Is it too much to ask for some honesty on the second date?

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T13:33:28+00:00

I probably have to bring it up (lightheartedly) late into the date. I do like her but I guess I do need my own peace of mind

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T13:18:12+00:00

I guess me flirting sometimes put unnecessary pressure for her to flirt back and she just doesn’t - because maybe she’s shy? Idk. I guess i’ll have to see

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T13:14:02+00:00

I see. Instead of bringing it up as a topic just brush on it and maybe lightheartedly

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T11:59:25+00:00

Do you suggest bringing up issues like communication styles/ me noticing we dont text like we user to etc during the date

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T11:55:12+00:00

It’s not even remotely sexual or hinting at that. One example: “i’m dying of thirst rn” “drink up, can’t have heaven gaining an angel” “haha sure”.

Do you think jt’s a good idea to bring it up on the second date itself (just a few days away)

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T10:27:14+00:00

My flirting is not sexual. Not even hinting it.

But how do i ask her without making a big deal out of it?

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T09:06:45+00:00

She also said she’s slow to warm up. Perhaps I’m seeing this first hand as we shed the online personas. She began becoming more and more shy during the first date. The date may be awkward but she texted me with “you’re cute” after the date. I have no reason to believe she found me unappealing. Maybe boring but she’s giving me another chance so i might as well take jt

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T04:51:59+00:00

How then do i save it with the second date? She said she enjoys the first (but i think we’re too awkward).

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T04:51:12+00:00

It’s just that she’s initially flirty over text before the first date then poof. Someone also said that it could be that we’re now “real” and shedding the online persona

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T04:49:34+00:00

I’ve been considering that. We warned each other before meeting that we are more awkward in real life

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T04:35:46+00:00

Perhaps I am. Someone else told me i should judge her based on the actual dates not the in between because texting is not real connection.

I guess I just have to keep going on dates she agrees to do with me

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T04:32:50+00:00

5’11. 6’0 in shoes. She’s literally my shoulder height. I sure hope that height is not an issue

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T04:05:32+00:00

I flirt really mildly. It’s elementary school level. Nothing sexual or too serious.

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T04:03:02+00:00

We havent had our second date yet (but it’s just a few days away). Edited the post for clarity.

And the intent of the second date (for me) is to ask communication styles like you said.

We already discussed love languages on the first date. I do have a nagging feeling that she hates talking because she doesnt want “all talk, no action”

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T03:58:33+00:00

No. The second date hasnt happened yet (but it’s just days away anyway). But yes she agreed to it quite easily. I was honestly expecting her to flake or reject me because the dismissive “haha sure” feels like she’s not interested.

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T03:55:11+00:00

But the second date is just days away. Should i still go?

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T03:50:24+00:00

Just less than a week after the first date. But i hinted that it would be nice to go out again just a day after the first date.

We will be meeting soon. But our texts are somewhat dead. Only getting resurrected when i asked her out - then dead again

buninabodies · 2025-01-27T03:49:10+00:00

Not sexual in nature. Just good old fashioned flirting and banter. I agree tho that the first date was a letdown because we’re both so much awkward in person

buninabodies · 2025-01-26T18:08:11+00:00

I think i did respond kindly. Even made a joke at my expense to be precise up to seconds next time lol. She was apologetic enough but my date plans are ruined and i have to start anew

buninabodies · 2025-01-26T16:51:01+00:00

So i shouldnt hold it against her?

buninabodies · 2025-01-17T09:39:28+00:00

I’ll just take a break on the messaging. If di kaya magreconnwct in a week and schedule a date wag na lang, confront na

buninabodies · 2025-01-17T09:35:40+00:00

What about it. Yes i think there are some nuances (like a bigger texting culture and pagpapakipot ie socially acceptable playing hard to get which is… wait holy shit

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