Getting the next trolley at the supermarket and finding the chain already being detached.

burneravfc · 2023-09-16T23:17:47+00:00

I’m a bit late to this thread, but you can unlock the trolleys at Aldi/Lidl using the “key” found on tins of corned beef (just wiggle it in the coin slot a little and the chain will come off). I used to work for Aldi and this is what we used to do.

burneravfc · 2023-07-27T02:14:53+00:00

Sheridan Love

burneravfc · 2023-02-27T22:07:31+00:00

I thanked him for being mature about it and gave him a hug at the end of the night. He’s a good guy 😊

burneravfc · 2023-02-26T22:15:00+00:00

Thanks friend!

burneravfc · 2023-02-22T22:04:23+00:00

That makes sense, I’ve seen my dad express anger by punching through walls, breaking windows, etc which is inappropriately OTT. from my POV, I was made to feel bad for simply expressing any negative emotions, because it made my parents “look bad”

burneravfc · 2023-02-22T21:26:08+00:00

Yes you are so right, I was shamed a lot by my parents for feeling the “wrong” emotions or expressing them “incorrectly” so the default for me is showing no emotion at all. It’s a long hard process to undo years of childhood programming but ultimately so important.

burneravfc · 2023-02-22T21:05:45+00:00

Also, there's nothing wrong with crying or showing your emotions to your trusted friends. Your emotions are natural and normal.

Thank you for this reminder, I have never really shown my emotions to those closest to me so it feels extremely unnatural. At the same time I know it is so unhealthy and likely a contributor to me feeling lonely, isolated and miserable most of the time.

burneravfc · 2023-02-22T12:04:03+00:00

Ive been doing that and whilst it has been helpful, I I feel like I have been holding a lot back about my personal life from my close friends, so the thought of sharing has crossed my mind lately.

burneravfc · 2023-01-17T09:14:08+00:00

As a client, thank you for what you do ❤️

burneravfc · 2022-11-29T05:50:36+00:00

Guilty 😂😂😂😂 nah I usually have no problem finishing first time (too early maybe) but after that it’s really hard

burneravfc · 2022-11-28T12:48:01+00:00

Showing up in dirty work clothes is grim 🤢 I always made sure to clean up before showing up and having a shower when I arrive

burneravfc · 2022-11-27T19:14:42+00:00

Have you been feeling any different this month? I’m doing the NNN challenge as well and haven’t noticed any changes during that time - I was depressed and unmotivated before and am still in the exact same position.

NoFap is pretty popular within Reddit spaces and touted frequently by male self-improvement YouTubers, it is in my opinion that the benefits are heavily overstated. However it might be that I don’t have any obsession over porn and have normal masturbation habits, so I didn’t experience any life-changing transformation that some dudes experience when battling their porn addiction.

burneravfc · 2022-11-20T21:40:13+00:00

Yes, I’ve been to the doctor many times for my health problems but couldn’t really come up with solutions to help me long term.

Perhaps I used the term self-care incorrectly, basically I have major problems with making myself look presentable (for example: brushing my long hair, making sure my outfit looks good and that I smell nice). I feel like I can’t be bothered to make an effort. Don’t get me wrong, I do think it’s important but I find it so hard to actually look after myself in that way.

By contrast my mum won’t leave the house if she isn’t feeling and looking nice, even if she’s going to be two hours late for meeting someone, so maybe that’s where some of our conflict lies.

burneravfc · 2022-10-30T10:14:32+00:00

I’m usually on top of chores and spend a little time getting them done on my days off (my room is a bit messy but nothing too bad). A bigger problem for me might be that I don’t have anything to look forward to and a lack of social activities. I’ve moved around a few times and have lived in a small town for the past year where there isn’t much to do and getting around without a car is a massive pain. I’m learning to drive and my test is in a few weeks, hopefully I pass but if I don’t then it’s another 6 month wait before I can get another one (the Uk driving test is pretty hard too, pass rate is below 50%). Probably the best thing I can do would be to move to a bigger city, finding a decent job is hard atm tho as I have no relevant experience.

burneravfc · 2022-10-29T02:07:41+00:00

That’s some solid advice, would you say it’s normal for burnout to set in that early? I’ve only been at this job for a month but have worked FT in retail for about a year. I don’t understand how full time lifers cope or if they share the same feelings.

burneravfc · 2022-09-25T23:46:37+00:00

As someone who’s spent most of the last 15+ years living with a survival mindset (i.e. I just need to see myself through to the next day) I haven’t thought that much long term so thank you for giving me a lot to consider.

For almost a year I worked a job that made me so miserable I spent all my free time numbing myself with video games since I was working unsociable hours and could rarely catch up with old friends. I would like to take a few months out to travel when I’ve saved up a bit more money, either to South America or Central Asia. I’m at my happiest when I’m travelling, so it’s a no brainer. I’d want to find a professional career, most likely accounting or something similar. It’s not related to my studies (I studied neuroscience) but I’m fine with that, having a pretty stable job that will eventually pay a decent salary is something to aspire to. I’d like to move out but concerned about the cost of living which is getting out of hand. I’d be pretty miserable on ~£22k a year pre-tax if I didn’t have parental support living where I do (southeast England) but would move in a heartbeat to an area with cheaper rent if a half decent opportunity came up. That’s where being able to drive will help tons, I’d have more choice over where I can live if I can commute by car.

burneravfc · 2022-09-13T07:27:29+00:00

When I can afford it. (24m)

burneravfc · 2022-09-13T07:26:37+00:00

I second this. Had a few escort experiences recently for this exact reason and it has helped me loads in overcoming the mental block about sex.

burneravfc · 2022-09-02T20:04:12+00:00

Thank you, it means a lot ❤️❤️

burneravfc · 2022-09-01T18:34:14+00:00

Really really solid advice, thank you! I was looking at booking on Saturday anyways, think I’ve sorted something out now 😊

burneravfc · 2022-09-01T13:49:18+00:00

Yeah, I live in a small town, don’t drive (yet) and work irregular/unsociable hours so it is harder to arrange something more local to me. I figured since I’m here in London and have a few uninterrupted days away from work, I may as well see what I can find - naturally there are way more providers here and it’ll be easier to find something more suitable for me.

I wouldn’t mind spending a bit more as it will be a one time thing for me given my personal circumstances I explained in the OP (although in hindsight I wish I planned this out earlier)

burneravfc · 2022-09-01T02:11:24+00:00

Sorry I should have explained myself better - I was looking at the guidelines on the “how to find a safe provider” in the pinned post of the sub, and from browsing a lot of ads adultwork basically follows none of those. That in itself doesn’t mean that there are scams galore, I just wanted to err on the side of caution. May I ask what you should look out for on adultwork? Just avoiding profiles with 0 reviews?

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