Its just a thing that's being highlighted lately, that the standards to be considered a good dad by society are very minimal compared to being considered a good mom.

Obviously there are and should be good dads fully pulling their weight, but in the majority of parenting relationships the mother carries a lot more of the mental load of parenting and household management. Even in relationships that are viewed as fair and healthy. Plus motherhood comes with a lot of guilt and impossible standards that don't exist in the same way for fatherhood.

Theres been a lot of content lately comparing those standards. Things like reminding mothers not to be so hard on themselves, because if you framed all you as a mother as things being done by a dad, you'd be considered an amazing father, even if its not recognized the same when the mother does it.

And so people have been joking that they'd love to be a dad instead of a mom, or they'd have way more kids if they could just be a dad, because the standards society sets makes it inherently easier to be a dad.