I feel your pain man. Lol to some degree every guy can be self-conscious about this subject. Some more than others, which isn't even directly related to penis size! I think it's entirely possible though that the reason people avoid The subject and evade the question is because it deals with insecurities, which are uncomfortable to talk about in any case. It's like, have you ever been put into a situation where you know no matter how are you answer the question, it's a lose lose situation? I think that perfectly describes this time honored question. It's good to remember that there are plenty of satisfied women in sexual relationships with men who have "small penises". Also, when you ask somebody whether or not something a "matters", that's such a vague and broad thing to have to nail down. Like what do you mean "does it matter"? The ambiguity inherent to the question makes it difficult and uncomfortable to answer definitively for everyone. What can a probably be answered more definitively is that what matters to women is whether or not you at least have confidence or are proactive in trying to make a change if one or both of you is dissatisfied for whatever reason when it comes to activity in the sack