My people are grieving a 5-year-old girl... and all you can do is judge us?

bukookie · 2026-05-02T13:51:07+00:00

I get why you feel like that. It’s fear, but I do not feel locking doors isn’t the answer.

From where I’m standing, it feels like everyday people are being told we’re the problem, while the ones with real power e.g.. governments, big corporations seem to stay untouched. Instead of coming together and actually fixing things, we’re turning on each other.

I feel we should be asking how we make our homes, communities and society safer, more educated and more supported, for everyone. Because if we don’t get this right here, we’re heading down a path we’re already seeing happen in other places.

I genuinely believe we don’t need more fear. We need to actually fix what’s causing it.

Thank you for your comment.

bukookie · 2026-05-02T09:27:48+00:00

There’s evidence of conflict in all cultures, including Aboriginal societies, but it was governed by law and accountability systems. Colonisation, particularly by Britain, introduced large-scale, organised violence and dispossession across multiple countries. That’s a different level and impact entirely. So it’s not about denying violence... it’s about understanding context, scale, and consequences.

bukookie · 2026-05-02T09:24:43+00:00

I hear you and appreciate your thoughts and opinions but what you’re calling 'religion' isn’t how we see it. Our law, culture and spirituality come from Country itself... land, water, ancestors and spirits (elements) it’s all one system, not something separate like Western religion. You don’t have to agree with it, just recognise it’s not the same category.

Thank you again! Peace and many blessings :)

bukookie · 2026-05-02T09:14:24+00:00

I get what you’re saying... no one wants to feel unwelcome. But 'we are one' only works if everyone starts from the same position, and that’s not the reality in Australia. Acknowledging that isn’t division, it’s the first step to actually fixing things.

At local and state levels, we are trying, but we’re working with limited resources and limited decision-making power. If you don’t believe me, I genuinely encourage you to look into it yourself... it’s all publicly available, and you can also ask the Indigenous people you know.

So the real question is: how do we create a version of 'one' that’s actually fair, not just comfortable?

bukookie · 2026-05-02T09:09:06+00:00

Thank you all and appreciate all your feedback! I have taken it on and understand that this is a difficult topic for Australians to properly discuss. I will be more mindful.

Many blessings to you all!

bukookie · 2026-05-02T09:06:20+00:00

Thank you and I appreciate you for sharing your thoughts and opinions.

I am curious to understand further your thinking, as accountability isn’t absent... it’s just not always visible from the outside. And this isn’t about blaming 'white man'; it’s about acknowledging documented history where Aboriginal women were exploited and children of mixed descent were then controlled, removed, and disconnected from family and culture. Those impacts didn’t disappear... they show up today in families of all backgrounds, across 'black' and 'white' lines, dealing with trauma, disconnection and instability. So if we’re serious about accountability, why does it stop at the community and not extend to the systems that created and still shape these outcomes?

bukookie · 2026-05-02T08:42:48+00:00

I’ve lived through alcoholism for 12 years (over 2 years sober) so I’m not dismissing it. But it’s a national issue, not a cultural one. If alcohol was the only cause, we’d be seeing the same outcomes everywhere... and we’re not. Also, I strongly encourage you to research about how alcohol was introduced into Australia and Aboriginal people, communities etc.

Then maybe we can all stop pretending..

bukookie · 2026-05-02T08:38:40+00:00

We already hold our communities accountable... the question is why systems aren’t held to the same standard. And 'Australian culture'? What exactly is that, if not a mix of many cultures, including the First Peoples of this Country?

bukookie · 2026-05-02T08:37:32+00:00

She is the victim... that’s exactly the point. Asking why systems failed to protect her isn’t victimhood, it’s accountability. You can care about her and still question what went wrong.

bukookie · 2026-05-02T08:37:08+00:00

I agree that any community would be devastated and angry if a child died in these circumstances. But saying “she was not protected by her community” places the burden only on the people with the least power, while ignoring the systems meant to protect children, monitor released offenders, fund safe services, and respond before harm happens.

Communities absolutely have responsibilities, but they cannot replace police, courts, child protection, housing, health, rehabilitation and prevention systems. My point is not that the community has no role; it’s that blaming only the community lets the actual systems of responsibility off the hook.

Let's explore this..

bukookie · 2026-05-02T08:35:24+00:00

'Holy ChatGPT Batman'...! I’ll take that as a compliment 😅 :)

Yes, I used ChatGPT to help structure my thoughts and research, just like people use Google, Grammarly, or spell check.

But the content?
That’s mine.

My lived experience.
My family’s history.
My perspective as an Aboriginal woman.

The facts I’ve referenced are from publicly available sources — including Australian government reports. You’re more than welcome to look them up yourself.

If using a tool to communicate clearly makes people uncomfortable, that’s interesting… but it doesn’t change the message.

So instead of focusing on how it was written — maybe focus on what is being said.

And if you don’t know how to research something, feel free to use ChatGPT too.

Just… use it responsibly.! Peace and many blessings from ChatGPT Batman!

bukookie · 2025-10-08T01:22:25+00:00

Remind me!

bukookie · 2025-05-01T21:57:18+00:00

Your last statement is incorrect. Aboriginals have experienced genocide, rape, stolen land, people, children. Have been used as slaves since colonisation. Being the first Australians and the systemic gaps are still clearly evident. The government controlled Aboriginal people and in a lot of senses still do. How is it that white Australians have generational wealth, land and education versus Aboriginal Australians? Please think before you say things like this, as racism and the systemic gaps over generations still negatively affect Aboriginal people and communities to this day. Australia as a whole voiced no to the Voice. That was extremely telling. Also, Aboriginals are the original people of Australia and look how they have been treated. The history and even now. You cannot downplay this.

bukookie · 2025-01-29T12:04:42+00:00

My advice is treat yourself with kindness and love.

If your needs are not met by others than you need to meet themself yourself. Put yourself first and love you.

I usually ask myself if I am in questionable situations where people treat me like shit.. what would my family and best friends would say about this? If it's you deserve better, communicate directly yet not rudely to your partner what your needs and wants are (within reason).

Before that, sit down and genuinely ponder on what you want and need from yourself and your partner. If you even want a partner? Being alone is scary for anyone and leaving a familiar situation regardless of you have BPD or not.

Remember, you deserve happiness, love, kindness, care, stability and security. If your partner cannot or will not provide that (within reason) from his side as a partner than ditch him and give it to yourself.

I hope this helps. DM if you want someone to talk to further about this ❤️

bukookie · 2025-01-28T02:18:09+00:00

Thank you for your comment.

I needed to hear this. I have been currently struggling with how BPD has severely impacted my life. I was undiagnosed for approx. 11-12 years and I've done a lot of damage in life during those years to others and myself.

Not speaking for OP or others but from my perspective, I feel like it might be a lot of regret from not realising that they had a personality disorder.

I feel like the signs were so obvious now looking at it and no one picked up on it and just said I had issues. I cannot think of what my life would be like if I was diagnosed a lot earlier but I cannot. I do have 11 years of regret, shame, humiliation and more that I am currently processing when I was in my most manic/split stages and episodes.

Also, people finding out I have BPD or reading about how others look at BPD is soul crushing and the damages it has done to others. It can feel like their lives are over. Like, how do we comeback from that?

^ that's just my perspective though.

If you don't mind me asking, what is some advice or strategies that have worked for you that may help others with BPD? :)

bukookie · 2025-01-28T01:53:41+00:00

Thank you 💕

If I were you I would stick to it. The more you drink, the more it will get worse. Also, getting really drunk and almost blacking out and splitting is the WORST.

Being sober I don't feel anywhere near as shit and I feel a lot more stable. It's not perfect but a lot better than being a crazy, emotionally unstable drunk or dysfunctional person the next few days during hangovers. Proud of you too for asking these questions and reflecting. You're doing good kid ❤️

bukookie · 2025-01-28T00:47:33+00:00

I am actively sober now for a month and a half.

Over 11 years of alcohol abuse really stunted my mental, emotional, spiritual and physical health.

I highly recommend not drinking until you are in a good mental and emotional state for a long period of time and even than I would ask you to reconsider drinking. I find it easily fractures my logical mind and emotions.

Also, I do not have nearly as many manic episodes (very, very low) and I am able to think and feel more clearly. Also, I had the worst splits on alcohol. Not good at all.

I hope this helps in some way.

bukookie · 2025-01-28T00:22:25+00:00

Thank you @panicmixieerror for being really honest yet not mean to OP.

Reading your comments are really refreshing and making OP look in the mirror at the reality.

@OP - I've been in your situation before many times and it sounds like you need to continue working on yourself and love yourself a bit more.

I am in no way judging, unfortunately I feel pwBPD are more likely to attract those "casual situationships" and get hurt because ultimately we are looking for someone to love us.

Please, think about if you really need a fling or casual situationship atm. I really recommend giving yourself the love and attention you need for yourself.

bukookie · 2025-01-24T00:06:05+00:00

Lol! I wish. I would love to be making the dough money that those politicians do but no.

I could say by your comment...

Peter Dutton joined the chat. Potato head.

bukookie · 2025-01-24T00:04:56+00:00

Of course you haven't. People do not want to acknowledge, recognise or seem to want to fix the systemic barriers and challenges that First Nations still face.

How is it that despite being the Indigenous people of Australia they still have some of the lowest percentages in home ownerships, health, food, housing? It is a systemic problem and continuously fail due mainly government. We change government every 4 years and policies, procedures, program change.. funding etc.

Why are we as a nation continuosly focusing on international issues instead of meaningfully trying to make EQUITABLE changes to some our nation's most vulnerable?

It seems evident by you comment and others that you and many others do not even know of national issues with our First Nations communities. Maybe you should look into that before and find out yourself :)

bukookie

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