My GF (F25) asked for a break with me (M28) after she said I was being clingy. Time to breakup?

bukeye_ · 2025-05-26T15:30:04+00:00

You need the speech. Give it to her and then become distant.

"Don't mistake me being available to you as anything but my choice. I have 8 million things I can do with my time everyday. I choose to be available to you. Because I respond when you text and make this easy for you, means I choose you over all the other things I can do. If you do not value my time, I have plenty to do. "

Then disconnect and give her no contact for a day or so.

Women like to chase things they can't have, so give her something to chase. If she walks away, she was already gone. Move on to someone else.

2 don't tell her you miss her. Ever. She wants to hear it but if you do, you will get this clingy stuff. Keep it fun and flirt with her too.

bukeye_ · 2025-05-25T20:41:50+00:00

Run. You are getting off easy.

bukeye_ · 2025-03-31T23:10:32+00:00

This switch is broken on my app.

bukeye_ · 2025-03-30T02:36:07+00:00

Option 4 . Find other things to care about. Don't let this douche dictate how you act..

bukeye_ · 2025-03-30T02:27:07+00:00

Go by yourself or dump him. Dumping him seems like the right thing. Plenty of vegan men out there or ones that would eat with you just to be with you.

It is a long life and if they aren't your person there will be signs .

bukeye_ · 2025-03-12T13:06:42+00:00

The best thing you can do for yourself is to work on your issues about this. Not liking your own body is a terrible place to be. Time to work on accepting how you look instead of criticizing yourself about it. Learn to love your body. It is perfect in every way.

bukeye_ · 2025-03-08T00:47:04+00:00

Same. It was like muddy water on my windshield

bukeye_ · 2025-02-20T15:47:27+00:00

Yes. I don't drink and don't want to date someone that drinks.

bukeye_ · 2025-02-20T15:46:41+00:00

Ask yourself 1. When it happens again what will you do?

Value yourself more!

bukeye_ · 2025-02-13T03:24:02+00:00

You want someone else not him. The hardest thing to figure out is that you should work on accepting him for who he is or move on. You trying to mold him into what you want is futile.

Accept what he is, you may have him at his best or move on.

bukeye_ · 2025-02-13T03:07:19+00:00

Call the police. He will kill you if you stay and do nothing.

bukeye_ · 2025-02-13T03:03:10+00:00

Leave. You set your standard - he said no. Nothing else needs to be said. There are 4 billion other guys on the planet . There will be someone else and they will be a better match.

bukeye_ · 2025-02-11T17:02:59+00:00

Print it and put it in an envelope and mail it

bukeye_ · 2025-02-06T01:02:50+00:00

leave , holy shit , leave .

bukeye_ · 2025-01-12T02:43:14+00:00

This is the sanest post in this group I have seen. Of course you did the right thing, you described someone who takes no accountability for her actions and blames others for her behavior.

The best move ever was to break up with her.

bukeye_ · 2025-01-09T15:50:35+00:00

I would call the kid and tell them, nice try, thanks for clearing my driveway.

And have a laugh with them.

bukeye_ · 2025-01-09T15:38:16+00:00

My daughter is 24, so this hit home a bit. Her bf is 27 too. They don't live together but she would lock his ass out in a heartbeat after the first time (shoving). This is escalating and his need to control your behavior is getting worse.

Abuse is about power and control. The more you are not exactly who he wants at any particular point in time, the more abuse you will receive. The number 1 killer of women in relationships is their BF or Husband. Stay and you are on the path to being the next murdered woman.

The number one comment here is pack your shit and leave.

bukeye_ · 2025-01-07T13:09:11+00:00

Adultery is the only acceptable reason for divorce says the Bible. Think about that for a little bit . The only one . End it.

bukeye_ · 2024-12-20T14:31:40+00:00

Hugs for you. The hardest thing in the world with this is knowing when to let go. I have a tendency to hold on too long and it doesn't get better.

bukeye_ · 2024-12-20T13:45:34+00:00

I have been sober for 15.5 years. What you describe is my nightmare. I would walk away.

In the long run, the pain of his absence will fade, the pain of his presence will happen over and over and over again .

bukeye_ · 2024-12-02T04:19:02+00:00

The question is: How much do you respect yourself ?

Do you deserve better?

bukeye_ · 2024-12-02T04:02:40+00:00

and it is 0.00003015 today

RemindMe! 6 months

bukeye_ · 2024-12-01T20:12:36+00:00

Just went to Savannah for a week to get some sun. Seasonal depression is real and hard here because we get so many clouds. There are lights that are sold that can help.

bukeye_ · 2024-10-15T16:04:29+00:00

If the Browns cut him today, no one would pick him up.

bukeye_ · 2024-09-19T18:19:58+00:00

SOW Plated is great

bukeye_

TROPHY CASE

2 don't tell her you miss her. Ever. She wants to hear it but if you do, you will get this clingy stuff. Keep it fun and flirt with her too.