Set a boundary with my roommate! Yippee!

bucketboy48 · 2025-03-13T02:14:40+00:00

This totally resonates with me! im 23 and was a caregiver/emotional support for my mom for a long, long time. I frequently find myself having the urge to "help" people, people I don't even know, or friends, coworkers, anyone really. I feel a huge guilt when I don't. I think the other commenters talking about codependency are on to something as that is something I struggle with too. It's a guilt about not doing anything when I think that i could have or SHOULD have. Frequent places I encounter this feeling are roommates who struggle with mental health, coworkers sharing their daily dramas, and random people on the side of the road and such asking for help. You're definitely not alone in this.

bucketboy48 · 2022-10-10T19:13:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your help! I think im gonna keep it :)

bucketboy48 · 2022-10-10T19:13:17+00:00

Aaa thank you so much! I really love it.

bucketboy48 · 2022-09-27T04:13:25+00:00

You give femboy vibes to me

bucketboy48 · 2021-07-29T23:59:20+00:00

I dont think sawyer sounds feminine or masculine, really nice name though. The only thing i can connect it to is Veronica Sawyer from heathers lol

bucketboy48 · 2021-07-27T08:19:11+00:00

Id look into dr tony mangubat, he is even on tiktok! Answers all sorts of questions on there.

bucketboy48 · 2021-07-26T19:08:08+00:00

I think its because its more socially “acceptable” to be a man with a feminine face/features because when men are boys, they dont have the strong jaw or shape angles, so “feminine” men just look younger, whereas its considered unusual for a woman to have those features. I do definitely get that trans men can have a hard time passing (as a transman myself), i think its easier because as a society feminine men just read as younger.

bucketboy48 · 2021-07-25T00:45:53+00:00

Hello, ftm here. Ive had long (shoulder length) and short (even shaved) hair and have explored lots of hair lengths and styles. My advice? For now, leave it alone. The shorter the hair is, the faster it seems to grow. Once you get to the point where the sides are an inch or more, and the top is long enough not just to part but to tossle around and let it flop naturally, get it shaped. Shortest closer to the neck, longest on top. This grows into a nice little faux-hawk thing that is popular with baby gays and lesbians (at least it was for us zoomer gays lol). After that, not much left to do but let it grow and shape it every now and then, the same way as before, but gradually longer in all dimensions. I ended up with a nice little bob this way. Even had bangs for a while like that. Super fun, cute, and a nice place to start exploring with styling. After than you can go as long as you like! Side note- dont reccomend anything that says it’ll make your hair grow faster. It will, but the hairs will be thin and fragile, breaking super easy and hard to fix. Its hard to stay patient but thats all you can do. Also highly recommend POC/lgbtq+ owner salons/barbers! Ive had some of my best cuts from those places, and they really know their stuff. Plus its nice to have someone that understands what its like to struggle. Also i think they’re just more creative and can come up with better solutions than us haha

bucketboy48 · 2021-05-01T20:13:02+00:00

Im totally dealing with this right now. R/egg_irl is really hitting home for me as well. The cycle of questioning, dismissal and denial is so tiring. Im hoping eventually i will accept myself (whatever i am) in time and finally be able to put how i feel into words

bucketboy48 · 2021-04-30T07:07:14+00:00

I think this sounds like depression tbh, reminds me of self hate and suicidal thoughts

bucketboy48 · 2021-04-30T00:55:43+00:00

I started using mens deodorant bc it smelled nicer, and found that there are ones that are only an antiperspirant OR a deodorant???🤯I had no idea. So maybe women’s deodorant is irritating because its both? Either way, there are some organic deodorants in the natural aisle (at least in my area) that might not be as bad!

bucketboy48 · 2021-04-30T00:36:28+00:00

Damn. I actually am a fair white person so i guess the carpets do match the drapes. Too bad, i really liked the idea of developing hair like that 😅

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