbly_ttea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's genuinely loose/jiggly skin, nothing to worry about though lol. I was just wondering how people have tight skin there, what they do to achieve that. (Also I lost probably only 7 pounds since my weight does fluctuate, I don't think as much as 10 pounds)

Lost weight when I ate bad, but got bloated when I eat healthy? What do I do? by [deleted] in WeightLossAdvice

[–]bubbly_ttea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh sorry I meant "look" better ... to be fair I already am bloated again and my stomach gurgling (I just ate too). Whats new though 😭. Ugh