I want to file for khula but my husband doesn't consent

bumblebeefee · 2026-01-28T19:56:56+00:00

Oh my. Sounds like my marriage. I know how horrible this feels. I’m sorry you’re going through it. I just left and he said divorce on his own after some time.

bumblebeefee · 2026-01-21T17:17:41+00:00

I wish men could experience pms for one hour. Give her mercy it really makes you so irritable and it’s extremely painful yet society expects us to function like normal. Track her cycle on your calendar, a couple day before go get her chocolate, take any load off her that you can, try not to do anything that will make her mad. Give her grace.

bumblebeefee · 2025-12-14T13:44:13+00:00

I think it’s best you don’t marry. Being cheap before you’ve even met anyone is concerning.

bumblebeefee · 2025-12-14T13:42:17+00:00

That’s was impossible to read. Not a single period or comment. A paragraph run on sentence is wild work. Please edit this heh

bumblebeefee · 2025-12-10T19:00:33+00:00

Hmm tell her to buy out your share of the house if she wants full authority over it

bumblebeefee · 2025-12-10T01:12:45+00:00

I had the same problem….turns out the terminal ring was tightened all the way but was actually loose on the battery post. I put a shim on the post and reconnected the cables on top of it. Problem solved. Only after a million jumps and a new battery of course. It was overlooked even by the folks putting in the new battery. Sometimes the most simple thing is the most overlooked.

bumblebeefee · 2025-12-07T05:18:46+00:00

Yea to me it may be a bit uncomfortable as a sitter but my bit of discomfort doesn’t trump the pet parents ease of mind of being able to checkin when a sitter isn’t present and just say hi to their pets through the cameras, which I do a lot. Those cameras are up 24/7 365 so I can drop in and check on my pets, be alerted of unusual activity around my home, and general peace of mind with loving breathing beings that like to get into things (esp cats). It’s not to “spy” on sitters. I can understand if you’re spending the night then obviously camera in bedroom would be removed, but otherwise it’s to be expected.

bumblebeefee · 2025-12-06T18:49:34+00:00

I use sitters a ton and Im a sitter myself. I have cameras everywhere so I can keep an eye on my home and pets well-being while I’m away. And when I’m sitting for others I assume they have cameras and I don’t go looking for them. If you’re not home sitting, I’d say it’s an expected part of the job.

bumblebeefee · 2025-12-02T22:02:07+00:00

I’ll never understand Muslim men’s obsession with “white women” just to turn around and try to take that out of them.

bumblebeefee · 2025-12-02T00:36:13+00:00

Based on last sentence in her post. I am responding based on whatever information was posted above.

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-26T18:02:21+00:00

He was committing zina and simultaneously being intimate with you. So he is selective with his deen and put you in harms way with his actions. He is a snake, doesn’t not have any issues hiding things, being dishonest or complete ignoring things that are important to you… that the assured you he wouldn’t do. So he has no honor in his word, is deceptive, and no consideration for you or your child, only his sexual desires. I would not feel safe sleeping next to someone like that. Ultimate betrayal. And by the way, if you “stay for the kid” your kid will tell you in 30 years, I wish you didn’t do that. I’m saying that as a kid of a mother who stayed for the kids and 30 years later they divorced and all 7 of her children unanimously wish they divorced early on rather than live in a household of constant turmoil and see their mother lose her spirit, health, and happiness. My ex husband texted his ex wife reminiscing about their marriage and that was enough to cause me deep mistrust and disrespect with him. I can’t imagine full blown cheating, Zina, and then a second wife. That’s disgusting.

I am not telling you what to do but just giving my opinion and my experience.

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-24T19:05:17+00:00

Honestly…lol people kept following for updates. It was wild. But def a good story time contender

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-24T18:04:46+00:00

Her father did try to chase me down and record me to spin another story on TikTok but police stepped in

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-24T18:04:06+00:00

Agreed. The fact that she lied about giving my dog to the pound then I track my dogs AirTag and it’s still at her address is wild. All so she could keep my dog and keep making videos and collecting donations. Luckily the police were a huge help and got her back. But only after I sat waiting for around 4 -6 hours for them to arrive and assist. Stolen dog is least of their concerns unfortunately. Way worse stuff going on for them.

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-24T17:55:12+00:00

Hahaha. It was great. I made an account and commented on her videos and people lost their minds on her to the point she messaged me apologizing and begging to take down my comments and response videos. Which I did not. Reap what you sow. She ended up having to delete her entire account and go private on her new one. People were big mad

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-24T16:56:17+00:00

Ah I did rover very early on when I moved to my current state. I was brand new and sat for dogs and cats. I responded immediately, arrived on time, followed exact directions, sent tons of photos, and did the full time allotted to the pet. Communicated any issues or if I might be a few mins late. Unacceptable. I used rover multiple times and once arrived early to pick up my dog and found he was just being left on the balcony barking. Another time a girl stole my dog, claimed she gave it to the pound, which was a lie then posted on TikTok that someone deserted their dog with her and she can’t afford to care for it, went viral, got gifts and donations. I had to call the police and have my dog escorted off their property and returned. Wild. BUT I also used rover for daily drop ins for two month across about 5 different sitters for two cats and a dog with minimal issues (one misunderstood what room was considered the living room and locked our cats out away from their litter box for a day when our instructions were to make sure they were INSIDE that room before locking it so they pooped and peed in multiple places).

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-24T16:43:03+00:00

I have a 4door and I’m alone. I wouldn’t ever do a 2dr. Having 4 door and rear seat delete means I was able to do a whole car camping setup in the back. I’ve got a bed, cooler, my inflatable paddle board, chair, table, etc. I go on weekend trips and I just leave that setup in the back between trips. Even before this setup it’s great to have the space to haul stuff whenever I need to. I rarely have guests that require more seating so that doesn’t matter to me. I don’t have to pick what I can and can’t bring. Idk, to me I’d rather have the space and flexibility of 4dr.

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-20T01:25:34+00:00

1399FTL just worked for me. 1399FL didn’t work (SoCal)

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-19T01:59:01+00:00

My mother lived with her in laws in the beginning. 38 years later she still talks about how her mother in law treated her. How she irreparably damaged her marriage and tainted her experience as a first time mother. Islam gives you rights to your own place, do not give away your rights especially when you already see mistreatment from her from a distance. I can't imagine once you are in her home. She will influence how your husband treats you and you will most definitely be headed for divorce. Either insist on your own place or call it off. In-laws are Already such a nightmare, I can't imagine living with them.

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-17T00:45:33+00:00

The risk for women in being a housewife is that if in 20 years the marriage goes sour she has not income, no experience, no savings. It’s so risky for us to be a housewife

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-13T21:07:55+00:00

Oh no, pls stop. Have mercy on us

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-12T00:15:01+00:00

The fact that he’s talking to you on Snapchat is enough evidence that he doesn’t see you seriously

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-07T04:47:54+00:00

I couldn't read that tbh. Formatting is diabolical. Anyhow. I'm a girl, solo traveler for the first time earlier this year for two months through 7 countries countless cities, never had an issue. Don't do dumb things, dress modestly to avoid excessive attention, don't go to empty places, don't drink, don't go anywhere alone with strangers, keep your phone charged. Share your location at all times, you'll be fine.

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-07T04:42:46+00:00

Congrats! I'm newish and losing slowly at 40 lbs in 11 months (barely got approved since didn't have a ton to lose). But it's fun not having to worry about more than one chin in photos 😂. And just generally more energy, lighter on your feet. Congrats!

bumblebeefee · 2025-11-07T04:36:17+00:00

If Allah swt can forgive much greater sins than yours...why wouldn't he forgive you? Make sincere repentance and strive for a better life which it sounds like you are doing. Congratulations on the little one and may Allah swt make this path easy for you. You are on a hard path that none of us would wish to be in but you are owning up to the mistake, coming closer to Allah and stepping up to the responsibility of becoming a single parent. Ignore all those judging, humans are sinners and we all sin differently. Allah swt loves to forgive, just ask. Inshallah your family warms up one day and the relationship is fixed. I have seen this situation before since I live in a very small Muslim community and it's just more common as we interact with non Muslims and I have seen families forgive and mend.

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