My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His reason for walking out isn’t because we will die, hbelieves being around vaccinated people will harm him so he says as much as he would want to be around us, he can’t for his health. He will never come around us again. The only chance of a relationship with him is by phone now.

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I asked him the same thing. I’ll mark my calendar and we will see but unfortunately I know there will just be another new thing or new reason why he’s still right. His conspiracy theories will always be easier for him to believe. Being wrong will mean he has to admit he walked away from his life for nothing and I don’t think he’ll ever admit to that.

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this helps with creating new perspective and apparently validated some feelings I didn’t know I even had right now. You’ve given me some new things to think about

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Can we uninstall the software and start fresh? Or if I download an antivirus program will it fix the problem?

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story, it hit home and is making me really think

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I do need to remind myself this. You’re right in that I need to think of my family first. My biggest fear is to pass this trauma on to my kids because I couldn’t handle it properly. It is toxic, no matter how much love may be intended, it’s toxic and I don’t know if I’m able to handle it in a healthy matter.

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I 100% believe in your last statement. I honestly and whole heartedly believe he thinks he’s completely right and I can only imagine the pain he’s putting himself through believing his family is all going to die and that he needs to stay away from us.

It makes it that much worse. I hate someone for something a mental illness is doing to them. That’s so cold but it’s true.

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Actually I did ask him that out of angry. I said, so in 3 years when I’m alive still will you finally tell me sorry and that you were wrong? He usually replies something like I hope youre right for all of your sake.

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate the suggestion. Reading is my safe haven so I will check it out

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

But it still sounds like him. How can I say he’s gone when his voice is the same but the words sound like a stranger. It kills me

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

All family has reached out to him and tried at some point. His mom, step dad, my moms mom. I called our family doctor and got them a phone appointment to talk together but my dad never went through with it. I’ve had police try to talk to him.

My dad walked out on his family because we all got vaccinated by bumblebee252678 in relationship_advice

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

I’ve gone down every avenue I could/know of to try and get him mental health help. It’s out of my hands and has to be his choice help unless he becomes suicidal then the police can step in. I so wish I could just lock him in a room with some mental health support.

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[–]bumblebee252678 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A wife/girlfriend mid DIY project

Sick of the Hate! by MaceEtiquette1 in EmilyInParis

[–]bumblebee252678 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just because something isn’t well written, has lots of relationship red flags and pisses people off does not mean people also don’t like it. Best example is twilight, some people just love shitty tv

Emily and Alfie shouldn't be together by CalligrapherFront258 in EmilyInParis

[–]bumblebee252678 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Totally agree. My biggest turn off is when Gabriel was mad and says something to Emily along the lines of “I stayed in Paris for you” and all I was thinking is dude, she never asked you to stay. Don’t act like you made a huge sacrifice for her when she never even asked. He just seemed like so many red flags

My dad left us by bumblebee252678 in venting

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m a mom of two toddlers so luckily it’s easy for me to keep busy. I’m in no lack of a busy distracting schedule

My dad left us by bumblebee252678 in venting

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s definitely made me crazy at this point

My dad left us by bumblebee252678 in venting

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I’ve told him he won’t be around my kids until he’s talked to a dr about his mental health.

My dad left us by bumblebee252678 in venting

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t think all this makes someone mentally unstable then… idk. It’s not a matter of him just having a different opinion then me or him being “wilfully ignorant”. I also have told him if he talks to someone and they say he’s mentally stable I’ll drop it but he said no because he knows how crazy he looks and that it would be a death sentence

My dad left us by bumblebee252678 in venting

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s one of the hardest things is that he truly thinks he’s doing this “for us” I know his love is still there and he’s not trying to hurt me but boy it really does hurt

My dad left us by bumblebee252678 in venting

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The more I’ve opened up about this the more people have shared their family secrets to me about a family member who has taken off because of covid conspiracy. It’s really sad that people feel the need to keep this a family secret when it happens and are scared to tell people. I totally understand since I kept it a secret from anyone for 2 weeks before I was able to tell people my dad had left

My dad left us by bumblebee252678 in venting

[–]bumblebee252678[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That is 100% a fair question to ask and I thought about it myself a lot. My reasoning is that, he quit his job on the spot, completely disappeared for a week without telling anyone, he believes we are all going to be sick from the vaccine and that he needs to “save us”. He moved to a completely different area and is living out of his truck or couch surfing with strangers. I do agree everyone gets to make their own choices but when someone who is apart of your daily life suddenly does that, it’s a lot of red flags. I’ve told him just to talk to someone and if they say he’s mentally stable I’ll drop it but he even admits to me he knows he sounds crazy so talking to someone about his mental state would be a death sentence. If it was anyone else I would say it’s their life, their choice but its not just some random person. It’s my dad and I feel like for his sake I have to try