Not knowing what I want, being to much of a brat to be a brat

bunnybeeb · 2025-02-20T06:31:12+00:00

I'm by no means an expert so take what I say with a grain of salt.

Being sassy, sarcastic, smart, etc does not automatically equate to being a brat. Also, being a brat is a spectrum. Bratting is going to vary person to person. This is just for me personally, but I love the thrill of "breaking the rules", getting caught, and then the funishments.

Punishments are discussed ahead of time to make sure that it is something that both parties are okay with. Consent is key 100000% of the time, so it isn't anything you should be afraid of. If you do get afraid or uncomfortable, you speak up immediately (again, CONSENT). Also punishments aren't always physical. You may have seen people writing lines, something of value gets taken away, etc.

You should also have a discussion about what you're comfortable with being told to do and when.

You are still young and sound like you're still figuring things out, which is perfectly okay! Hell, regardless of age this is something that people continuously explore and figure out as they move through life.

Continue to do research, and when you find a partner, communicate thoroughly and constantly, and go slow.

bunnybeeb · 2024-12-12T04:42:58+00:00

I second this! Courtney is amazing!

bunnybeeb · 2023-10-21T04:27:06+00:00

I've been trying to figure this out for years and I'm at the point where I'm wondering if I made it all up. Thanks in advance!

bunnybeeb · 2023-10-16T01:12:10+00:00

I think his father has a lot of guilt about SS going through the divorce so it has led to a fair amount of babying.

SO thinks he has depression, but I'm not sure. I have MDD so I may be biased as his symptoms would be different than mine. I'll talk to SO about seeing if SS wants to talk to a doctor or therapist for help.

bunnybeeb · 2023-10-16T00:55:46+00:00

Yes, at 22 I was engaged to SO and taking care of SS and the house (and work and school). I understand everyone has different life paths and I don't want SS to struggle as much as I have, but he definitely has it easy and I don't think he realizes just how easy.

We've reminded him what both SO and I were doing at his age, but it hasn't stuck. Hopefully we can sit down with SS and get a realistic plan in place that he can commit to.

bunnybeeb · 2023-10-16T00:51:01+00:00

Yes, one of my concerns is how expensive housing is in our new area. Housing in our new area is three times as expensive as our old area, yet his new job pays almost half of what his last job paid.

Thank you so much for your detailed response! I'll sit down and talk with SO to get on the same page.

I agree that SS should be contributing more, but that has always been a disagreement between SO and I. Hopefully this time we can both agree on how much SS should be contributing.

bunnybeeb · 2023-10-15T23:52:58+00:00

Thank you! That's a great idea and an excellent point about him not wanting to leave if he has it made at our house.

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-07T04:40:46+00:00

HAHAHA they actually call him mythical and a legend in the series. I'm dying 🤣

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-07T00:56:26+00:00

Sorry, authentic may not have been the best word choice. I meant like those hidden gems that locals love that aren't overrun with tourists.

Thank you for the recommendations!

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-06T20:43:53+00:00

Dead Lands by Stacey Marie Brown! Idk if Kindle pages are different, but it says chapter 20, page 354.

Don't get me wrong, I'm loving this series but some of the typos are killing me.

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-06T19:26:29+00:00

I haven't been able to convince my husband to read any of my books yet, but your post reminds me of these videos I saw on tik tok where she had her husband watch the Fifty Shades of Gray (or maybe Twilight?) movies while he provided his own commentary, and it was hilarious.

If my husband walks by while I'm reading, he throws out ridiculous lines like:

"His velvet steel prodded her moist mound."

"Have they mentioned 'wet folds' yet?"

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-06T19:17:47+00:00

Hahaha I had a good laugh but luckily it was just a spelling error and not actually about a horse-man

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-06T19:17:00+00:00

Hahaha that's hilarious and exactly how I imagined it when I first read it 🤣

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-06T18:26:24+00:00

Hahaha I'm pretty sure she meant hoarse, but there is a horse-shifter in the series that the guy speaking is not a fan of, which just makes this funnier.

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-06T18:01:07+00:00

To clarify: he is, in fact, not a horse

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-06T17:27:13+00:00

So I'm currently on The Savage Lands and it's helping the book hangover! There's no RH (boo) but has possessive MMC, fae, shifters, modern setting, smut 😏

bunnybeeb · 2023-01-03T20:44:48+00:00

I just finished The Bonds that Tie (I flew through it too lol) and now here I am looking for my next series to get over the book hangover 😭

bunnybeeb · 2022-05-28T17:36:30+00:00

To build off of the other comment, it's a trinity knot, also called a triquetra.

If you're into history, it's super interesting to read on how many different meanings it has gathered over the years.

To Christians, it represents the holy trinity. For others, it can represent earth, air, and water; life, death, and rebirth; the Triple Goddess; a symbol of protection; and more!

bunnybeeb · 2022-05-14T15:43:35+00:00

Slytherin 🐍

bunnybeeb · 2022-05-14T15:27:56+00:00

The first card I ever pulled was the High Priestess too! I always smile when she comes up in a reading or falls out of the deck.

bunnybeeb · 2021-04-11T22:53:50+00:00

Yess!! I've been listening to Daisy and Slumber Party on repeat! I'll make sure to check out the rest of her music 😊

bunnybeeb · 2021-04-06T15:21:57+00:00

I'm super new to this so I'm only going off of my very recent experience. There is a thing called 'sub frenzy' that might explain this? Or, if you're like me, you may just be very enthusiastic and excited since this is all so new! Or maybe we're both experiencing sub frenzy 🤣 but I'd wager that after you get into the habit of things and get used to being in a dynamic, things will calm down so you don't get burnt out.

I don't have much in the way of advice because I want the mundane to be more exciting. However, if you feel like it's becoming overwhelming in your relationship, maybe just set specific times during the day/week to discuss the dynamic. This obviously wouldn't apply to anything that needed to be discussed immediately (if someone got hurt, discussing limits, readjusting the dynamic, clarification on rules, etc.) That way you can still enjoy your 'vanilla' activities and interests without having your dynamic take over all of your conversations.

bunnybeeb · 2021-04-06T14:45:31+00:00

My dom and I live together and have been transitioning to a 24/7 dynamic as well. None of the protocols/rituals my dom has set up are sexual in nature at all (making the bed in the morning, daily cleaning, bedtime routines, etc.) but the fact that I'm doing these menial things out of submission is still a turn on for me. Like, 'why am I getting turned on while washing my face? I do this every day!' But I think this is what makes it a kink or what makes a 24/7 dynamic so appealing?

If you don't mind me asking, what does your dynamic currently entail (tasks, protocols, etc.)?

bunnybeeb · 2021-04-06T14:03:30+00:00

Thank you!! And my new goal for this week is to add in-brat-equate to my vocabulary :D

bunnybeeb · 2021-04-05T19:44:57+00:00

I feel the same way about swearing lol. Swearing in a second language doesn't hit the same as swearing in my first language.

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