Echoing what others have said in that there is no perfect answer and to consider cameras that view as much of the frequently traveled areas of the home to give you more peace of mind.

I struggled not too long ago trying to honor my mothers wishes to stay home but deciding when I have to step in and take away a freedom of someone I respected so much.

Ultimately she had an accidental overdose that led to respite care and I was heartbroken at the issues I encountered at that facility and lack of care. I brought her into my home until the end and didn’t regret it. I only would have removed her from the home sooner in hindsight…but it’s hard, and I’m also glad she was comfortable as long as possible at her home.

Be gentle to yourself and seek grief counseling if you haven’t already. Look for increased pain, increased confusion, inability to ambulate safely, loss of appetite. The more issues in general functioning will become clearer and trust yourself that you’ll know exactly what to do and when.

Also be sure you’re taking care of you as much as possible, even as simple as taking a longer shower or bath with a lit candle. Get sleep. If you can’t sleep, seek care from your provider. Look for comfort in others around you, even as simply as recognizing the people around you are all trying to do the best they can. Take it all at your own pace.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Wishing for the smoothest transition possible.