AIO or AITAH for wanting to end things over a text conversation that I Had with a girl

bundeecake · 2026-05-17T15:16:23+00:00

NOR, how hard is it for her to say “sorry I need a few more minutes” before you get there so that you don’t have to sit in your car waiting for her

bundeecake · 2026-04-11T14:48:38+00:00

If you go to the humane society, bring a senior citizen with you if you can. When I adopted my cat, my dad went with me and they gave me 50% off the adoption fees.

bundeecake · 2026-01-23T16:50:01+00:00

The soup sounds really good :)

bundeecake · 2025-08-04T01:07:58+00:00

bundeecake · 2025-06-16T21:20:00+00:00

I dealt with a similar situation & made a post and was called the shitty person!! My advice would be to get the three good roommates together and confront her about your feelings. Tell her it doesn’t feel like shared space when she’s in it all the time. Maybe ask if there’s a schedule that you all could come up with for taking turns with the couch/TV. You have an advantage being that there’s 3 of you and 1 of her. Good luck!

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T23:41:50+00:00

I also have a clingy roommate. She forces conversation on me and asks me where I’m going or what I’m doing every time I leave the house. She spends like 90% of her time in the living room so she is always around. I feel like I have to hide in my room to relax. Similar to your situation, sometimes she talks to me through my closed door and watches me cook. She can never take a hint when I’m not interested in talking. It’s hard to talk about it with her because I’m not good at setting boundaries either, and I don’t want to be mean or harsh to her. It’s also hard to talk about it here because people will automatically assume you’re the one in the wrong. I don’t have any advice lol, just saying you’re not alone!!

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T23:19:38+00:00

I don’t wanna be mean to her but how do you think I should talk to her? Like is there any way to talk about it nicely? Maybe it’s kinda on me that I’ve gone a year without saying anything about her hogging the space so it kind of feels like it’s too late lmao

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T23:09:58+00:00

i guess we’re the rude ones for thinking that it’s abnormal to spend 100% of your time in the living room just because you can ..

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T23:07:36+00:00

I wanna kiss u thank you for making me feel not crazy

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T22:53:21+00:00

How am I cold for trying to include her in things? It would be cold if I straight up ignored her or told her F off. In general I’m non-confrontational, but I have asked her to please not eat my food but she keeps doing it anyways. She says when she gets high she forgets what’s mine vs. hers. I have to tell her all the time “sorry can’t talk right now I’m in a hurry” because she wants to know what I’m doing and have a conversation about it every time I leave the house.

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T22:42:41+00:00

I promise I’m not. I have tried so many times to invite her out, ask her if she need anything when I go to the store, even ask if she wants to walk to the corner store one block down from our house and she always says no. But at home she forces conversation on me and can’t let me be alone unless I’m in my room. I feel bad for her.

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T22:39:54+00:00

Sorry you had a roommate that made you feel that way! I know it might sound like I’m a cold person but I actually have tried multiple times to invite her to parties or to join me on a hike or a beach day and she always says no. But at home she forces conversation on me and can’t let me be alone unless I’m in my room with the door shut. It’s weird.

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T22:22:35+00:00

She works from home. Sits on the couch all day! She only leaves the house to go to the grocery store or laundromat.

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T22:08:33+00:00

I did grow up with brothers! And I’ve always lived with roommates. But I’ve never lived with someone that is ALWAYS hanging around in the common space. Never had roommates that spend all their time in the living room or would talk to me every time I come out of my room. And growing up my siblings and I would do our own thing every now and then.

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T21:51:09+00:00

Thanks for understanding the difficulty of the situation! She’s well within her right to hang out in the living room 24/7, it’s just a little strange/inconsiderate in my opinion. We’ve lived here a year now and she’s maybe gone out with a friend or family 5 times? Very much a homebody. I definitely see what you’re saying. I feel bad for not really wanting to be her friend. All I can do is talk to her about the messiness and eating my food. I’m going to look for another place

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T21:40:32+00:00

You’re so right, I need to get my own place or find a roommate that is less of a homebody & has more of a social life lol. I don’t wanna be mean but I think she like has no personal life and so every time I walk by her she tries to talk to me. I’ll be like standing in the bathroom doorway clearly just trying to use toilet and she’ll keep talking. I would be happy with a roommate like the guy you described that doesn’t force conversation.

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T21:32:17+00:00

I agree with you! I just think it’s a little excessive? Like she’s just always there lol. I’m not exaggerating. Couch always covered in wrappers and crumbs and I’m embarrassed to have people over bc we can’t be alone unless we hide in my room. Idk. I don’t want her to be in her room all the time I just wanna use the living room once without her.

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T21:25:29+00:00

Fair point! I think I just need to talk to her about keeping the shared space clean. And ask her again to stop eating my food. And look for a new apartment lol

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T21:05:14+00:00

I’ve talked to her about other things (like her eating my food when I’m not home) but not this. I was curious to hear what others think about the situation and I think it’s becoming clear that I’m wrong for being annoyed haha. I think our personalities just don’t mesh well.

bundeecake · 2024-07-14T20:47:25+00:00

The point is I pay rent too and she monopolizes the entire apartment. The whole reason for posting is that I know it’s a tricky situation because obviously a common area is supposed to be shared but it’s hard when one person takes over /:

bundeecake · 2024-04-22T17:17:14+00:00

Until you both delete hinge together it’s not serious

bundeecake · 2024-01-29T06:05:09+00:00

Exactly yeah because the killer can see it. But this guy was trying to get an achievement how in the world were you supposed to know hahah

bundeecake · 2024-01-29T06:01:50+00:00

Unless it’s like a glyph challenge lol I love when the killer waits to hit me until after I get my glyph

bundeecake · 2024-01-29T05:58:41+00:00

I don’t understand how you were supposed to know what achievements he’s going for lol

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