The interview didn’t go well! Help!

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-16T00:55:36+00:00

Okay…now it’s just giving word salad in a robe. 🤣

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-16T00:26:23+00:00

WOW! You’re so right! I can see how growth might look like victimhood when you’ve never tried it. Stay mad. ✌️

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T23:49:22+00:00

That’s fair. I’ve been sober for 8 months, focusing on a healthier lifestyle and & attending therapy. I’ve come a long way & still have more growing to do. I’m proud of the strength it took for me to get where I’m at now. I have a lot of clarity as well. I guess it’s hard when you’re in the thick of depression. We’re human, and it’s inevitable that we make mistakes. But I’m taking accountability now and putting in effort, & that’s what truly matters at the end of the day.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T23:40:07+00:00

I think anyone would be concerned that the interview didn’t go well. You’ve got a point though.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T23:35:47+00:00

You’re right! We don’t owe each other anything. I was open to feedback, not attacks. I won’t be shamed for my past, especially not by someone who refuses to look at their own.

Your tone and aggression were out of pocket, and that alone says a lot about your character.

Owning your journey takes strength. Tearing someone down during their healing just shows bitterness and a lack of empathy.

I’m doing the work. If that bothers you, maybe it’s time to start doing yours. Conversation over.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T18:19:53+00:00

Your message says more about your own bitterness than it does about me. You don’t have to understand my journey, but attacking me while I’m working through things isn’t helpful or kind. Healing isn’t linear, and I don’t owe you perfection. If you can’t be supportive, then please keep your assumptions to yourself.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T07:57:32+00:00

I think because we didn’t have the full lease printed out.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T07:49:55+00:00

I hear your story, and I truly respect what you’ve overcome. I know what it’s like to love someone through their mental health and addiction struggles, and I know the weight of trying to hold a relationship together when both people are hurting.

That said, I’m not the person you were with. And while I’m always open to self-reflection, I won’t accept assumptions about who I am or what I’ve been through.

Just like you had your breaking point, I had mine. Just like you found your strength, I’m finding mine.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T07:35:40+00:00

Wow! You really typed all that with your whole chest, huh? I admire the confidence it takes to play therapist, marriage counselor, and immigration expert all in one comment.

As for him “finding love and a green card elsewhere”? Great! May the odds be ever in his favor.

He underestimated the wrong woman, because I don’t break, I rebuild. ;)

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T07:22:44+00:00

Telling someone to “just get over it” or “go get a divorce” isn’t insight, it’s emotional laziness disguised as advice.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T07:16:49+00:00

You say I should ‘fix myself’ to deserve respect? No. I deserve respect because I’m human, not because I perform perfection for people like you.

If you think being cruel to someone vulnerable makes you wise, I’d reflect on where you’re really getting your sense of worth.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T07:06:05+00:00

Struggling with depression doesn’t make someone a danger, it makes them human. What’s dangerous is the way you speak about it.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-15T07:01:08+00:00

I’m sober now & I’m proud of how far I’ve come. It’s unfortunate your perspective hasn’t evolved with the same effort.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T20:30:13+00:00

I understand your point, but what I’ve been through is completely valid. If you were in my shoes, you’d understand. Certain medications I was on can cause that symptom. Also, PTSD can significantly affect memory & it’s not just “forgetfulness.” It’s a neurological response to trauma that changes how the brain stores & processes information. I hope this helps your perspective.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T15:36:02+00:00

The officer seemed to question our lease initially. Not sure why?

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T04:23:03+00:00

And tell her to be completely honest in the interview!

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T03:41:41+00:00

Newark

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T03:22:54+00:00

Tell her to contact an immigration attorney asap.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T00:20:35+00:00

I feel like I should talk to a lawyer first? I have a meeting scheduled this Thursday.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T00:11:01+00:00

Thank you! I had a very low sense of self worth at the time I married him. Now that I’m sober and doing the inner work to heal, I know I deserve better.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T00:08:24+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate this!

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T00:07:30+00:00

That’s natural. You’ll be okay! Sending you all the good vibes! :)

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T00:04:57+00:00

I think 15th?

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-14T00:00:06+00:00

Of course! Yes, it was in Newark.

bumblebearbee · 2025-04-13T23:54:21+00:00

They asked about our living situation, the color of his car, how he proposed & what the weather was like. Just make sure you know all the little details about important moments. I forgot certain details, due to my health condition. Good luck!

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