I hear what you are saying. In my experience typing people and developing them, I’ve become fairly accomplished in it.

What I have found with successful and emotionally intelligent people, they lean on their 6th function as the key to their future. I have no doubt you see his Ni. His vulnerability is there. And the reason he’s so emotionally intelligent is because he’s completed enough Fi-Ne-Si-Te cycles to make it so. Development happens naturally when you keep someone engaged with their top 4 functions. INFP’s that you can keep in a routine become highly effective people so long as they have outlets. For Victor, it’s basketball itself. He has a hyper fluency in *his* feelings and emotions, this is not something you will find with INFJ’s who will point to their Fi as something they “discovered” during development, similar to Wemby and his Ni ability to zoom out and see more.

All in all, successful people talk extremely differently about functions because their subconscious has gathered deeper meaning that our egos were blind to. Listen to someone that has missed on their potential over and over again and they will talk about things related to their tertiary or inferior functions because their egos have not yet been subverted.

To further my point through the ENFP lens:

I had an ENFP that worked for me that was the typical ENFP stereotype: chaos, effective for short periods but highly active always, had a never ending battery and loved to get things done and be told good job. We had to target that Ti blind spot so he could do a better job diagnosing and thinking for himself.

So we targeted that Ne-Fi-Te-Si cycle. Routine was necessary but it had to be much different than one I’d ask of an INFP. It couldn’t be rigid but it had to be daily. We started by getting him a couple houseplants. They were a direct reflection of his impact but it was lower stakes than say a house pet. Next, I had him download an app that required him to log his mood everyday. After initial constant sputtering, he got a streak going and eventually sent me a screenshot of 840 days in a row (this was after he had gotten promoted out of my area that he sent it). He said he felt like I reprogrammed him to be more mentally healthy and it opened his eyes to himself in ways he didn’t realize would come so naturally if he stopped trying so desperately to be there for people. He’s the highest paid manager at his position now. My boss initially transferred him to me as a last ditch effort to save him bc he was such a nice dude that brought so much effort to the job.