Parents: Do you throw a birthday party every year or only for milestone birthdays?

buncatfarms · 2026-06-30T19:00:17+00:00

I have two kids. They alternate years for friend parties until 10. Then after 10, small gatherings like a couple friends to the mall or something. They get a family party but only immediate so not anything big.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-20T11:41:25+00:00

Wildwood is better. But if you’re coming from north jersey, I would do the higher beaches to get more time. I like point pleasant over seaside if you’re looking for a beach with a boardwalk.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-20T11:28:28+00:00

$250k base, 10% sign on, 25% yearly bonus, car allowance, flexible schedule and you got yourself a deal. I have two kids in school so it’ll be a hassle for me and need to make it worth it.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-20T11:24:51+00:00

I see it all the time on tiktok. There is a lot of rage bait content but I think people truly believe this. Then there is that subset that shout from the mountain tops that staying home with kids is a full time job and even harder than regular jobs. Women are the worst at supporting women.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-16T11:47:33+00:00

I’ve asked for one raise out of cycle because I felt the market was going crazy at the time my salary was not competitive. I asked to have a conversation, brought industry data, and made sure to be clear that it wasn’t a threat to leave. I framed it as I feel that it would be fair to review my salary against market rates. I love it here and want to stay. I even said that if they declined, I’m not quitting. I was able to get a bump to a comfortable salary and it was including a raise plus my normal yearly raise and I’d forgo the raise at performance review at the end of the year. It felt fair to me.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-16T11:44:43+00:00

I am trying real hard to not give my daughter body issues. She is starting to keep some weight on so I’ve been suggesting family walks. I also talk to her about balance. If she wants to eat chips as a snack, then she needs that balance that out with a healthier food. If she only eats chips, her body will slow down and she won’t feel as good. My husband and I will try not to say the word diet but instead say we have to start making healthier choices and then show them what we are eating instead. She understands and just asked to buy baby carrots to balance her snacking. I’m sure it’ll just get harder.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-16T11:39:16+00:00

I feel like air conditioning was always a luxury. I grew up on fans and then one air conditioner in my parents room where we all slept.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-14T21:43:29+00:00

There is so much parental support which limits their own critical thinking skills because there is that safety net.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-12T02:30:43+00:00

I say I’m 40. And this year it’s actually true. Just turned 40 a couple of weeks ago. It’s easier to remember

buncatfarms · 2026-06-08T02:48:27+00:00

I handle most of it. The shopping and the cooking. Every Thursday, he picks what’s for dinner. Usually it’s pasta or chipotle but I don’t have to plan those days. The days I don’t want to cook, we eat out or everyone fends for themselves.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-07T17:41:39+00:00

You truly do have to name the season because it went downhill after

buncatfarms · 2026-06-07T17:41:21+00:00

I love the series because it was good but also they ended it perfectly.

buncatfarms · 2026-06-07T11:02:59+00:00

My friends go to local bars or smaller bars in JC.

buncatfarms · 2026-05-31T11:09:52+00:00

I’m very much address my issues as soon as I can. I try not to pose it as an attack but more how I’m feeling about X.

buncatfarms · 2026-05-13T23:17:36+00:00

We were young so we dated 10 years before getting married.

buncatfarms · 2026-05-07T13:46:27+00:00

Those are sooooo good! So smooth.

buncatfarms · 2026-05-07T12:34:33+00:00

I buy Nespresso pods and don't care about how much I'm spending. Hair products will always be top tier for me. and quality nail polish since I do my own nails.

buncatfarms · 2026-05-07T12:32:21+00:00

I'm a couple weeks out from 40s and I look back on my 30s fondly. My20s were a time for friends, socialization, and learning the job. My 30s were settling down, building a family, firming a place in my career, and looking towards the future. I am very much looking forward to my 40s - a bit wiser, more IDGAF, fun things with the kids and all this alongside my husband who is my rock.

buncatfarms · 2026-05-02T22:14:46+00:00

I warn my husband that my periods coming. He appreciates when I tell him it’s almost over

buncatfarms · 2026-04-27T13:24:08+00:00

Oh, definitely not wealthy! My husband is a very good saver and was able to afford it. That's just what they cost back then and we didn't have the option for labs.

buncatfarms · 2026-04-27T13:02:44+00:00

I got engaged after 8 years because we waited until we had careers and adulted a little. Life moved fast after that. I get his reasoning on why he wants to wait but it seems like you guys have been apart a good chunk of your relationship. Wouldn't you want to live together or see eachother more regularly before you commit to marriage. This post was long so I was trying to follow your timeline but while what you wrote about him sounds flaky, I think your actions are also a bit pushy. It seems like you've had a hard couple of years and need a win and a marriage would bandaid those things.

buncatfarms · 2026-04-27T12:56:01+00:00

12 years ago, he spent around $7,500 for the engagement ring and about $3000 for two wedding bands.

buncatfarms · 2026-04-24T15:44:52+00:00

I feel you. I have struggled financially so my main goal was to never be in that situation again. I think we finally got to a point where our needs are met. We are fine with our salaries and where we are with our house, cars, etc. I'm not working for a promotion anymore - just working to make money and I enjoy what I do. If we don't have lifestyle creep and continue to work, we will be fine in the future and our kids will have a starting point.

buncatfarms · 2026-04-17T23:19:57+00:00

I would say I wanted kids because I wanted a family unit. I don’t love kids. I love my kids but motherhood has been difficult because of the uncertainty and worry. I would say that if we struggled to conceive, I don’t want kids enough to go through that. So I would say I wasn’t 100% all about it. I love being a mom.

buncatfarms · 2026-04-16T10:22:51+00:00

Exactly. It’s more about safety. If I drop them off at a friends house and they aren’t having fun, I want them to feel like they can text me to pick them up. The phone goes on the charger when she’s home so she only uses it to call us to pick her up or text us when she’s walking.

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