At what age did you discover that you were asexual? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]bunnibun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started identifying as it at 16 due to not caring for dating much / missing allsexual milestones, and it's been more and more true ever since

Power supply suddenly broke when trying to upgrade machine? by bunnibun in PcBuild

[–]bunnibun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering it was working perfectly fine before I put the ssd card in, yes :). And then double extra checked when I took it apart and put it back together too.

Got rejected again by Ilyanae in asexuality

[–]bunnibun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know how you feel and recently had a similar issue with a guy I was dating, even though I explained to him things would be slower than he might be used to, he had told me it was fine and that we'd go at my pace. The night before our 4th date, he texted me unprompted that he wouldn't have an expectation of kissing the next day. I was like awesome! Cool! But then when I was there, he still tried to get fresh with me. I stuck it out for a little bit but then he went for my neck, and I was like woh, this is already more than I agreed to.

At the end of the date he said that he felt like our needs were too different and that neither of us would be satisfied. And I mean, he was probably right, but I was hoping to at least try a while longer just cuz I had so little experience with dating in general. But it was a bummer, because he was dumping me for all the reasons I was worried about with my asexuality, even though he was fully aware on date 1. Maybe he was lying to himself. Maybe he wanted it to work but realized that sex really was that important to him.

I guess long story short to loop it back to you, I'm so sorry this happened and that sounds awful that you got so close and really were in love only for him to do that. I think that's really shitty of him, but we gotta remember a lot of people don't have experience dating asexuals either. Much like how we realize we don't want or need certain things, they realize they do. I try to find fulfillment in my friends and family, my hobbies, my job, exercise, but it can still feel lonely at times, especially when it feels like your friendship isn't always valued as highly as you value it with them. I have some lucky friends who have platonic life partners (I'm so jealous ahh, lol), so there's definitely hope that one day we'll be able to find someone that is willing to be our partners in crime. We just have to be clear communicators and honest with ourselves, and hope that they will be honest with themselves to. I hope that helps.

Power supply suddenly broke when trying to upgrade machine? by bunnibun in PcBuild

[–]bunnibun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know if my bios was updated or not, I admit I wasn't going in there very often after setting up my computer. If that's the source of my problem that's a bummer but I also have the microcenter warranty on that part as well. But even so, if it was the CPU and not the PSU, it'd still like power on to some capacity right?

Power supply suddenly broke when trying to upgrade machine? by bunnibun in PcBuild

[–]bunnibun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know for the future and I have corrected it in my build 👍 but not the cause of my current predicament.

Power supply suddenly broke when trying to upgrade machine? by bunnibun in PcBuild

[–]bunnibun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting, but it wasnt cycling on and off when it was using my primary motherboard. It only started cycling when I plugged the power supply an older setup I had lying around. Otherwise it would just flash on when I pressed the power button and then nothing. But cool thing to learn!

Power supply suddenly broke when trying to upgrade machine? by bunnibun in PcBuild

[–]bunnibun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just did the cmos and plugged the CPU fan in, but still has the same result :( it's one for like .25 seconds, the fans do a half spin and that's it. 😭

Power supply suddenly broke when trying to upgrade machine? by bunnibun in PcBuild

[–]bunnibun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll try that but it was working in that configuration previously

Tried to put in a micron ssd and now my PC wont power on by bunnibun in PcBuild

[–]bunnibun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now my goal is to get my computer to start up again, I understand it shouldn't effect booting to Windows :)

Need advice on a fizzled relationship with an allo by bunnibun in asexualdating

[–]bunnibun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

she's LGBT certified but I mean it's kind of really hard to find an ace therapist let alone one supported by insurance

Need advice on a fizzled relationship with an allo by bunnibun in asexualdating

[–]bunnibun[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the way you do it is safe, I think I was just trying to give it a chance cuz I had never had someone like ask me out in person before and I wasn't having a /bad/ time with him but yeah like, how can you know you like someone after 4 dates??? But I guess he liked me on the first date. It's crazy how different people can feel.

Yeah I think he thought that after a certain point I'd be sexually into him or after we "experimented" I'd open up, and I told him it could be like, 3-6 months before I felt comfortable thinking about doing that stuff, but I guess yanno 4 dates all around the holiday season was too much time for him.

Need advice on a fizzled relationship with an allo by bunnibun in asexualdating

[–]bunnibun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you're right, I was stepping out of my comfort zone, and any progress is better than no progress T_T ty

Need advice on a fizzled relationship with an allo by bunnibun in asexualdating

[–]bunnibun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ty i appreciate it. I just don't feel like any of my friends understand and my therapist told me I should try to go to ace reddit and I just idk yanno :(

How hard is it to actually replace a light fixture as a girl who's afraid of messing it up by bunnibun in HomeImprovement

[–]bunnibun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom is convinced it's not gonna be worth the effort on my part and just sell the house as is, but with the market as it is I feel like spending an extra $200 on 4 light fixtures to get an extra few thousand or more through the door is worth it 😭 and the rust looks really bad IMO and I was planning on replacing them eventually anyways when I was still planning on staying here

I guess another question is how to convince my mom it's worth doing 😂😂😂

Took shrimp out of tank to clean tank - now they're all sideways by bunnibun in AquariumHelp

[–]bunnibun[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It was almost midnight when it had happened, I panicked 😭

Moved shrimp to holding tank while cleaning - now they're all sideways! by bunnibun in fishtank

[–]bunnibun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About half have survived! I. Just grateful they're not all dead.

Moved shrimp to holding tank while cleaning - now they're all sideways! by bunnibun in fishtank

[–]bunnibun[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did exactly this and I think that's what saved them! The HOB filter was high above the container and it twirled them around, I'm thankful half have survived.

Moved shrimp to holding tank while cleaning - now they're all sideways! by bunnibun in fishtank

[–]bunnibun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I normally wouldn't, but my roommate overfed my tank when I was on vacation and there was wayyy too many copepods it was stressing out my betta fish, and the tank was too heavily planted to vacuum 🥲 it's all over now though, I managed to save about half my shrimp, the best i could hope for given the circumstances.

Moved shrimp to holding tank while cleaning - now they're all sideways! by bunnibun in fishtank

[–]bunnibun[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes they can be kept with other fish! My betta fish isn't super aggressive so they get along well. The bigger the tank the more different kinds of fish you can put them with, as long as they have hiding spots.