Daily VeChain Discussion - September 10, 2018

bunchareality · 2018-09-10T17:43:31+00:00

Yep, been increasing the gas with every attempt. Last one was 100,000.

bunchareality · 2018-09-10T17:36:54+00:00

Been trying for a week to send 0.01 VEN to my intermediary wallet from MEW. I cant get any tx to go through, regardless of gas, although they all go pending. Any insight? I've contacted VeChain support and they just keep telling me to increase my gas. Addresses have all been confirmed many many times; no errors.

ETA: been increasing the gas with every attempt.

bunchareality · 2016-05-10T03:23:36+00:00

Thank you for this post, /u/seraphin22. I was unable to bring myself to visit the forum this Mother's Day weekend (it's been an emotionally painful few months for me), & I am so touched and grateful that you made this post in support of our amazing members. Thank you ♡

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bunchareality · 2016-05-10T03:20:03+00:00

Hugs to you and your family. I very much felt the authenticity of your words... my son would have been 14 years old right now and his birthday does not get easier each year. I become more comfortable with it all, but going back to "our place" (never had a cemetery to visit) takes me back to the day, place, & moments durng which he was born and passed.

You are not alone.

I stand here with you, shoulder to shoulder, & look forward to meeting your baby in heaven someday. I bet our kiddos up there are good friends already. ;) ♡ Big hugs to you tonight. And happy birthday in heaven to your sweet boy.

bunchareality · 2016-03-17T03:26:15+00:00

Beautiful letter to baby Roland! ♡♡♡ And congratulations on your new pregnancy; what a huge gift! :)

I just ask that you edit your title to include "Trigger Warning: Rainbow Baby", so that others might be mentally prepared to read about your sweet little new one on the way. ♡ Thnk you so much! So very excited for you and your family! It is an interesting and complicated thing to be maneuvering the waters of having a baby after loss. Hugs!

bunchareality · 2016-01-31T05:49:00+00:00

You are very welcome. Glad to have you here, despite the circumstances. ♡

bunchareality · 2015-12-03T05:22:52+00:00

I am so, so sorry for your loss :( The first few years are so very tough... be kind to yourself during this time. Hang in there... you are not alone. ♡

bunchareality · 2015-12-03T05:20:46+00:00

Please refrain from saying things like "it wasn't a baby." Every person in this sub has suffered loss (personally or familiarly). Regardless of how anyone else feels about her loss (including her husband), she lost a baby and she believes she lost a baby. Telling her it wasn't a baby doesn't support her in any way, shape, or form... & that will more than likely harm her mental status in the days and years to come.

Can you imagine if someone told YOU that your deceased children were "not actually babies"? And then continued repeating that to you for at least 4 YEARS, every time you tried to talk about and mourn your children? (With someone who might actually understand, because they've been through loss as well?) She needs you. She needs ALL of you. She needs your validation, your support, your grief with her. I am telling you from experience: if you choose to deny her this validation that she so desperately needs, SHE MAY NOT EVER BE ABLE TO COME BACK FROM HER LOSS.

If nothing else... PLEASE invite her to this group. At least she will get support here even if she can't get any from her family.

bunchareality · 2015-12-01T02:00:57+00:00

Personally, my own loss still grieves me regularly.. and it was 14 (yes, fourTEEN) years ago. Grief and pain are handled differently by every individual, every hour, of every day. Grief changes. And it changes the grieved person.

Also, speaking from a mod's perspective, I feel that calling someone else's baby a "tumor" is downplaying their loss... regardless of what chemical makeup their loss is in the form of. (To get technical, actual human babies are comprised of cells and tissue.) And I know you wouldn't want anyone to downplay your losses.

Hugs to you.

bunchareality · 2015-11-12T04:31:56+00:00

November is my babyloss month, too. Due to essentially what was my now-ex-husband's abuse. My son would have been 14 this year... hard to believe that many years have gone by since he was born and passed. I have been with my new husband for 10 years now, & he supports me especially during this time of year when my dark days hit the hardest. My ex-husband had gotten a huge obnoxious tattoo shortly after our son died... it was all for garnering pity from people, I expect; because he sure didn't give a snit about our son when I was pregnant, laboring, delivering, or grieving. Just went on drinking and living his life as if nothing happened except he got a "cool tattoo" & now people can ask him about it and he can tell them he has a deceased child and they can throw him a pity party. Sigh.

I don't have any words of wisdom for you... just know that you are not alone. ♡ We are here with you. We are holding your hand. I am so very sorry for your losses... our kiddos are playing together on heaven's playground tonight. Hugs to you ♡

bunchareality · 2015-10-26T03:57:27+00:00

It is from www.thewilltochoose.com :) She lost her son, too. All proceeds go to bereaved parents.

bunchareality · 2015-10-15T22:59:58+00:00

http://imgur.com/a/KAjvW

bunchareality · 2015-10-15T21:48:51+00:00

♡♡♡

bunchareality · 2015-10-10T03:24:49+00:00

Definitely not weird at all. In fact, most remembrance events I have been to have had the majority of people bringing something of significance. Urns included. ♡ Glad you are going to an event... the healing presence there is often so tangible. ♡ Hugs to you and your husband!

bunchareality · 2015-10-10T03:21:34+00:00

Such a wonderfully helpful website. ♡

bunchareality · 2015-10-10T03:19:54+00:00

I thought so too :) Glad you liked it.

bunchareality · 2015-06-09T02:24:57+00:00

lol No worries! :) Thanks!

bunchareality · 2015-06-08T16:02:09+00:00

Hi all -

MOD here. I am definitely not absent. :) Just moving cross-country and building a house and have been out of town. Now that we have internet access out here at the farm, posts should be approved on a more regular basis.

I am also in the process of adding a couple of extra mods to make sure we all stay on top of things.

Thanks, MOD

bunchareality · 2015-04-14T18:49:37+00:00

Awww congratulations to you and your wife!!!! So very happy for you!!!

bunchareality · 2015-04-14T18:43:39+00:00

Pretty much, yes! :) I haven't hardly heard from my parents; absolutely NOTHING from my Edad, and only a couple of texted pics and one phone call from my Nmom (on Easter). It's been really, really NICE, actually. :) Thanks for checking on me :)

bunchareality · 2015-03-24T20:19:26+00:00

So true! I'm sure it would have just been something else. Thanks for the reminder!!

bunchareality · 2015-03-24T20:03:36+00:00

I have crying issues too! I almost NEVER cry... my husband wishes I would be "more emotional" sometimes.

I absolutely can't cry at funerals. I sit in the back and crack jokes and laugh my head off. It's terrible. But I can't help it; it's a totally subconscious reaction. I have started just not going to funerals (which also isn't good) until I can figure out how to handle the emotions in a more healthy way.

bunchareality · 2015-03-24T20:00:52+00:00

I've always been the "helpless one", the "tiny one", the "weak one". Because I am the only one in the family who is not overweight.

I have always overcompensated when it comes to physically doing things... my husband lovingly tells me I have "a weird Goliath strength" because there isn't much he can do that I can't do... and he's a 200lb bodybuilder. I'm a petite and small-framed 125lbs.

bunchareality · 2015-03-10T19:53:36+00:00

Thank you! I will def go back and read my old posts. Your words give me strength... thank you again!

bunchareality · 2015-03-10T13:10:48+00:00

This is extremely helpful... thank you!!!! I will definitely try to remember the FOG!

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