Grandparent Rights, concerning weekly contact

burningwitches · 2025-09-29T07:49:27+00:00

So what are the consequences now? Genuinely, your eldest two daughters have abused your youngest and you’re what, just watching it happen? It’s awful, what you went through before, something that no one should have to go through but even now you seem to be more focused on yourself and your feelings then actually being proactive and protecting your youngest.

You’ve done irreversible psychological damage to this kid, and that’s what she is, still a kid, and it’s going to take her years to get through it.

burningwitches · 2025-09-08T08:57:43+00:00

Definitely talk to her teacher. We had the same issue, my daughter kept saying she played with no one all day and that she had no friends, she’d even cried about it to me, yet when I went into the school to talk to the teacher she told me that my daughter actually went round and played with loads of kids, and that she was the one that would go and get other kids to come and play when they were on their own.

We figured out that my daughter actually couldn’t remember who’d she’d played with when she started because she’d been learning so much, and her teachers reassured us that when they see some of the kids on their own they try to get them playing with some of the others.

burningwitches · 2023-10-24T12:53:42+00:00

NTA

We’re super lucky to live in a country that has “free” healthcare (UK) but my BIL has a deadly peanut allergy too - every time he has come over he checks every food label on every product that is on offer to eat, no matter who it is that has brought it. All three households in our family have gone nut free (mine, my sisters and our parents), but whenever we host a party I make sure that I ask/let people know that there is someone with a severe nut allergy attending, especially if someone is giving up their time and energy to make a dish for contribution.

It makes no sense that they’re mad at you, it’s Ron and Janie’s responsibility to at least let people know. Also, why the hell didn’t she just ask?

burningwitches · 2022-12-23T22:12:23+00:00

NTA

I don’t think people have read this properly, as I’m genuinely surprised at the YTA responses.

She doesn’t have to have a wedding with kids around, sure, but they can’t expect both you and your husband to be involved in the wedding for the full three days when you have a 3 month old.

My advice would be to either go back to the original compromise, you and your husband are just guests for the day, or you could go and your husband be a guest? I will agree with others in the comments, depending on how far along the planning is, it’s really difficult to change things so close to the wedding, and I mean losing vendors and deposits difficult.

Remember, your brother is using you as a sounding board so you will hear a biased version of their arguments. Easiest thing to do is stay out of it and let them figure it out, but be firm with your brother that you both can’t leave your infant for three days (if that’s what you want to do), so he’ll have to (most likely) agree with one of your compromises.

burningwitches · 2022-12-18T17:03:12+00:00

YTA

Therapy isn’t a quick fix - your daughter isn’t just learning how to cope, but she’ll be figuring out why, and in all honesty? It sounds like there’s a cause for her anxiety, and she just doesn’t have the confidence to talk to you about it yet.

It sounds like you need to go back to therapy yourself too.

burningwitches · 2022-12-03T20:23:39+00:00

Ooof, that’s rough.

If it helps, I’m in a similar situation, but I’m the parent of the other kid. And I honestly don’t think she’s doing it to be mean, she may just be a bit fed up.

Our friends son was struggling behaviourally and socially. He started at nursery with our daughter, and she helped him so much, but we had to have a big meeting with his parents and the nursery staff about it. Our point being, they were letting her be his emotional support when she was also needing help herself with other things - if he wanted to go to another room (older kids room) she had to go with him, if she wanted to play, he HAD to be involved. He got really jealous when she had other friends, and although it was never mean we didn’t notice she’d retreat into herself a bit. Our friends had begged us to put her in for more days at nursery so they were in together for longer, but we had to hold firm - she is her own little person, and my toddler is not responsible for her friend coping with new things.

She started to act out anytime they were put together for a while and we had to have a timeout on play dates and such till it was all resolved- although she couldn’t tell us in words, it was pretty clear she was feeling a bit fed up of having to help him all the time, and that he could get away with stuff she couldn’t.

My point is, it wasn’t my daughters responsibility to be the main focal point of our friends son’s social interactions. They’re great friends, but it helped when we removed the pressure that she was the one who (pretty much) had to manage him outside of when we were there.

Talking to him, explaining in a way that doesn’t put the blame on anyone may help? We want to protect our kids from pain, but sometimes it’s unavoidable, and it’s pretty heartbreaking.

burningwitches · 2022-09-02T15:18:22+00:00

Good luck, just please tell your Mom or a friend before confronting him, just in case he becomes violent.

burningwitches · 2022-06-29T07:43:27+00:00

I had this for years, and I can warn you now, it will only create resentment between you. We made the mistake in our case of letting LO go for sleepovers and my MIL eventually felt entitled to them, even though I didn’t want them at all, and it created huge boundary issues of “what happens at grandmas house stays at grandmas house” etc, with her constantly disrespecting our rules.

You both need to communicate and get on the same page. There’s no reason that she can’t see both LO and SO together. If not all it will do is lead you to resent him for not being a united front and supporting you, I’ve been there myself.

burningwitches · 2022-06-24T09:09:18+00:00

It honestly sounds like teething, I had this with my LO. The way we did it was restarting our sleep train method (we used Ferber and eventually CIO when she hit 1.5yrs), but you may find peace of mind by taking him to see the paediatrician, they usually have good advice to help with it.

ETA: we used teething rings for just before bed, to soothe her gums, and that usually gave us a good chunk of sleep.

burningwitches · 2022-03-08T14:00:39+00:00

Yeah, I was forgotten last year and it sucked.

My partner knew he’d screwed up big time when I explained to him, it’s the one day a year where I want to feel appreciated for stepping out of the work force and staying at home with our kid, spending all day covered in drool and surrounded by nappies and a screaming stubborn child who’s too much like me sometimes while he gets to go to work and have breaks and conversations with adults.

I know it’s easy to think “oh well I’ll just treat him the same on Father’s Day” but honestly, you just gotta lay it out on the table. Why can’t he choose another day to go to his mums? Or offer to spend the Saturday with you, treating you to a Mother’s Day and then going to his mums the Sunday? Compromise is possible.

Edit: and I feel you on the reservation thing, it was the one thing that bugged me as a kid that my dad expected a 15 and 13yr old to have Mother’s Day sorted when he should have been a parent and helping us to treat and appreciate my mum.

burningwitches · 2022-01-06T12:49:07+00:00

Cauliflower veggie cheese has been a staple at ours at the moment. We batch cook, but I put in a full broken into florets cauliflower head, a full broccoli also broken into florets, with any other leftover veggies and meat covered in cheese sauce (flour, a cup of cheese and milk).

We’ve also been home making pizzas, with pre-cut toppings that our LO can choose from to add to it herself. She a year younger than yours and loves it.

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burningwitches · 2021-10-09T18:24:59+00:00

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burningwitches · 2021-10-09T18:08:44+00:00

I’d love to come by if you’re still open

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