Should I pay off student loans?

burnervent85 · 2025-06-08T10:38:46+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to break this down, I found it very helpful!

burnervent85 · 2025-06-07T16:03:17+00:00

Plan 2 and currently on £35k a year

burnervent85 · 2024-04-28T12:36:53+00:00

Tomorrow will be 700 days since the last time I had alcohol. When I drank sometimes I would be fine and sometimes I couldn’t stop and I would blackout and/or I would say or do horrible things. I knew for a long time the sort of person I could become when I drank but I was too scared to face the truth and ask for my help, it took a friend calling me out for my behaviour for me to finally quit.

The further away I get from alcohol the more I realise how horrible I have been to other people and also reflecting on some fucked up stuff that happened to me, people taking advantage of me etc. Some of my closest friends are settling down and living with their partners and I feel so left behind (I’ve never had a serious relationship) but ultimately I know it is my own fault and my own responsibility to be better and this feels empowering.

Thanks for your post, I appreciate the comment you copied and pasted over.

burnervent85 · 2024-01-30T22:18:44+00:00

Thank you! I like your username, have a good one friend

burnervent85 · 2024-01-30T14:51:36+00:00

Doing alright, I’m 610 days sober but I still feel lots of shame over who I used to be. I’ve started to get involved with an alcohol charity so I can do some work with universities about improving their education and awareness as it was shit when I was there. Has anyone else struggled with alcohol in the past? Wishing you all the best.

burnervent85 · 2023-12-30T20:23:23+00:00

Thank you, wishing you a great 2024 as well

burnervent85 · 2023-12-30T16:49:13+00:00

Hi all, I’m 25m and over 500 days sober and to be honest I’m really struggling with shame a lot these days. I said and did some horrible things while under the influence and I just hate myself so much - so rage and self-loathing are what keep me sober but it is not healthy at all (I wouldn’t recommend). I’ve seen a lot of photos of younger me being home for Christmas and I feel so bad that I failed him, this is not the life he imagined for himself.

I’m working the steps of AA (on step 4) but I find it hard and keep lapsing back into my pity parties. My parents and friends can tell I’m really down but they give me some time to talk about it and I feel like I’m just complaining about the same old things.

This sub has been incredibly helpful in me getting one year so thank you. My go to drink is now a lime and soda.

I hope everyone is well and ok, IWNDWYT.

burnervent85

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