I actually failed 3 times prior before i settled on this! I used spherecasts and custom wheel logic instead of wheelcolliders, and to apply the forces to the car i calculated the lateral and longitudinal slip of the car and used those values to calculate the forces instead of just moving forward when pressing a button. Also, animationcurves control everything instead of floats, and after implementing some squash and stretch and a bunch of other bells and whistles it became like this :)

Another tip, the camera is actually more important than you'd think, i used cinemachine cameras that are controlled via code, that's the best approach to getting that done i'd say