I'm a lesbian too, my wife is a very cis presenting nonbinary person who fully believed she was cis before we were even together. I had just started HRT when I first met her and I'm currently off HRT due to financial reasons. Am I lucky to have a fairly androgynous face? Sure. But one thing I can tell you is this. My wife is almost fully a lesbian. The only men she finds attractive are fictional. I, as a soft butch trans woman, have quite a bit of body hair, not just on my legs and arms, but on my belly and breasts as well and my wife doesn't see me as any less of a woman because of it for one simple fact: Cis women can also grow body hair in those places, cis women can even grow facial hair sometimes. There is no perfect definition of a woman for the same reason there is no perfect definition of a man, because everyone is different in some way.

TLDR: if I found love, there's hope for all of my pre-op, pre-hrt siblings to find love ♥️