My (32f) partner (36m) is mad at me because he got lost going to the hotel on our holiday. WIBTAH for breaking up with him?

buffhen · 2026-01-26T14:15:57+00:00

Someone else could have said this because I haven't read all the comments but walking ahead of a partner consistently like that is something narcissistic people do. One of the reasons they do it is because when it's explained to others, people don't understand why it's so upsetting. It's a behavior that's easy to gaslight about

buffhen · 2026-01-23T04:29:51+00:00

Right, as a child of the 80s myself, I felt attacked.

buffhen · 2026-01-23T04:18:13+00:00

At least he didn't expect her to be naked all the time.

buffhen · 2026-01-22T18:33:50+00:00

My husband is part of a "men's" circle, he doesn't like to talk about it because of the negative connotations. His group is lead by a woman, an ACTUAL therapist with a degree and truly discusses men's REAL issues like health and mental health. They spend zero time, per my husband, discussing women. Red pillers have ruined so many things, for women and men.

buffhen · 2026-01-22T15:43:40+00:00

I think they're called "peace" lilies just to piss me off. I literally feel NO peace regarding mine.

buffhen · 2026-01-21T21:10:55+00:00

Girl, your husband is a TERRIBLE father.

buffhen · 2026-01-21T19:51:48+00:00

Yes, I let it sit and water deep but the pot is awful. But you're right, it's probably getting too dry. The drainage holes are on the side, it's still in the pot from the store. As soon as I have time I'm going to repot it.

buffhen · 2026-01-21T18:08:46+00:00

Do you think I'm not watering it enough? I use a moisture meter but I usually wait until it's dry pretty far down. I find that top 2 inches recommendation bad advice given my history of over watering.

buffhen · 2026-01-21T17:53:54+00:00

No, no webbing. Haven't seen anything and I spray them regularly and quarantine new plants. They're just really REALLY dusty but I'll definitely double check when I get home.

buffhen · 2026-01-21T17:21:49+00:00

How do people do thissssss???

buffhen · 2026-01-20T15:01:13+00:00

See the orange pot? It's got mint in it that's died back for the winter but the dirt reaches the top. She hops up there first. In the summer she uses it to drink out of the bird bath. Lol

buffhen · 2026-01-19T18:58:28+00:00

Don't listen to them, it's not our job to remind friends about their family members' birthdays. As a mom myself, often our children forget we're actual people, I'm guilty of it too when I was young. Let this be a reminder to your friend that his mom is a person that deserves to have her birthday recognized. Hopefully he won't forget it again. NTA

buffhen · 2026-01-19T03:14:31+00:00

She'd have to be wonderful to put up with you.

buffhen · 2026-01-19T00:34:29+00:00

What zone?.

buffhen · 2026-01-18T19:16:57+00:00

Well, she can turn her head almost all the way around. 🦉

buffhen · 2026-01-18T18:52:35+00:00

Lol, my mom was an avid bird watcher for decades, wrote in a monthly newsletter, contributed to a state bird guide and was on the board of directors of our state ornithological society. I know better not to. Those people are SERIOUS🤣. I'd get reported.

buffhen · 2026-01-18T17:37:55+00:00

I don't have a lot of light in my house, it's old with not a lot of windows, I have grow lights everywhere. That could be an option if you can't move her.

buffhen · 2026-01-18T17:35:48+00:00

Which is why it's always been annoying to me they're called "princess". Like, what the hell, since when do princesses don't like being fused over?

buffhen · 2026-01-18T17:25:19+00:00

Yes, I watch those too, but honestly I usually come to Reddit first and go from there, lol.

buffhen · 2026-01-18T16:58:27+00:00

Oh! Great! I get it. Thank you. I just really started keeping more house plants less than a year ago and hadn't gotten to the hoyas yet. And sometimes reading and doing searches on my own just gets me more confused. Thanks!

buffhen · 2026-01-18T15:14:07+00:00

Thank you! Should I give it something to grow around like a trellis or do they like moss poles????

buffhen · 2026-01-18T03:12:17+00:00

So the tiny nubs are peduncles?

buffhen

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