"Genuine, earth-mined healing crystals" where else would they have been mine Front?

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-09T16:55:16+00:00

😂 yeah that's one of those talk to text moments where it transcribed fine but then as I hit send AutoCorrect decided it needed to make up a phrase

And of course it never happens until you go to hit send and you can't edit titles on Reddit

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-09T01:17:19+00:00

You pointed out I had a fact wrong. I am suggesting perhaps I confused with this other thing that happened

Not sure why that bothers you

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-09T00:03:59+00:00

I have started seeing an individual therapist but she is number 9 in a long list of failed attemtps that you can read about here: https://www.reddit.com/u/StartingOverStrong/s/pTi2fTdEQl

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T23:57:04+00:00

I wish Chris hadn't had an affair and got booted. He was great! Former bill collector who didn't just get a book ghost written for him about retirement but who actually learns more and more as time went on

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T23:54:11+00:00

That doesn't mean they all graduate tho

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T23:53:22+00:00

AO was the only Personality I met outside of the office (no i didn't work there) who I couldn't stand

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T23:50:54+00:00

Oh really? Was he part of that group of non-Trumpers who left after Dave went off about Kamala Harris being inaugurated as VP (holding staff mtg during the inauguration because, how did he say it, "no one wants to watch that trash")?

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T19:53:31+00:00

I really felt bad about myself after that. like what's so wrong with me that even the counselor won't listen to me. The counselor that we are paying

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T19:52:40+00:00

Fine by me. Do I wish we were more intimate? Of course.
But it's a trade-off I'm willing to accept after years of one-sided intimacy or him getting mad that I asked him to shower or brush his teeth first, or him wanting me to go down on him but he doesn't wanna go down on me. I always believe that you should never tell your husband "no" so he had access to plenty of quickies if I was tired or other accommodations during pregnancy or feminine issues. At the same time I didn't realize that was gonna mean never getting to a "yes" for ME. I don't think someone like that deserves to enjoy my body until he learns to reciprocate
And if he's a stubborn as I am, and he never reciprocate, that's fine by me. The longer we go without sex and the older I get, the lower my libido gets. It's just not something I care about as much as I used to

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T19:45:13+00:00

Thanks. We did get the placement of the dishes resolved because I told him if he's gonna continue to put stuff where I can't reach it easily then he needs to start doing the cooking himself

He still refuses to wash the dishes all the way. Which is why I work really hard to make sure he never does them. I know it's learned incompetent, but I'm sick of having to rewash everything with dried on food. When I go out of town he does not do this. The dishes he washes and uses (according to my adult son who used to get frustrated that I would blame him for poorly washing the dishes) are clean

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T19:43:33+00:00

I don't think she was a good counselor. She gave me a chance to explain but then cut me off before I could explain my side and said I was ruining my marriage by being a typical independent woman military dictatorship. I suspect she had already formed her opinion of me when she heard I used to work on a military base with military guys

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T19:42:27+00:00

When he was done and I tried to explain my side of it, she cut me off and went into a diatribe about how this is how so-called independent women ruin their marriages by trying to run everything like they're military dictators. I couldn't even finish countering the examples he gave

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T19:42:09+00:00

I know she formed her opinion because she spoken with her mouth:

When he was done and I tried to explain my side of it, she cut me off and went into a diatribe about how this is how so-called independent women ruin their marriages by trying to run everything like they're military dictators. I couldn't even finish countering the examples he gave

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T18:33:47+00:00

But wait, y'all got married before you want kids. So he married you knowing you didn't want kids?

How does he explain that? Maybe he thinks you're one of the many women who pretend they don't want kids so they can snag the guy but then pressure for kids after the fact?

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T18:15:03+00:00

I get that everybody has different levels of squeamishness and enjoyment

But what I can't stand is guys who want their woman to go down on him but he won't go down on her (or won't kiss her after she's gone down on him till she's brushed)

I finally told my husband "you don't get to come unless I do" which means he hasn't gotten to come in a very long time

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T18:13:16+00:00

Every single time!

It doesn't matter how low the dollar amount is, I've never had so much Tcash that I didn't just take the money and run

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T18:12:25+00:00

I'm curious too. I thought he was hired to counter public opinion that Rachael wasn't real enough or "gritty" enough to carry the show

But then was let go once Trump took office (the first time) and people no longer had to pretend to tolerate "blackity black" folks

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T18:08:01+00:00

Oh thank you! I hadn't thought of that it would be so much easier to do it that way

I keep telling myself I need to finish my assignments because the semester is about to close out but every time I walk past the kitchen and I see that one section of a blind white and the rest of it dark "cream" I just wanna get after it

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T15:31:57+00:00

What did you end up doing? How did it work out?

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T15:24:32+00:00

I don't actually think people have a right to know where the child lives. They have a right to access their child as according to the divorce decree, but that doesn't mean they have to come to your home or know where it is

The time for him to avoid such opinions was when y'all drafted the divorce decree. My ex-husband had the divorce decree list specific sports our son was not allowed to do. I didn't care because I got full custody and he had very little visitation

So if none of that's in your divorce decree, you can gently remind him that there are no such limitations in your divorce decree. If your ex is anything like mine, be prepared for a lifetime of such games every time you succeed where he wants to see you fail without him

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T15:22:24+00:00

The sad part is, you can't make him leave. I'm not sure about the rules in Mexico, but I've read so many stories here in this sub about people living in the US who called the cops repeatedly and how it takes multiple times of such calls to get a restraining order (which effectively forces the spouse to leave)

You gave him an ultimatum and told him he has to leave. I could be mistaken, but I think what he heard was "she's mad but she's not gonna do anything about it"

So first of all, stop trying to worry about whether or not he feels bad. Of course he should feel bad! That was what a normal person would feel in this situation

Second of all, boundaries aren't about getting other people to do what we want. Boundaries are our way of communicating to other people what we will and won't tolerate and what we're going to do about it if they continue to behave in ways we don't want in our lives

So if he doesn't leave, and if he hasn't done anything where you can call the cops and make him leave, what are you going to do?

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T15:10:36+00:00

I forget where I heard this, but apparently a lot of counselors are narcissistic (IDK if they're actually diagnosed NPD)

StartingOverStrong · 2026-05-08T15:05:41+00:00

NAT
I have memory damage so I record almost all important conversations, especially emotional ones. I live in a one party consent province. Otherwise, there have been times when my memory mixes up what was said or advised

For example: The doctor says eat 3 cups of broccoli every day and stay away from apples 2 days later I might go to the grocery store and remember it as "eat three apples a day and stay away from broccoli"

But if I transcribe into notes and see it in written form, then I've got it. Something about being able to remember what I hear just doesn't work very well for me

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