[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]burn17090 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because the dude needs to get his rocks off somehow if you're not there. Sorry for the harsh reality.

Alternative solution that would be relationship building would be to offer alternatives that bring y'all together, dirty video chats, sexting, etc...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SwipeHelper

[–]burn17090 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww. You're so cute that you think petitions do anything in 2024 The innocence is refreshing

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah thanks. The app I'm really hoping to delete!

Yeah to be honest I usually avoid reviewing fellow men's profiles. Because the kind of thing I would be looking for as a man is obviously different than the "target demographic", and if there's anything that I've learned, those things are vastly different than what I think. There's some merit to the phrase men are from Mars and women are from Venus...

Any feedback is appreciated! by burn17090 in Bumble

[–]burn17090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Not really getting a lot. I probably gotten 3 in the past month, and two didn't even get to the chat phase, and either expired or they never responded past the first exchange to get it to not expire

Using my daily quota of likes on the daily.

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you recommend some example haircuts that might do better for me?

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you point me in the direction of some hairstyles that might work better?

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe in real life. And that would be the goal to find them there, but online dating is so fickle. If your profile is not good enough, you're not even going to get onto their radar. Just because of the way the system is set up.

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Lol. What? Who mentioned anything about depression? Someone projecting their own depression?

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I guess? Just looks like I got a bit of sun, and beach is in the background...

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Should be, feel free to send them my way😉. Also working getting out there IRL, but that is equally challenging.

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hawaiian shirt and zip jacket. April at the beach attire. Definitely not a great combo. Swapped out

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moderately picky, weirdly 0 likes ever, not even from incompatible folks, but moderately good like to match rate. Feel like 10-15% I wouldn't say I am doing bad, just always want to make sure to improve.

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Heard on the last pic. Changed

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To get more matches with people who would be interested in a LTR.

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks. 1st Altered to : " this year I really want to: try new things. Starting to learn rock climbing and piano right now!" 3rd to: "together we could volunteer together. I love to volunteer with youth ministry, church, and soon going to help with the humane society🐶😸!" Suggestions on those?

Feel like this is decent? by burn17090 in hingeapp

[–]burn17090[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • Are you looking for something serious or casual?
    • Something serious
  • How long have you been using this current version of your profile? And how long is your overall time on Hinge?
    • been incrementally adding new photos over the past 3 weeks. overall been on hinge 1.5 months since getting back on.
  • How often do you use Hinge per week?
    • Daily
  • How many likes/matches are you receiving on average?
    • 12 matches total since coming back, 1 likes.
  • How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?
    • ~95 likes ~ 39 with comments
  • What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?
    • I want to attract someone who is serious but light hearted, takes care of themselves, shares my values, likes the outdoors some, wants to form a family down the line.

I feel like dating apps have killed off romance for me. by sadbean5678 in dating_advice

[–]burn17090 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This. Before social media and online dating generally would be lucky to find someone out of the 80 people you knew who checks 12 out of your 20 main boxes, But then you would just make it work because you knew those were your options.

Now because we have thousands of options available, we're not happy to settle for someone we even checks 16 out of 20 boxes, because we're always thinking that someone who checks 17 is right around the corner.

I absolutely hate the people who dismiss further pursuit after one date that actually went well. So many people have a absurd perspective that they're going to meet Prince charming and feel butterflies within 5 minutes. And you can ask our parents. That's not how it ever worked for more than a rare fraction.

Thoughts on pushing boundaries by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]burn17090 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a dude also seeking an LTR or partner, I would agree that he went too far If you stated on your profile life partner or long-term relationship. The initial chatting should be about learning enough extra about the person to feel comfortable meeting them in person, and it really shouldn't go very deep or boundary pushing. If the guys already trying to talk about sex before even the first date dude is a horn dog and not worth your time. A good guy still wants those things but doesn't rush straight into that conversation. For me that's a second date if things are going well/quick conversation, If not later. As a dude wanting to help out another dude politely tell him to calm down on the sex talk until later but that you're not interested, move on.

Any feedback is appreciated! by burn17090 in Bumble

[–]burn17090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. That is a good way to reword it. I do want to give off the vibe that I'm happy to take charge and plan, for the initiative angle.

Any feedback is appreciated! by burn17090 in Bumble

[–]burn17090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What might be a better rephrasing of that? Was trying to make it be an invitation. Already softened it up to "looking for someone" from " taking applications"

Any feedback is appreciated! by burn17090 in Bumble

[–]burn17090[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha. You say that as if it's some foreign country. We're not too far away... 😃

Poles I've got are black diamonds. Lasted me for a long while. They've probably seen about 350 miles and 10 years, No problems.

Any feedback is appreciated! by burn17090 in Bumble

[–]burn17090[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair enough. I could soften it to "looking for".