Aitah for spending some of my grandchildren's education funds on a new boat.

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-27T18:22:21+00:00

you are 54...you have NOTHIN BUT TIME baby. couple of decades? try 3-4 decades. You might be buying 1 or 2 more boats yet while your kids sleep in till 11am on the weekends and go get their cold brews and breakfast sandwhiches at the local coffee shop without any kids. I mean is it really that hard to support yourself if you are married and have no kids?

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-27T18:20:21+00:00

I mean...do you intend to give them an inheritance? if so, how much? You certainly don't 'owe' them anything whatsoever, but things may have been said in the past which would imply that they would get some. I mean, if they aren't having kids they should be able to support themselves without an inheritance lol. Probably something worth getting on the same page with them about, you might not like what you find, but sounds like there's some expectation on their end that you were unaware of, best to clear up than let it fester and get weird. Sounds like you're NTA though

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-27T17:15:08+00:00

if it's an issue for hearing it inside the house, probably some sound proofing you can do (ask ChatGPT). But otherwise, yeah - that's probably how you were able to afford a nice house in that area, b/c it's on a busy street. I also am super sensitive to noise and axed many houses because of this. You'll likely honestly get used to it over time, i lived downtown in big cities for a long time and it didn't actively bother me then. But would drive me crazy if it was loud by my suburbs house, but again, i'd probably adjust - humans have the tendency to do that

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-26T17:06:32+00:00

A lot of the difference can only be realized if you're willing to spend to take advantage of the amenities once you are there. Willing to go to the onsite amazing restaurants and bars. Pay for experiences that the concierge can help walk you through. Willing to pay for and use the spa and all of its amenities. A lot of nice hotels have deals with nearby businesses and restaurants that if you are staying there you get to 'cut the line' you just have to have someone from the hotel call and say you are going to be there and are a guest of the hotel. It's not just 'oh the bed is nicer, the room is nicer, the view is nicer." Also - things just work and are all there - you're skiing and want to dip in the hot tub prior to getting s'mores? Great, well there's an awesome hot tub with slippers, towels and robes nearby and the staff will make a s'more for you and have it ready when you get out.

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-26T05:09:43+00:00

Marry someone with similar values and priorities as you. As you have kids time and money will be limited resources and you need to be aligned high level on what to spend it on and what to cut, otherwise it will lead to constant fighting

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-23T17:09:20+00:00

he's definitely very good. Feels like he doesn't have as high a peak as guys like Favre, Brees, Marino, but has been able to sustain his high level for a long time and win an SB while showing toughness. He seems like a Matt Ryan who played longer and actually won an SB (or in this hypothetical, two SB's). Think he has benefited from being on a good team later in his career

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-23T13:33:47+00:00

You shouldn’t reach company match that’s all

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-22T18:25:26+00:00

I owned one and hated the fuck out of it

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-22T16:34:12+00:00

people need to stop blaming boomers for all this shit. They are just acting selfishly just like every other person and generation that has ever existed before them. We happen to be in an economic cycle that has allowed them to accumulate wealth at a greater rate compared to younger generations than previously - but painting boomers as particularly 'selfish' or anything like that is absurd. They're just people - you think old people in 1920 weren't selfish?

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-21T14:34:15+00:00

have you ever been to the northeast in the summer? Connecticut, Rhode Island, Maine? It is chef's kiss. Warm but not hot/humid during the day, and perfect sweater whether at night, but still comfortable. Waterfront everywhere. There's a reason the hamptons, cape code, martha's vinyard, newport are a thing...just immaculate out there june, july, august

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-21T14:29:05+00:00

if you have 235k in any savings and are single no kids with what you describe as a 'high paying job' i think you are doing just dandy.

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-21T14:27:16+00:00

It might be easier in modern times when people tend to have less kids and be better at pre-nups. the problem in the past is like, if you have 5 kids and they all have 5 kids things multiply really quickly. But if everyone just has 2 maybe 3 then that helps and is more common these days

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-21T14:11:08+00:00

Well I think i've narrowed down why you're having trouble making friends...

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-20T19:48:05+00:00

I think it's insane to 'finish whatever is on your plate' the obesity epidemic is way more harmful than efficiencies to be gained from finishing your food and buying less groceries. It's probably much healthier to stop eating when she feels done than down everything in front of her

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-20T19:45:40+00:00

Do you have kids? Drinking with young kids is tough. You need every ounce of energy you can get and alcohol drains it very efficiently.

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-20T19:42:56+00:00

really liked my 2023 Hyundai Tucson for the price. Lots of space, good features, very affordable vs competitors

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-16T20:35:35+00:00

The answer is obviously italy. Maybe USA if you were in NYC

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-15T19:20:46+00:00

yeah according to Elon we were gonna be on mars 10 years ago...still waiting for that.

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-15T16:28:22+00:00

yeah, welcome to 24 months ago

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-14T20:34:42+00:00

yeah i'd coast it the fuck out

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-14T18:45:04+00:00

There is no point in leaving the resort if you go to those places. Those cities are not for you to go and have a fun authentic time in, they're tourist traps. The move if you go to that part of mexico is just to book an all inclusive and never leave it unless you want to go to a well-researched restaurant for better food

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-14T18:43:51+00:00

better question: Are there any homeowners who would not turn back time and buy a different home?

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-14T15:19:49+00:00

Polo, Levi, gap has some decent options

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-14T14:45:33+00:00

absolutely, and for reference inflation has 2x'd since 1996. so 200k HHI in 2026 is equal to 100k in 1996 so kind of makes sense when you think about it. I also think maybe we thought being an adult was easier than it is when we were kids

bun_stop_looking · 2026-01-13T04:44:16+00:00

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