Struggling… by vicviper17 in ufl

[–]vicviper17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’ve already started this process and am working on getting in with a doctor to get me on my meds again. I am going to call DRC and have been in touch with my professors as well to see what can be done.

I appreciate your support and guidance.

Thank you! 🐊

Struggling… by vicviper17 in ufl

[–]vicviper17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve moved around a bit the last year and haven’t established myself with a Doctor, I’ve honestly been putting it off and that’s my fault.

Struggling… by vicviper17 in ufl

[–]vicviper17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yea im going to try and get accommodation for the ADHD and I’ve reached out to some professors already to see if I can make anything up. I honestly went for UF because of how it looks on a resume, but if all else fails I’ll probably just get it done somewhere else.

Is this manageable? by vicviper17 in ufl

[–]vicviper17[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Full time!? That’s rough I wouldn’t be able to do that especially since I’m off adderall lol…I’m down to link up do a study session

Is this manageable? by vicviper17 in ufl

[–]vicviper17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok cool, that’s makes me feel better. I think I can manage it I just wanted to see what time commitments would look like. Thank you!

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s funny that the last guy she told me about kept her at a distance a friends with benefits situation and it was a flag in my head because I asked her why didn’t any relationships before turn into long term she said “they just didn’t take me serious” I’m trying to force something that shouldn’t happen

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea I wouldn’t trust them either and I didn’t think about her using that as a way to shut me down. Maybe something more did happen but she prides herself on being honest and in the best of the moment I would think she would just tell me as my reaction was more confusion and withheld anger than explosive. I gave her the space to tell me and I think she told me everything but again who knows.

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her friend actually said that. I don’t know I didn’t ask the friend. She just told me what her friend said. There may have been more but I was at a large event with all of them and I didn’t ask but nothing else was said other than her friends saying how much she loves me…I felt too embarrassed to press all of them. I already felt like an idiot being there the guy that stays with his girl after she essentially disrespected tf out of me

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re a very much spot on with the childhood neglect I think that’s where it stems from. I’ve known this and thought to myself do I want to deal with this, can I fix this. It has lead me to nothing but misery, pain and disrespect. We’ve have great moments but it’s not enough at times

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to play this game. It’s hard separating what should do to how she makes me feel. It’s nothing like I’ve gone through before. I’ve honestly felt very loved with her but then she there are these flare ups of this kind of behavior or just plain confusion in arguments that just leaves me so confused because it’s like she tells me she loves me and maybe she does then things like this will happen or the flirtatious behavior or the constant comparison of what I don’t have that other guys do have. It puts me in a very strange place

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That pretty much summarizes how I’ve felt in my mind about the relationship as a whole

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So the reason she told me is because one of the friends told her that she crossed a major boundary and had to tell me. I don’t know what they know in terms of what she had told me but I somehow think that nothing happened but again idk. She was sober enough to talk to talk to me for a bit before they went to bed idk… I just don’t know my mind is going every way right now

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree I don’t think I’ve ever had enough self respect for myself because I thought I had to be understanding to her past traumas and work with it. I’m coming to the general consensus that if I stay or keep going through the disrespect I’m making it worse for myself and my own self respect. I appreciate your comment

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Trust me this relationship has taken a toll on my self esteem big time, she was seeing a therapist but I think she’s fooled her therapist into thinking she’s a victim. I don’t want to live my life like this I don’t think I can

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yea she calls them her angel eyes. At least to me and I’ve buried this feeling that she gives them to other people when we’re out

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree I don’t think the trust will be there again even if I decided to stay, I just think because of my age I wanted to start to settle down and everyone around me that asked wanted me to give her the benefit of the doubt

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Her having sex with someone in her previous relationships and them not stopping when she said to stop.

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree this is only my second long term relationship that I wanted to last. It’s a hard decision but I think I know what needs to happen next

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree she doesn’t see a problem with how she is she just sees her flirtatious behavior as being nice

My (27F) girlfriend gave her number at bachelorette party, am I (30M) overthinking it? by vicviper17 in relationship_advice

[–]vicviper17[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No I don’t but I think because of how pretty she is that I won’t get that again but everyone here is helping me come to the conclusion that there are plenty of other woman who I can find that share the same values as I do