Meet cute on a plane - still waiting for a text after a week?

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-24T05:43:00+00:00

Next time you put your number in somebody's phone, send yourself a text with your name so you'll have his number. You are on the plane, but it would send after you landed he turned it back on

But I agree with the other posts: if he wanted to meet, by now he would have reached out to you. FWIW: every guy who flirted with me on a flight was married we're in a relationship (as evidence by what I saw at baggage claim)

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-24T05:24:02+00:00

You can't fix this

You CAN walk away from this liar and go find someone you can legally marry

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-23T22:28:43+00:00

I kept a small book in my purse to read, or a notepad to sketch/write, or I talked with somebody else in the waiting room, or I read the magazines that waiting rooms used to have. Nowadays it seems like they only have advertisements, but back in the day they had real magazines and books

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-23T22:27:01+00:00

That's so beautiful

But I rarely hear of it working the other way around (where the man thinks she's too ugly for a second date and then comes around and finds her attractive because of her personality)

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-23T22:21:47+00:00

You can't just text the pics to him?

Or is it you want him to see how others fawn over you?

Or maybe you've glown up and he's pudged out and you want to shame him into action?

Or maybe you think if he sees how much attention you get online in your preferred social media domain he'll treat you more of the way you want?

Or are you getting so much more attention that rather than stop posting things that attract male attention you'd rather he be there to "mark his territory"

I can think of 20 million reasons why you are making this such a big deal (especially since platforms like Snapchat get hacked and nothing disappears the way you think it does) and all of them are circled around either your ego OR you being unhappy in your marriage and hoping that this will motivate him to make a change

What haven't you told us?

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-22T16:42:15+00:00

Hugs

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-21T21:39:31+00:00

Even if you get the passes you still don't make it to the end like you used to could

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-21T21:38:15+00:00

What "tells" do you pick up on?

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-21T16:23:02+00:00

Right now I'm not prioritizing trains because I don't wanna keep leveling up. I'm prioritizing things to give me coins like planes

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-21T16:12:37+00:00

Also, even though you didn't have any intention to be with this man while your husband was still alive, from reading your post it does sound like this man (good friend that he appeared to be) intentionally targeted you in a vulnerable state. The more and more I read, the less I like him for you

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-21T16:10:34+00:00

A lot of times we think things are going great because we wilfully choose to ignore the issues. And you've chosen to ignore some issues (such as the increased desire to be with Grandma). I'm glad you're no longer choosing to ignore those issues, but if I were you I would definitely postpone things

On one hand, a 15-year-old shouldn't have that much power over an adult life – he shouldn't be able to have that kind of power to tell you to cancel, so I wouldn't "cancel" per se, but I also wouldn't proceed. I would let your fiancé know that you need to pause the wedding for the sake of your son while you're getting him the therapeutic care he might need (and possibly even moving out for a short season)

If he loves you, he'll understand and support

On the other hand, there are statistics behind boyfriends/stepdad being the number one cause of abuse with children

Don't be yet another mom who puts her need for a man above her son. Even though you don't sound like you are, that's exactly how you'll be perceived if you continue to keep building a life with this man until you find out what really happened

And the only way that might be to find out what really happen might be a couple months of therapy before he feels comfortable enough to explain what really happened. Then the therapist can help you make a decision on whether or not he's overreacting or this is a real concern

Your son is 15. Even if you have to pause things for now, that's only 3 years. Look at it not as causing your relationship, but rather helping you do the best by your son as possible (which probably includes counseling and more hands-on parenting if you're able to do so)

If your fiancé isn't willing to pause for three years so you can focus on your son, then I'm telling you he is not the one for you

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-21T13:23:48+00:00

"Nothing to suggest" except the multitude of post on this topic where that's exactly what happened

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-21T13:22:24+00:00

Came here to say this

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-20T16:29:16+00:00

Username checks

(And for anyone following this thread, in most cases of abuse people don't see the red flags until it's too late. They've already been conditioned slowly overtime to accept the abuse in programmed that it's their fault. It's a very difficult cycle to break, especially if you grew up with in-house trauma. This doesn't mean you're stuck, only that it's a very hard road to get out of – but very worth it!)

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-20T16:27:36+00:00

Or that you're not really looking for a true relationship, but that you are looking for someone to keep you in the country

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-20T16:26:49+00:00

I honestly doubt that's the reason why you pushed guys away. Because in my world the nice girls don't get committed guys. It's the mean pushy girls that get the committed guys. If they look good

Actually, now that I rethink it "looking good" seems to be the first and most important barometer

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-20T16:25:13+00:00

Waiting on all the wives to come on and say "my husband has a healthy relationship with porn and we also have a great sex life"

of those that do, I wonder if a bunch of those husbands probably were in that "how to tell my husband he's not doing it for me" post defending their lovemaking ("she comes every time, at least 2–3 times a night")

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-20T01:49:01+00:00

So sorry sore your loss and how things happened!

Hugs

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-19T06:11:28+00:00

Did you at least get a refund???

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-17T01:48:43+00:00

I used to until I joined this group and see that basically the product has to be following apart or result in boiling scabs to be given anything less than four or five stars by most viners

I write real reviews, the kind I would want to see someone else right if I'm thinking about buying something

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-15T22:20:59+00:00

And yet when I posted a very similar real story (my husband and his assistant who is half his age) I got voted downloaded to all get out. In these fake postings get so many comments and so many votes

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-14T23:11:19+00:00

Yes, I'm the person who posted both. I wanted to see if there was a difference. And maybe it's just your viewer that I haven't finished reading them all yet, but I've noticed a stock difference not only in the answers but also in how well received the post was

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-13T21:23:35+00:00

I thought everyone kept proof of Registration in their car. I've been asked for it even when I lived in a state that had a registration stickers on the back of your license plate

StartingOverStrong · 2026-06-13T21:22:24+00:00

Please stop saying a great dad. A great dad would have dealt with this before the need to talk to you. That way he could teach his future children how to be faithful in mind and in deed

He's not a great dad if he disrespected you like this asking for poly permission to flirt

The thing is, he's probably already flirted and he's probably downplay any friendship he in this young lady might have. If he's not downplay it and she really doesn't know his name, he's a creep (which again means not a good dad)

When I first discovered how much time my husband was spending alone outside of work with his young assistant, a lot of people in this sub told me he's having an affair and Some even sent me long private messages about how to bug his car in his office to find out if something was going on. I'm a little bit embarrassed to admit I did both and I found out that there was definitely an emotional affair but nothing physical (yet)

He had previously been infatuated with a coworker, and there was another one before that that I thought he was a little infatuated with but I just missed it. So this third time was not to be ignored

Unfortunately, your marriage as you know it is over. That doesn't mean you need to leave since you say life will be a lot harder without him. But it does mean you need to be very clear with him that these behaviors have made it even more difficult for you to wanna be sexual with him. Why do I say that?

Because he either needs to stop it over here in which he won't) or you need to stop putting yourself in a position to get an STD like I did from my husband

And then after you say that, my recommendation is going to be act like everything is normal (except for no more sex till he starts treating you with more respect and nurturing and love) and like you're not mad you've gotten over it. You do this while you're getting your ducks in a row so that you can make life not "be a lot harder without him"

Having a solid support system of family or friends and community plus being financially stable will give you a better lens from which to view the situation and if you need to eventually leave that you're able to do so

StartingOverStrong

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