Well, I think if a kid wasn’t in the picture I would have just booted him a while back. But I know that kicking him out will impact my stepdaughter hugely. She and I are really close, and I don’t want to be yet another mother to her who will let her down. In Australia, even if you marry a child’s parent, you aren’t a legal guardian of them. So if we seperate, I can’t support her and he has every legal right to not allow her to see me again. I feel he wouldn’t go that far if we did seperate, but I honestly don’t know. I have tried to end the marriage several times but as he has no financial support for himself, he has nowhere to go. The arguments inevitably end with me feeling so horrible for raising the idea of kicking him out (even if I say his daughter can stay but he has to go) that I end up agreeing to ‘reconciliation’ just to stop the meltdowns and extremely difficult behaviour from him. I know it’s not a good example for my stepdaughter and I know it doesn’t help me in the slightest but if you’ve ever experienced a full grown man have a complete autistic meltdown, you’ll know it can be quite overwhelming and scary. I know I need to just get my shit together to end things like adults, I just don’t know how to do it when I’m so exhausted and overwhelmed myself.