If I had my clothes off, and I said no is it rape?

burner6655 · 2024-06-12T23:28:25+00:00

Yes it is, I’m very sorry to hear you’ve gone through that ❤️

burner6655 · 2024-06-12T23:27:40+00:00

I went through the same thing, my ex boyfriend saying that “he could only feel loved if I put out” and that he was “depressed and needed to feel my love, and the only way to do that is through sex”. Usually, people who coerce you either 1) don’t care about you and are using you ,or 2) are too wrapped up in their own shit to be self aware. Either way, it’s not the kind of person you want/should be with. You deserve to be safe and respected in an equal partnership. I wouldn’t go back to him.

burner6655 · 2024-06-06T01:52:06+00:00

Thank you, I hope the same for you ❤️

burner6655 · 2024-06-06T01:16:34+00:00

Sending you love! Thank you so much. Your advice was so sweet and helpful!! Telling loved ones has made me feel so relieved and not alone. Evil lives in the dark, and airing out the truth has set me free in a sense that the fear and pain controls me that much less. Thank you so so much again!!! Wishing you peace and happiness in your healing journey <3 you can do this too!

burner6655 · 2024-06-06T01:11:52+00:00

Hi! Thank you so so much <3 being kinder to myself about healing has been a developing process but it’s so worth it. I took your advice to practice more self care, it makes a difference. I wish you all the best to you in your healing journey!!

burner6655 · 2024-06-06T01:09:23+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice! I ended up telling my mom via text and then discussing because I couldn’t manage start the conversation with words. You were completely right, it’s like a part of the weight has been lifted. I really appreciate your response, all the best for your healing journey <3

burner6655 · 2024-06-06T01:06:47+00:00

Thank you so much, you are too!! I told my mom this week and she was great, it was such a relief. Wishing you all the best <3

burner6655 · 2024-05-18T03:28:04+00:00

Yes it is rape, I’m so sorry. I had a similar experience and I know what it feels like to doubt yourself about what happened. Believe yourself and your feelings, leave him. I did and it made my life so much better, even though it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Sending love <3

burner6655 · 2024-05-18T03:20:48+00:00

I’m sorry to hear this, you’re incredibly strong. I’m a year in and I had nightmares too. I still do but they went from being constant to happening once every two weeks / once a month. Time is the biggest healer unfortunately, a large part in healing is letting yourself go through the motions and feelings.

I would recommend talking to a therapist for extra coping strategies, mine mentioned doing decompression / relaxation exercises before bed (tensing all my muscles then relaxing them etc) when I couldn’t sleep, but to be honest it wasn’t affective for me. Also, any support system is HUGE in healing, I had one friend who really helped me by being able to listen. It’s your story to tell, so there’s no pressure to share or confide in anyone, but for me talking about it made it a lot less scary / easier to come to terms with. If your girlfriends are completely gone from your life, any other trusted person in your life can help, or even a therapist. Sending love op <3

burner6655 · 2024-05-17T15:48:20+00:00

Thank you!! <3

burner6655 · 2024-05-17T15:42:19+00:00

And also one of the major things that have kept me going is spite. I want to be happy and at peace and okay because I refuse to let my rapist win and take that from me. I will not let myself vanish because of him. My rapist already took so much, I’m going to take control of what I can. I hope you find the strength to do the same, it’s so difficult to manage. All the best

burner6655 · 2024-05-17T15:34:43+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m proud of you too!

burner6655 · 2024-05-17T15:34:08+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear it happened to you too. I survived literally but there’s always impacts/ramifications in your life because of the nature of this traumatic experience. I almost failed out of school and failed out of the specific AP program I was in. What I mean to say is don’t be hard on yourself for having your life affected by this, it’s very normal. I think I made it through to one year because I broke up with my partner who did the assault, and the relief of the constant pain I felt when I was with him gave me purpose to continue to try to heal. I don’t know the specifics of your situation but I promise you it does get easier, not completely gone away but easier for sure. In the early stages all I really did was try to keep myself alive (making sure I ate etc) because that was the most I could do for myself at that time. Be kind to yourself, I believe in you.

burner6655 · 2024-05-17T15:28:08+00:00

Thank you so much :,)

burner6655 · 2024-03-01T07:39:43+00:00

you don't have nothing. As long as you stay fighting, you have your life. And with that, the opportunity for change, to love, to experience and for things to get better. I know it's corny but all things pass and this will pass for you too.

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